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50 Tokyo, Japan Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 39-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

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Asian, Pacific Islander, White, Other
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently), C++ (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I carried a panama hat all over the world for 12 months even though I probably only wore it 6 times. Actually I lost it twice. The one in my pictures is the 3rd one bought in Venice (Italy not LA). #2 was bought in Singapore. #1 in Berkeley. Maybe #4 will be bought in Panama or Ecuador?

I'm a geek. I like geeky things. I geek out on my computer. I make stuff on it. I'd like to make more stuff off of it as well. Any ideas? I like science and sci-fi. I listen to Radiolab, This American Life, and Intelligence Squared, both the US and UK versions. I also listen to Hardcore History where the guy sounds like a sports fan but about history. He makes it so exciting.

I like going out and eating out and dancing out (though I can't dance for reals ... yet) and singing out. While I was back in the US had been trying to ride my bike more often. Road it 12 to 20 miles from Venice to Pacific Palisades or down to Manhattan Beach a couple of times a week. Such a great place to ride bikes.

So far this year it's been LA->SF->Tokyo->Kyoto->Tokyo->Singapore->Tokyo->Kyoto->Berlin->Brussels->London->Paris->Barcelona->Istanbul->Kyoto->Tokyo.

Not sure where after that. I really want to stop.

I'm not looking for a fling so just friends to start and see if there's enough chemistry to become something long term
What I’m doing with my life
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Have you ever considered what you could do with your savings? You know, that money you're saving for a downpayment on something. How long could you live off it without a job? How many places you could visit? Maybe you could live somewhere for 3-6 months you always wanted to live. Maybe you could go back to school to study something you've been putting off. Maybe you could finally spend the time working on that thing you've always wanted to work on that just might start a new direction for you.

I quit my job ~24 months ago when a friend asked me why I was staying at a job I found frustrating. That made me realize she had a point. I had no reason to be at that job. I had plenty of savings. I could leave and unless there's a big change in the job landscape I don't think I'd have a problem finding another job (and in fact just a few weeks ago my old boss tried to re-hire me)

And so here I am, anchorless. It's a strange feeling. Most people have some reason to stay in one place. Family, kids, job are probably the most common reasons. Well, my family is in 3 different states. No kids .. yet? Job .. see above.

Ideally I'd like to find a place I "belong", a person to belong to, and an activity that really sets me on fire.

I landed in California in July 2014 which is where I'm from. I got sucked into an artist in residence roll at the UCLA. I made some tech they are interested in using for projects and for their classes and so they asked me to come hangout. After that I was in SF for 3 weeks and well, you can see the list above. I'm in Tokyo right watching okama burlesque and meeting up with friends.

I previously worked at the big G for 5 years and before that made video games for like forever. First game I made was Centipede for C64. I've made games for NES (ファミコンゲームも制作したことある)Yea, I'm old skool! I've also made PS3/XBox360 games fer the youngins' :P

I'm trying to decide if I should do more traveling next or plant roots here or what. I have the $ to do it for quite a while longer but I'd much rather have reasons to be somewhere then have no reason to be anywhere. Maybe you could be one of those reasons.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Speling and prefect grammers. Playing with dogs and sneezing around cats. Dressing like a player but not actually being one. Actually I usually dress down...ish

The first things people usually notice about me
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My giant smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: LOVE EM! There's something though where it feels like there hasn't been a truly amazing movie in a long long time. I don't know if that's from growing up or what. Back in the 80s and early 90s movies like T2, Aliens, maybe Jurassic Park, where amazing. But since like say The Matrix it's hard to think of any movies that really changed the world. Are there any that stick out for you? A few I liked in the last 14 years. I liked Lord of the Rings when I first saw it. It's faded though. Loved Sin City. Loved 300. There's a few other highlights in there somewhere, Primer? Or maybe guilty pleasures like Planet Terror, Death Race (old and new actually), Kill Bill, Rebellion. What are you favorites? I'd love to discuss them.

Shows: Assuming that means TV I don't watch a whole lot of TV. One day in like 2007 I had cable. About 11am I thought "I'll watch like 30 minutes and then go out". Next time I checked the time it was 6pm. I immediately cancelled my cable and haven't had it since. No Netflix for the same reason. That said I have watched a few shows recently. GoT, Walking Dead, Breaking Bad. I can't actually say I'm a fan of any of them though. I mostly just like hanging out with friends. Favorite shows of all time though would include The West Wing and One Piece (11 years and still going strong)

Music: My favorite songs in the last 9 months. "Birthday" by Katy Perry, "Slolove" by Janet Jackson, "Livin My Love" by Steve Aoki, "Clap" by Wolfgang Gartner, "I Wanna Be Evil" by Eartha Kitt, "New Kind of Kick" by The Cramps. Please give me some recommendations. Rhapsody, Pandora, Spotify, iTunes Radio,, are all failing me. I like mostly everything more or less. I've got lots of Big Band / Swing music. Old Vocals like Sinatra or Tom Jones. Lots of Trip Hop and music that's harder to classify like the Supreme Beings of Leisure, Bitter:Sweet, Cibo Matto, Caro Emerald.

Food: I consider myself somewhat of a foodie. Trying to suppress the snob in me since the better food I eat the more disappointing it is to eat mediocre food ;) If I could I would probably try a new place every day. There's so many to pick from. Would also love to cook more. I used to cook every Wednesday for friends but that stopped after I moved to Japan. Would love to take more lessons. Would you? Have you heard about hipster toast? If you had to make some what would be on it?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My woobie
My lucky orange shirt
My camera strap
My keychain
My power supply
My backpack
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why I find it so hard to meet someone.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
ask me out on a Friday and you'll know
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If you google my account name you'll find out too much about me. My travel pics at flickr, my blogs, my open source work (because you know the most sexy thing about a man is how much code he writes!). You'll probably also find my Facebook but it's all for friends only and no I won't friend you unless we've actually met.

The other private thing I'm willing to tell you is that I rarely RARELY write any women on any dating site. I have no idea why. If I was to guess it's because 39 times out of 40 I think I'm probably not the guy you're looking for. If your profile says you want a fit guy or an athletic guy or guy that watches his health well that's not me. I'm not fat nor unhealthy and I try to get some exercise but I'm far from religious about it. I'm happy to have a salad but I'd much rather have lechon kawali or a laulau and poi than anything vegan.

I generally fall for women who are cute to me, fun, and a little more outgoing/aggressive than me such that I feel comfortable quickly.
You should message me if
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You know that MSG doesn't cause headaches, that dihydrogen oxide is good for you, that gluten is not dangerous, that the myers-briggs test is a scam, you're not religious, you have more than "like travel, food, laughing" in your profile, if dogs make you happy, if laughing kids make you smile, if you're amazed at how this great big universe works, if new tech excites you, if being inside can be just as fun as being outside, if you like working on personal projects, if you see computers as enablers of millions of activities and not as an activity in and of themselves, and if you play a video game once in a while.