Although I have previously written entirely too much about
1. what I had first thought was actually important for someone to have been able to have considered in determining

2.whether I was serious about taking the responsibility to make another person's investment of their time in

3.discovering whether I might become someone to sit up and take notice to consider

4. whether I might just be the one to thereafter come to enjoy having as your very bestest friend and life long companion,

5. after having discovered the following missive about what all is really the best distillation I've ever yet read regarding what I believe remains the closest and dearest to my own heart found in these matters,

6. I honestly believe that in my lifetime, I have never previously read discovering anything so profound, as deliciously complex or as directly so best summarizing damned near everything that I have ever learned to have adopted and believed is so directly on-point important in describing what remains to be prioritized as singularly necessary to have to exist being found between myself and someone I would love unconditionally,

7. in the lifetime process being enjoyed while discovering the respect and love to be found for another than what was so described in this piece as follows:

“The Invitation:
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”
It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like
the company you keep in the empty moments.
copyright © 1999 by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

Anything else I could possibly add to the above is just surplussage, but with that admission freely first given, here goes what I would also additionally want to share with anyone seriously considering what might be found to remain of my better qualities and merits:

I was shared with the delightful privilege of having taken a "True Colors" personality test whose result described me better than I initially had ever previously ever even known my own self, good, bad and fugly summarized as follows:

A “Green” person will typically embrace adopting the following personality characteristics:

Believes in logic over emotion, in new ideas over standard operating procedures.
Workspace is littered with research books, computers and high-tech items - lots of projects are underway, and the focus is not on tidiness.
Dress is informal and utilitarian.
Manner is skeptical and intellectually challenging.
Strong needs to be competent in any endeavor they deem important.
Insatiable thirst for knowledge.
Has an astonishingly broad base of information, they usually know something about almost any subject.
Loves the mental challenge, will be restless once they’ve mastered the challenge or solved the problem, they want to move onto something else.
Opposition does not intimidate them.
Ability and interest to analyze everything.
Incredibly self-assured, confident and not easily influenced.
Not impressed by a title or authority; only impressed if person is competent at what they do.
Voicing their opinions and fighting for what they believe in comes naturally to them.
Their work gives much of their self-esteem, all work and no play.

Living as a Green:

When communicating I like to think before I speak.
My communication approach is often objective and strategic.
I tend to talk about theories, new ideas and future plans.
In communication I dislike looking stupid.
I tend to communicate to figure things out and solve problems.
When people watch or experience me in communicating, they would say that I tend to analyze and ask questions.

Interacting to improve communication and help brighten a Green:

Provide information when they request it instead of getting defensive.
Recognize the value and usefulness of their work.
Notice when they are being complimentary.Honor their privacy and allow them independence.
Demonstrate logic for rules.
Consider their ideas.
Understand their sense of humor.
Don’t try and force him to make you their priority.
Pay attention to what they need or want.

Strengths found in a Green personality:

Sees the larger bigger picture.
Sets and maintains high standards.
Challenged most when someone says it can’t be done or is impossible.
Focuses on mission of organization.
Builds conceptual frameworks or systems.
Examines consequences analytically and impersonally.
Intellectual strategist architect of change.
Conceptualizing and designing especially with regard to organizational change.
Can see the core of complex issues or problems.
Inordinate ability, interest and desire to absorb knowledge.

Personal value and belief systems typically held by a “Green” personality:

Ideas, logic, knowledge, independence, analysis, research, technology, innovation, clarity, data and information, intellectual achievement, time to think, systematic approach.

Personal needs typical to a “Green” personality:

Accuracy, timing, challenge, opportunity to ask questions, time to understand, truth and facts, information, intellectual stimulation, know-how, experience.

Stressers typical to a “Green” personality type person:

Blocks imposed on their ability to display intelligence.
Overly sensitive people.
No flexibility.
Being limited to standard curriculum.
People who don’t try and solve their own problems.
When they don’t understand or know something.
Incompetence, made to look incompetent.
Not sufficient time to gather enough data.
Unfairness.
Boredom and redundancy.
Lack of independence.
Rules that block progress.
Routine.Nothing new to look forward to.
Emotional outbursts.
Mistakes.
Ignored recommendations.

Characteristics of a highly stressed or faded “Green”:

Behaves indecisively.
Refuses to comply or cooperate.
Withdrawal, aloofness.
Putdowns and sarcastic remarks.
Refuses to communicate, the silent treatment.
Perfection tied to performance anxiety.
Highly critical toward self and others.
When disturbed becomes compulsive.

Stress relief techniques useful for a “Green” personality to achieve inner peace:

Balance your critiques.
Honor your independence.
Validate your interest.
Pay attention to your physical condition.
Prioritize.
Invite yourself to make mistakes.
Recognize you can only change yourself.
Reach out to others.
Read.

That all having been first said, (which now fully explains why I would have been so compulsive as to have had to have answered soooo many questions and taken soooo many of the available tests. . . ), on the more personal notes side of the coin, I would also want to share your knowing that:

I take pride in wanting to respect and fulfill what are to be found as the needs and desires of my partner, and have learned to now know that I too need to be needed by her for fulfillment of these same regards considering it an honor to be so wanted as well as simply just desired. I have not ever yet been a player, nor to I ever want to become one, and instead I have been searching to discover one who can emotionally as well as rationally desire wanting to be finding a commitment to become my best friend and valued co-partner in what intends to become a long term, if not in fact a lifetime relationship that hopefully will never end for the rest of our lives. I have become accustomed to loving having had thus far what could best be termed "a rustic rural lifestyle living", found in having been living on a 40 acre hobby farm found just outside of Madison, WI.

I love my 3 kids and my now three chocolate Labrador female dogs, and have particularly enjoyed having lived to have made a very tangibly significant difference in each of their lives such that if you are blessed to have had any family of your own, I would embrace earning their respect and affection no different than how I have successfully continued to have remained particularly significant with those of my very own. I would sure look forward in anticipating that you would love mine reciprocally as I would want you to want me to earn your respect in loving your own children as though they had been my very own.

I have enjoyed founding and operating multiple small businesses all of my life since I was 12 years old, I have made and lost several small fortunes, and would love to do it all over again with having the right partner with which to share all of the great fun with, as well as the risks and rewards to be gained from having cultured yet another enterprise undertaking having been yet again, well done. I believe I am worth making an investment in, and particularly savor what I anticipate would be the opportunities presented for me to reciprocate back to you my giving back long term dividends of unconditional love and understanding from my heart, soul and every molecule of my very being. I love problem solving and finding optimum solutions... Looking for someone who also appreciates the quality of life found uniquely in living a rural lifestyle, one who also loves animals and kids, and like me, has become considerably the wiser for now having lived a robust and wonderfully full complex life, such that you too have come to have an understanding that yours and my own life's "baggage" is exactly what makes each of us valuable now to the other, to be found worthy of having lived such a well self-examined life, as well as to be looking forward to becoming appreciated for having woven the fabric that has become the substance and positive force now grounding, as well as driving what is to become the future tomorrows of our present lives.

I am self- introspective, communicative, still vulnerable and capable of unconditionally loving when respected. I have not yet forgotten the exhilaration that remains possible only when operating without need to construct any preclusive emotional safety nets remaining between myself and the ones that I would want to love and be loved so enthusiastically and wholly reciprocally and unconditionally.

That I have experienced previously having literally had my heart ripped right out from under me several years ago, but nonetheless, I yet remained standing - I just don't give up or quit when others would certainly know better- I have a positive attitude that takes full responsibility for the failures of my past, so as to have long ago learned that each failure in my life has ultimately always turned into incredible opportunities upon my personal growth taken whilst healing, if only I continue to stay focused on rediscovering the excellence from my past adventures from which to continue to build upon in the next adventure of my journey in life to be hereinafter now taken. I see potential that others commonly miss, in love & in life.
Having now lived more than three years past having previously completed surviving from what was a year's long grieving process, I have since then now come into the phase of my present state of being where I am looking forward to the beginning of what is to become the next stage of my life.
Now looking forward with great anticipation as to what is to become in completing my next journey of existence after literally starting over in my personal life, as well as in now having all but completely healed without having become hardened, I have become ready to be now looking forward towards having a real partner with whom to share my next life with. I am actively looking forward to the next opportunity to apply all that I have thus far now learned about myself and as important, celebrate in better understanding much more of the privilege to be taken in enjoying all of the responsibilities I owe to another in reciprocity devoted to fulfilling their needs as they might take pride and pleasure in similarly maintaining their interest to be number 1 in remaining needed within the interdependency of my wishing you to look forward to be wanted to become my one and only in fulfilling mine.

I was told that intelligence is found in the ability of a person to be able to express and communicate what are their intimate thoughts and feelings to another person. . . I liked having heard that, because that ability is the best gift I would have to be able to remain fully engaged in offering myself in remaining vulnerable and an open book to anyone, my kids, my love or anyone else I share any community of interest in furthering finding additional meaning to be realized from life. Utilizing this proclivity, I find establishing intimacy sharing a life with someone I care deeply about to be an easy practice that I particularly enjoy taking the time, professing the keen interest and remaining engaged in the process to enhance bringing out the best of each of us to share with the other in leading and living what is possible in having made a priority to have lived a robust life.

I not only take great interest to love simply listening, but as important, I am and remain engaged in the conversation to actually be actively hearing what you intended to have wanted to have shared with me. I have learned to respect valuing such high compliments having been reciprocated through your commuicating with me being taken as a gift to be treasured and not taken lightly under any circumstance.

Of the moment, been into reads involving the importance of lithium for our future electric car production, the relationship of salmon, cod, tuna and such fish to our world's food needs, one about the development of Hershey and Mars chocolate companies, having followed up from past enjoyments taken of several relationship books, "His Needs/Her Needs" & "If you can feel, you can heal"; and The Four Agreements: each has been particularly insightful towards exploring the vast differences between men and women's thought processes, and how remarkably different each of our brains are wired between the two hemispheres - how vastly different we each approach thought processing to arrive at the same end point - found it to have been fascinating.

I like music where I can hear the vocalist singing, not being drown out by their band.

I am an omnivore, with a strong tilting to the healthy side of the platter. I've learned to really enjoy preparing meals for my family over the last year, although baked cinnimon rolls since I was 8 over my mother's dead body. . .cooking is little different than chemistry, just that you get to eat your experiments when they are done, good and bad alike. Really believe that sharing a good meal with a person is an excellent form of beginning communications, although my concept of foreplay involves just slightly deeper intimacy than is usually the case around meal preparation and cleanup, I have to confess that I've never minded becoming enthused over a great meal, warmed up while cleaning it all up afterwards, and then continuing what has been an excellent conversation over into an intimate evening of massaging complete digestion of the day's occurrences while relaxing into the contemplation of something similar happening to my mind and soul as a continuim of transitioning from where we left off having just endeavored to have nourished our bodies. Its all a life process, why not celebrate it in all of its respective colors!

Love, respect, communication, recreation, water and great company shared with the boundless unconditional love experienced, like it or not, as is invariably reflected no different than that existing between sharing a great labrador dog who just doesn't want to know or learn what could be the meaning of not wanting to not continue to always be sharing the pillows on the bed in their constant efforts made to be attempting to protest being removed from physically remaining between us.

Meaning of my life - how to maximize all of the potential of it, and how best to find someone worthy of investing my heart and soul with to remain committed to a lifetime relationship glued together by our love.

No such thing, other than finding myself searching for enlightenment through conversation, books or google to discover new experiences, new outlooks to continue discovering the mysteries that fascinate me of life.

I've enjoyed having had spectacular failures in my past, but embrace them for having always become a tremendous growth experience from which my future hits another whole level of enhanced opportunities that have come from out of the growth just experienced - painful when happening, but wouldn't have missed most of them for the world.

Grateful to have received permission from another on-line prospect woman to have confirmed that I will continue to love what I had so valued of what I had known about my ex, for the rest of my life, notwithstanding the past relationship is so, so finally done with and over, over, over, now having been healing from her betrayals going on more than 5 years ago. Having previously loved unconditionally and not regretting those past commitments has provided me now with the peace and freedom to continue to celebrate the good taken from out of my past, without feeling guilt for realizations gained that I have had to move on in my own personal growth and rediscovering what is to become of my new foundation for future happiness. The harmony derived from my finally having my thoughts, actions and deeds all synchronized now working together locks in my security of having become able to really feel good about being able to recognize that women I meet are as likely to similarly retain holding special feelings for valuing what was good about their past love in their lives, without either of us having to be looking over our shoulders wondering if they too have moved on, such that their past is not continuing to remain a boat anchor fixing them to the shore while their ship also needs to set sail on discovering what could become the voyage of the rest of their lives.

You would value having me want to reciprocate learning to love you, and your family if you have one, or your companion animals, as I would have wanted to have had you come to have felt about those of my own. If you do know how much better life is and can continue to grow when being shared with a peer rather than just doggin it alone, because it is not easier or simply just better to just live single to not be bothered having to deal with the meshing your freedom with making a new found commitment to another, then we have something in common and I'd really love to explore whether we have any sustaining additional chemistry further.

It would be soooooo refreshing for the dear reader to understand that I am positioned to be eager to contemplate the need for me to become the one moving to join up with my future life's partner, such that any present distance remaining betweenst us is only that, a temporary situation that can be easily corrected, should circumstance prove the need for me to relocate so as to respect the roots that you too have firmly planted within what you have come to have valued in your own community.

Thank you for having considered me for having any potential to be worthy of becoming your future closest bestest friend and unconditional lover..