Were your constructive criticisms at all accurate, I'd be genuinely grateful for the receipt of each one of them. The issue I take with your comments is only that I haven't worried at all about defining "normal", outside of just wishing that others here [ women ] were more willing to risk venturing outside of their usual snail shells so as to actually make a meaningful contact in response back to an expression of interest, not to ever much even dare to contemplate the holy grail of finding a woman who has the confidence to initiate first contact to express their desire to know more about my profile's offer of future friendship. All that I expected someone else to do for me is simply communicate! No more and certainly no less. It is kinda hard to just "love for the pleasure of loving" when you have to be able to first meet, and thereafter establish having at least an initial attraction of continuing interest, n'cest pas? I don't come to this opportunity with any "set in stone" preconceived expectations. I have yet to have even begun to have had the privilege to have stood in much, if any actual judgment of others, and remain rather perplexed that you would have somehow assumed jumping off the deep end that I have ever taken an interest to the degree required as to have ascertained the arrogance that "something was wrong with another", individually, when my missive was instead directed more at the collective "borg" of the entire body of bleeding hearts I have been previously matched with day after day, taking issue with no one individual having been singled out in particular. It did seem rather harsh that you would have so judged me re: my kids, much less to have presupposed that notwithstanding my best of good faith intentions, I would have any say whatsoever in persuading either the Courts, much less the ex to "remedy the situation" - much less to have continued further in your analysis that I have ever made the entirely false presumption that the legal process was ever designed, much less intended to have been at all fair in its proclivity to simply instead be a grist mill from which to churn out fully dispensed final judgments destroying families instead of more appropriately applying far less agressive resources having been directed to salvaging anything left to be valued instead of the usual summary disposal of all of the unwilling participants brought kicking and screaming before it regardless of what otherwise might have remained to the entire opposite of what is autonomically determined to have been in anyone's, much less the children's best interests. . . I remain totally lost to have any memory of where you may have acquired from me any complaint of there having been a vast conspiracy of other persons combining their efforts to be taken against me, much less that I have ever believed that anything in life has ever been so rosily presented as fair. . . my only lament was intended to have shared my frustration that I have witnessed entirely too many thousands of entirely excellent persons who for whatever reasons I have yet to have digested, much less at all understood, continue to remain single and unnecessarily alone in their lives for their not yet having figured out no different than myself how to make tomorrow's experience entirely different than was yesterday's such that for at least two more additional people than I've seemingly witnessed continue to remain month after month still searching to discover their Mr./Mrs. Right/Wrong or Indeterminate, so as to finally become engaged in the process of discovering whether or not the other just might eventually make for them an excellent bestest friend to have been found within the parameters of a committed long term initmate relationship. Thank you though for having made your suggestions, I only wish I had some more competent basis to have at least partially better understood them. Greg