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38 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 22
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), French (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a well-balanced, reflective, mostly untrendy guy who just happens to be knee deep in the Bay Area music scene. You may notice that I have a couple of pics of me playing music but none while writing scientific algorithms--I guess action photos of the latter are hard to come by.

I love conversations that take on a life on their own and I have a surprising dark streak once the laughs start rolling. But it's all in good fun!

I grew up very achievement-oriented but at some point became drawn to a different source. Maybe it's the old bones talking, but music as a means of group connection has been a common theme of late. As for dating, I'm hoping to find someone to share all of life's charms with, big and small, mundane and sublime....isn't that the greatest feeling in the world?
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to maintain balance between hacking supercomputers for biofuel research, running a contracting business and making music---dancing is my escape valve
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...making outlandish analogies that actually make sense. Hearing the perfect part. Not flaking. And I have a great sense of touch
The first things people usually notice about me
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From someone at gospel church: "You're the most soulful Asian musician I've ever heard"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Songs that saved my life: Radiohead, Joni Mitchell, Jim James, Miles Davis, Brad Mehldau, The Cure, The Smiths, The Jam, Schubert lieder, Brahms, Beck, James Brown, Sly+Family Stone, Prince, Bunny Wailer, Mahalia Jackson, World Hit Gospel show on KMEL

Louis Ck, Raymond Carver, Chekhov, Anthony Bourdain, NPR, Marc Maron WTF, The Economist, Todd Solondz, Annie Hall, countless documentaries, and yes, Anchorman. Latest book: "Confessions of a Yakuza" --- never knew so much about gambling in 1930s tokyo

Very excited about my new Vitamix and cast-iron skillet...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
were pianists the first cyborgs, graph topologies, supercomputer optimization, commonalities in worship experiences, what makes people's eyes light up involuntarily
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Quite likely playing music or dancing in some form
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'d describe yourself as sweet, creative, and willing to sacrifice a little status for a good laugh