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  • Ages 26-44
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My details

Last online
Nov 17
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a librarian living in San Francisco and working in the South Bay. I currently enjoy working in higher education although I also enjoyed working in software when I was doing that.

I'm also a musician involved in some number of musical projects at any particular time; sometimes I'm also trying to write a song or two.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am often rehearsing some music with someone(s), drinking some wine, buying a book with good intentions of reading it, and/or cooking something from scratch. I also like board games (Settlers of Catan and nerdier) and pub trivia, as well as occasional events where I can wear a bow tie.

The geographical history of me includes a previous time living in the Bay Area (2004-2010) so if I look vaguely familiar it could indeed be déjà vu all over again.

I enjoy the Similar Users section in the lower right corner of an OKC profile. When all of the Similar Users say "less kinky" or "more messy" (or whatever) you can learn something that might be unspoken in the person's essays. Am I "less organized?" I am curious what other people are learning about me. Perhaps I am "more curiouser."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at organizing the *** out of things. In an Aries way, not a Virgo way. I'm good with pregnant pauses and entendres that may be double or triple.

I'm good at getting carded. If you are looking for a silver whimsical fox, let's just get this out of the way: I'm more of the Dorian Gray type. I'm a good big spoon. It is, after all, often cold in San Francisco.

I really excel at having a song run through my head. Even other music often cannot dispel a well-lodged song.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe the smirking twinkle in my eye?

Sometimes I think people first notice that I seem aloof or arrogant; I think I come off that way if I am not at ease in a social situation. (I guess I have a hard candy shell.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like a wide range of movies, I read as much non-fiction as fiction (and I probably read less often than you would imagine a librarian reading), and I am enjoying the very well-written television that's around these days. I can probably be convinced to take up another example in any of these categories. I enjoy the symphony from time to time.

Food is a singular delight -- I believe both in dinner parties and eating out often. I'm an omnivore, in case that matters.

This didn't ask about potables, but I'm a wine enthusiast who is easily talked into mixology-level cocktails. Despite being from Portland originally, I'm not big on beer; but that just means there is more beer left over for the people who like beer.

This also didn't ask which NPR podcasts I follow. I assume we are all following some NPR podcasts, right? (I just fixed a typo here where I had written podcats, which is hilarious in its own right but I don't actually download any podcats.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Making someone else laugh so hard they snort.
A piano.
Reading in the bathtub.
Verbal wit.
A chance to learn and grow every day.
A glass of wine. Possibly while reading in the bathtub.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about how to be a good conversationalist and a good collaborator. I think about how to make a significant positive impact on the people around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This could be anything: dinner, theatre, game night, early bedtime, drinks with friends....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No one can make me blush like I can make me blush.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well, after all, you've scrolled this far!

Also, I'm pretty skilled at reading messages on here (e.g. while I'm on CalTrain) and then forgetting that I need to reply to them later, so do get my real email address if you want to correspond toward meeting up.

Also-also, your chances might be better if you write me first? I am trying to puzzle this out, but my opening volleys must need some serious work. :)