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grubbybastard

42 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Note: currently in Denver; moving to the bay area on 12/31/2013.

In a typical month, I play pub trivia (Geeks Who Drink), rehearse some music with someone, drink some wine, and cook something that most people wouldn't make from scratch.

I'm somewhat dubious about the ability to find a match online, but it does seem like OKC is pretty darn good at ranking people's attractiveness to me at a conceptual level. Having said that, very few first dates have come back to haunt me, so the chances that you would (i.e. haunt me) seem to be pretty low. :p

Also, (you have perhaps figured out that) what OKC lists as the age range that people are seeking is actually just taken from the last search they did. Sometimes I've been looking around to see if I can find the profile of someone I met in person, so if my profile says I'm looking for ages 33-36 (or something) you might want to take that with a salt lick.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a librarian starting a new job with Santa Clara University in January 2014. I'm not Jesuit, or even Catholic, if that matters.

I'm also a singer/pianist/conductor involved in some number of musical projects at any particular time.

I'm very social as well -- I enjoy having people over for food, games (Settlers of Catan and nerdier), wine, movies, or whatnot. I'm trying to teach myself to cook better (and more often). In all probability, willing eaters are needed for upcoming experiments. (This used to say I was looking for guinea pigs for cooking projects, but it turns out that that statement can be taken in multiple ways.)

I appreciate the Similar Users in the lower right corner of an OKC profile. When all of the Similar Users say "less kinky" (or whatever) you can learn something that might be unspoken in the person's essays.
I’m really good at
I'm getting better at cooking; see above.

I'm good at organizing the *** out of things. In an Aries way, not a Virgo way.

I'm good with pregnant pauses and entendres that may or may not be double or triple -- the occasional quadruple entendre has been known to escape my lips.
The first things people usually notice about me
The smirking twinkle in my eye.

Or my name, if they are just finding that out. People often say something along the lines of "that isn't really your name, though?" Squirtle, do you think I'm making this up?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Shakespeare, The Time Traveler's Wife (book, haven't seen the movie), The Adventures of Kavalier and Klay, The World Without Us, Robin Hobb, The New Yorker, The Buffy comic books & tv show, Death Note, Friday Night Lights, Mad Men, 9 to 5, Mary Poppins, Heathers, Airplane!, Flash Gordon, Sondheim, [Title of Show], George RR Martin, The Walking Dead

Food is a singular delight -- I believe both in dinner parties and eating out often. I'm an omnivore, in case that matters.
The six things I could never do without
Making someone else laugh so hard they snort.
Playing the piano.
Reading in the bathtub.
Double entendres.
A chance to learn and grow every day.
On a typical Friday night I am
This could be anything: dinner, theatre, game night, early bedtime, drinks with friends....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
No one can make me blush like I can make me blush.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 26–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Oh, just write me already. Seriously, you've scrolled this far! :)

I'm not on this site that often, and I'm pretty skilled at reading messages on here and then forgetting that I need to reply to them later, so do get my real email address if you want to correspond toward meeting up.