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grubbybastard

42 San Francisco, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 25
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a librarian living in San Francisco and working in the South Bay. I enjoy working in academia although I also enjoyed working in software when I was doing that.

I'm also a musician involved in some number of musical projects at any particular time; sometimes I'm also trying to write a song or two.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am often rehearsing some music with someone(s), drinking some wine, buying a book with good intentions of reading it, and/or cooking something from scratch. I also like board games (Settlers of Catan and nerdier) and pub trivia, as well as occasional events where I can wear a bow tie.

At the moment, I am somewhat absent-mindedly writing a sort of cantata affair called "Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret Thatcher" in which Margaret Thatcher's Purse is a singing role, as well as some songs that might feed into a musical post-modern version of Strangers on a Train.

I appreciate the Similar Users in the lower right corner of an OKC profile. When all of the Similar Users say "less kinky" or "more messy" (or whatever) you can learn something that might be unspoken in the person's essays. Am I "less organized?" I am curious what other people are learning about me. Perhaps I am "more curiouser." Also, I will usually rate profiles that look interesting with some number of stars, so if you do the same, we can both see if we are a "match"...

The geographical history of me includes a previous stint in the Bay Area (2004-2010) so if I look vaguely familiar it could indeed be déjà vu all over again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at organizing the *** out of things. In an Aries way, not a Virgo way. I'm good with pregnant pauses and entendres that may or may not be double or triple. I'm good at getting carded. If you are looking for a silver whimsical fox, let's just get this out of the way: I'm more of the Dorian Gray type. I'm a good big spoon. It is, after all, often cold in San Francisco.

I suppose I'm good at high-concept costumes, but so many of my friends are better at this than me that my dressing up as Hamburgler: The Gay Blade seems like phoning it in.

I really excel at having a song run through my head. Even other music often cannot dispel a well-lodged song!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe the smirking twinkle in my eye?

Or my name, if they are just finding that out. People often say something along the lines of "that isn't really your name, though?" Squirtle, do you think I'm making this up?

Sometimes I think people first notice that I seem aloof or arrogant; I think I come off that way if I am not at ease in a social situation. (I guess I have a hard candy shell.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
George RR Martin, The Walking Dead, Borgen, House of Cards, Shakespeare, The Time Traveler's Wife (book), The Adventures of Kavalier and Klay, The World Without Us, Robin Hobb, The New Yorker, The Buffy comic books & tv show, Death Note, Friday Night Lights, Mad Men, 9 to 5, Mary Poppins, Heathers, Airplane!, Flash Gordon, Sondheim, [Title of Show].

This didn't ask about potables, but I'm a wine enthusiast who is easily talked into mixology-level cocktails. Despite being from Portland originally, I'm not big on beer; but that just means there is more beer left over for the people who like beer.

This also didn't ask which NPR podcasts I follow. I assume we are all following some NPR podcasts, right? (I just fixed a typo here where I had written podcats, which is hilarious in its own right but I don't actually download any podcats.)

Food is a singular delight -- I believe both in dinner parties and eating out often. I'm an omnivore, in case that matters.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Making someone else laugh so hard they snort.
Self medicating with music therapy.
Reading in the bathtub.
Verbal wit.
A chance to learn and grow every day.
A glass of wine. Possibly while reading in the bathtub.
Klingons, preferably on the starboard bow. Oh wait, that's seven.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Formerly this said "I'm an empty essay -- fill me out!" That sounded kind of dirty to me, so I decided to write something here. Also, I just sang "I'm an empty essay -- fill me out!" in my head to the tune of "I'm a little teapot."

Also, I think about how to be a good conversationalist and a good collaborator. I realize this might not result in my dating anyone, or dating anyone long term, but maybe that's ok if I am still making a significant positive impact on the people around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This could be anything: dinner, theatre, game night, early bedtime, drinks with friends....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No one can make me blush like I can make me blush.
[There are other, more private things, but I'm not willing to admit them here. Heh.]
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well, after all, you've scrolled this far!

Also, I'm pretty skilled at reading messages on here (e.g. while I'm on CalTrain) and then forgetting that I need to reply to them later, so do get my real email address if you want to correspond toward meeting up.

Also-also, your chances might be better if you write me first? I am trying to puzzle this out, but my opening volleys must need some serious work. :)