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grubbybastard

42 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:48pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a librarian working for Santa Clara University (since January 2014). (Though I'm not actually Catholic, if that matters.) The geographical history of me includes a previous stint in the Bay Area (2004-2010) so if I look vaguely familiar it could indeed be déjà vu all over again.

(I just noticed that my profile has said that I work in Science/Engineering for some unknown period of time. I wonder how many people now think I am a scientist?)

I'm also a singer/pianist/conductor involved in some number of musical projects at any particular time. Sometimes I'm also trying to write a song or two.

In conclusion, I'm a warm-hearted pedantic person.
What I’m doing with my life
So, in a typical month, I rehearse some music with someone(s), drink some wine, buy a book with good intentions of reading it, and cook something from scratch. I would be open to adding (back) to that list things like board games and pub trivia, as well as occasional events where I could wear a bow tie.

I'm very social -- I enjoy having people over for food, the aforementioned games (Settlers of Catan and nerdier) and wine, movies, or whatnot.

My goals for 2014 include cooking more with seafood, but I am easily waylaid into other culinary goals. I make a mean roast pheasant, but perhaps you prefer bœuf bourguignon?

At the moment, I am somewhat absent-mindedly writing a sort of cantata affair called "Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret Thatcher" in which Margaret Thatcher's Purse is a singing role.

I may over-think things and I definitely over-explain things. Sometimes it's faster to let me finish explaining than to interrupt me and explain that you already know, but it depends on where I am in my narrative.

I appreciate the Similar Users in the lower right corner of an OKC profile. When all of the Similar Users say "less kinky" or "more messy" (or whatever) you can learn something that might be unspoken in the person's essays. Am I "less organized?" I wonder what other people are learning about me.

Also, I will usually rate profiles that look interesting with some number of stars, so if you do the same, we can both see if we are a "match"...
I’m really good at
I'm good at organizing the *** out of things. In an Aries way, not a Virgo way.

I'm good with pregnant pauses and entendres that may or may not be double or triple -- the occasional quadruple entendre has been known to escape my lips.

I'm good at getting carded. If you are looking for a silver whimsical fox, let's just get this out of the way: I'm more of the Dorian Gray type.

I am being required to say here that I'm a good "big spoon." It is, after all, often cold in San Francisco.

I suppose I'm good at high-concept costumes, but so many of my friends are better at this than me that my dressing up as Hamburgler: The Gay Blade seems like phoning it in.

I really excel at having a song run through my head. Even other music often cannot dispel a well-lodged song!
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe the smirking twinkle in my eye.

Or my name, if they are just finding that out. People often say something along the lines of "that isn't really your name, though?" Squirtle, do you think I'm making this up?

Sometimes I think people first notice that I seem aloof or arrogant; I think I come off that way if I am not at ease in a social situation. (I guess I have a hard candy shell.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
George RR Martin, The Walking Dead, Borgen, House of Cards, Shakespeare, The Time Traveler's Wife (book), The Adventures of Kavalier and Klay, The World Without Us, Robin Hobb, The New Yorker, The Buffy comic books & tv show, Death Note, Friday Night Lights, Mad Men, 9 to 5, Mary Poppins, Heathers, Airplane!, Flash Gordon, Sondheim, [Title of Show].

This didn't ask about potables, but I'm a wine enthusiast who is easily talked into mixology-level cocktails. Despite being from Portland originally, I'm not big on beer; but that just means there is more beer left over for the people who like beer.

This also didn't ask which NPR podcasts I follow. I assume we are all following some NPR podcasts, right? (I just fixed a typo here where I had written podcats, which is hilarious in its own right but I don't actually download any podcats.)

Food is a singular delight -- I believe both in dinner parties and eating out often. I'm an omnivore, in case that matters.
The six things I could never do without
Making someone else laugh so hard they snort.
Self medicating with music therapy.
Reading in the bathtub.
Verbal wit.
A chance to learn and grow every day.
A glass of wine. Possibly while reading in the bathtub.
Klingons, preferably on the starboard bow. Oh wait, that's seven.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Formerly this said "I'm an empty essay -- fill me out!" That sounded kind of dirty to me, so I decided to write something here. Also, I just sang "I'm an empty essay -- fill me out!" in my head to the tune of "I'm a little teapot."

If the Bay Area includes nine counties, how many can I realistically consider for dating options? Are you going to help me figure this out?
On a typical Friday night I am
This could be anything: dinner, theatre, game night, early bedtime, drinks with friends....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
No one can make me blush like I can make me blush.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 26–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Well, after all, you've scrolled this far!

Also, I'm pretty skilled at reading messages on here (e.g. while I'm on CalTrain) and then forgetting that I need to reply to them later, so do get my real email address if you want to correspond toward meeting up.

Also-also, your chances might be better if you write me first? I am trying to puzzle this out, but my opening volleys must need some serious work. :)