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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 32–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:07pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Not at all
Other and it’s important
Post grad
Might want kids
My self-summary
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Hi I'm Hoyt (it's a family name). I'm very close to my family and have 3 nephews and a niece that I adore. I'm open about who I am and appreciate the lessons I've learned because of my sexuality. That being said, my sexuality doesn't define me but only serves to enhance my experience of life and all that it has to offer.

I love to travel with any place with a beach taking priority. I find being outdoors calming and reinvigorating. As a Pisces, I'm naturally drawn to water and can spend hours swimming in the ocean. I practice yoga and meditate daily. Volunteering with youth and social justice issues helps me feel like I'm giving back and hopefully making the world a bit more compassionate than I found it. I firmly believe in the healing effects of laughter and do as much of it on a daily basis as possible. Books, amusement parks, the theater, movies, music, dancing, and pushing myself beyond my comfort zone all provide a wonderful escape.

I don't have all the answers but I'm great at asking questions and would love to find a partner who is just as curious and passionate about life as I am.

A quote that pretty much sums up what I try to live by:
"Beyond the ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." - Rumi

My Myers Briggs is ISFJ and Enneagram is 6. I relate pretty closely to the description for both.
What I’m doing with my life
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Teach 5th grade. It's never boring and I laugh a lot.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Asking questions
- Listening
- Planning / organizing
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
- Eyes
- Hair (when it's longer and curly)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Alchemist, Middlesex, The Kite Runner, Harry Potter Series, Great Expectations, A Tale of Two Cities, The Kid by Dan Savage, A Million Little Pieces, Cider House Rules, Angela's Ashes, The Velvet Rage, The End of Faith by Sam Harris (fascinating read)

Favorite Authors/Teachers: Caroline Myss, Deepak Chopra, John Shelby Spong, Marianne Williamson, Pema Chodron, Brene Brown

Movies: love old movies on TCM, Lord of the Rings, Momento, The Station Agent, Sordid Lives, Drop Dead Gorgeous, Victor Victoria, Gaslight, Gilda, Star Trek (2009), The Muppet Movie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Stardust, Shawshank Redemption, Beautiful Thing, Brokeback Mountain, Finding Neverland, The Usual Suspects, To Catch a Thief, His Girl Friday, What the Bleep Do We Know?

TV shows: Dr. Who, Golden Girls, Picket Fences, Will and Grace, Stargate, Fringe, X Files, Facts of Life

Music: pretty much anything except hard core rap

Food: Mexican, Seafood, Italian, Thai, Indian, basically anything fresh, hot and spicy; I don't eat meat but I do eat seafood
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Other than the obvious of air, food and health:

My yoga mat
My journal
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Grace: how to extend it to myself and others more often and more easily
- What I want to read next
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
After teaching all week I'm usually comatose on my couch. But I'm always up for a date, or spending time with friends/family. I'm more introverted than extroverted so I prefer small groups versus large party type atmospheres.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been sober for more than a decade.

I can wiggle both of my ears.
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So thanks for reading this far. I'm ready to find my spiritual partner and cultivate a relationship based on a shared sense of purpose. If any of this resonates with you, please say hi. I love meeting new people. Location doesn't concern me. I love to travel!