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36 F Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Sep 16, 2011
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Half-crazy, half-sane, I am highly liminal.

I've spent a lot of time online for most of my life, and it probably shows.

I am an esoteric Discordian and run a large website for such. I like to create public ritual, sometimes in a gorilla suit.

I am polyamorous and have a longterm partner metaphorge with whom I am madly in love, and a few other intimates. I am a Kinsey 4 bisexual. I'm kinky. I like computers, and making art stuff. I am very silly, though I guess it's hard to read into this profile. I like complicated queer people who like computers & maybe overthink stuff from time to time & want to make the world a more interesting place. Also, I am fond of run-on sentences when used for dramatic effect.

I want to meet people who live their lives in dark and bright colors. I like people with fire.

I like to read, cook, do film photography, make things, daydream, listen to music, dance, watch movies, go to parties, solder, weld stuff, have sex, imagine.

I am labyrinthine, sensual, and sharp
What I’m doing with my life
Laughing, screaming, aspiring, dreaming, reinterpreting, communicating, loving, diving into the wreck.... I had an awesome job doing tech stuff, but got downsized a couple of months ago. I talk to people. I play with Unix. I am very community-oriented and I'm trying to build a family of awesome freaks. I am a culture jammer. I am trying to dance more. I like wearing ridiculous outfits, but don't do it nearly often enough. I want to eat the world.
I’m really good at
I'm really bad at hula hooping, but really good at trying and laughing when I fail. I am really good at facilitating communication between others, and at public speaking. I'm a decent photographer, and what I lack in skill I make up for in enthusiasm (which can be said about a number of things, really).
The first things people usually notice about me
While not audible all the time, people tend to first notice my heroic theme song and my embarrassing propensity to offer more words than I can eat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: _Foucault's Pendulum_ by Umberto Eco is my favorite book. I also love various books by Milan Kundera, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Haruki Murakami, Tom Robbins, David Sedaris, Margaret Atwood, Lisa Goldstein, Neil Gaiman, Salman Rushdie, Octavia Butler. Being a Discordian, I must mention Robert Anton Wilson.

Movies: My Dinner with Andre, A Chef in Love, Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, Me and You and Everyone We Know, Life is Beautiful, The Matrix, Edward Scissorhands, Nightmare Before Christmas, Big Fish.

Music: Oingo Boingo, Dresden Dolls, Amanda Palmer, DJ Z-Trip, Balkan Beat Box, Concrete Blonde, Iva Bittova, Modest Mouse, Boards of Canada, M.I.A., New Pornographers, Sleater-Kinney, Imogen Heap, Le Tigre, CSS, The Trucks, Goran Bregovic, Metric, Santogold, Meat Beat Manifesto, Monks of Doom, Kate Bush, Pop Will Eat Itself, Rilo Kiley, Shriekback, Severed Heads, Tricky, Placebo, U.N.K.L.E., Peter Murphy, Los Fabulosos Cadillacs, Shakira (yeah, yeah, I know).

Food: Cherries, pesto, marinated rare steak, fresh oysters on the half shell, dim sum, carnitas tacos, strawberries....
The six things I could never do without
I don't even know what to put here. Uh, food? Water? Sleep? Sex? I guess those mostly aren't "things" as such. Computer, phone, car, clothing? Srsly, wtf kind of question is this anyways?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Art, photography, the internets, how to get a job, politics, dancing skeletons, lifestyle as ritual, sigils, silly costumes, the future, gothy geeky hot girls, sex, semiotics, electronics, work, Twitter, subverting the dominant paradigm (and other bumper stickers), queer theory, identity formation, growing up (in a good way), what to do with my new back yard, the politics of dancing?
On a typical Friday night I am
I like everything from Cacophony-style art events to melting at a cafe with a book or my laptop. I try to go to SF's awesome Queer Open Mic when I can make it. Sometimes I'll meet a friend and we'll have fabulous adventures where we drink coffee, eat dinner, and negotiate universal peace with aliens. Sometimes, piracy. And sometimes, I just like to go home and rent a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am only a 97% match for myself. There's still that 3% that I & I can never quite reconcile. Also, I like ampersands.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 26–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You should message me if you have superpowers to share, a confusing gender identity, striped stockings and a wicked sense of humor. Sorry boys, I generally don't play with straight men. I'm extroverted and (mostly) friendly, so if you can see a patternmatch, send me a note.

I've spent the last couple of years hiding out a little, and now that things have just about turned around, it's time to be social again. I'd like to find more friends and lovers, and wrap myself in a community of awesome freaks. Extra points if you live in the east bay (I've just moved to Oakland and don't know too many others in the area).