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34 Napa, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 3:27pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
More than $1,000,000
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a bicycle looking for the right fish.

Sometimes my humor fails to amuse anyone except me. When I posted an old, more joke-heavy profile on one of the forums here, I received some interesting feedback:

"i have no idea what this means"
"It means he thinks he's being funny, but he isn't..."
"Your profile sounds like one giant joke. You're going to have to be honest when filling out the profile."
"Pictures are a mess, what did you use? a 1mega pixel cam? The 3rd picture makes you look like a criminal."
"It's just not very funny. Delete all the jokes and retry."

Okay, I deleted all the jokes and I'm retrying. (Sadly I forgot to save the old version, so you'll have to use your imagination.)

I try to be interesting. I occasionally wander into meaningless esoterica but only when the other person is equally interested.

I'm looking for someone with whom I feel a real connection.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Job-wise, I've been working in the computer science field, but am at a moment of flux and am trying to decide where I want to go next. I helped develop Google Maps, then left with a friend to co-found a startup that was eventually acquired by Facebook.

I don't yet know what the future holds for me; I'm still searching for some product or group or vision or vocation that inspires a sense of passion in me. I've had the extraordinarily good fortune of being able to have that kind of freedom, so I try very hard not to take that for granted and hope to allow others who aren't as privileged or lucky to be able to find success and freedom in their careers as well.

At the moment I'm giving myself a swift kick in the ass to motivate me to broaden my horizons by trying new things and meeting new people. I wouldn't mind saving the world if possible; in the meantime I keep busy trying to learn to sail and honing my climbing skills and finding love or companionship and googling the last few answers to the Sunday NYT crossword.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
figuring out how things work by breaking them, hula-hooping, writing crappy online profiles, watching my train of thought derail
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically, I'm not sure what people notice first. I've received a few compliments on my eyelashes over the years, but I still haven't decided how I feel about that. What did you first notice?

I'm generally reserved or shy around large groups of people I don't know well. Honestly, it's a combination of my inclination to introversion and my nagging worries and self-doubts about being good, smart, attractive, witty enough to hold my own or stand out in those competitive situations.

I'm much more witty and loquacious in the right circumstances, like one-on-one conversations where I feel a baseline of comfort and a developing mental and emotional connection.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- a good 8 hours sleep, eventually
- an internet browser
- an annoyingly whiny cat with a heart of gold
- gym membership
- friends who get me through hard times
- family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future, distributive economics and political egalitarianism. How much of the current level of income equality comes about through imperfect and inefficient markets being abused by those with power, and how much comes from genuine disparities in individual ability to create "value"? How much right does a person have to the fruits of another person's labor? I'm still honestly trying to think these issues through. If you're interested you can always buy me a drink to hear more.

Feminism and the obstacles faced by women in our society. I support feminism whole-heartedly but feel awkward self-identifying as a "feminist" myself. For one thing, too many self-identified "male feminists" seem to use the descriptor as a way to get laid. Also, feminism as a movement is based on the experiences of women in society and the way those experiences differ from those of men via the influence of patriarchal structures and beliefs. I haven't lived the experience of being a woman, so my understanding is necessarily indirect and abstract. I guess I'd call myself pro-feminist or a feminist ally, or at least hope that my actions would lead women to see me that way. But I don't expect a cookie for trying to think and act like a decent human being.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On the exciting ones: going out with friends for dinner or drinks, catching a concert in the City or a show in Berkeley, sailing out on the moonlit bay, or just reading at home with a glass of wine. Part of my motivation for being on this site is to open up new possibilities for that span of time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm reticent and avoidant sometimes when it comes to taking the initiative or pursuing what I want, so I appreciate it when others help out and are honest with their feelings too.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I pique your interest, and you're happy I didn't write "I peak you're interest, and your happy I didn't right… [ad nauseum]"

You want to get to know me based on how I look.

You want to get to know me despite how I look.