I'm polyamorous and queer with a soft-spot for cute people who like to cuddle. I've been happily dating photogeekmtl for about a year and a half and I have room on my dance card for others who live in Toronto. It would also just be nice to make some new friends. :)

I'm a huge fan of coffee (with milk and sugar), crime shows, and handholding. I'm pretty nerdy and would never turn down a good (or bad!) documentary. I'm busty and I identify as a fat queer femme. I really enjoy learning, talking with friends in coffee shops, and hanging out with my boyfriend's two-year-old in Montreal parks. I appreciate when people actively work on their emotional issues and I feel like I've made a lot of headway lately on some of my own. I'd like to be a parent of some sort someday, but I'm open to how that happens. I'm generally a pretty happy, bubbly person and I like to think that I'm fairly open-minded.

I have a Master of Information degree and I'm a reference librarian in a law firm. I really love providing my job: I get a lot of joy out of helping people. Someday I would like to try working in an academic or medical library so if you're a librarian in either of those fields, I'd love it if you messaged me and let me know how that is. :)

being easily amused, laughing loudly, reading quickly, knitting badly, drinking coffee, talking about feelings, and cuddling.

My favorite books:
- Douglas Adam's The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy and The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
- Chloë Brushwood Rose and Anna Camilleri's Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity
- Geoffrey C. Bowker and Susan Leigh Star's Sorting Things Out: Classification and Its Consequences
- Jeanette Winterson's Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit
- Lawrence Raab's poetry collections What We Don't Know About Each Other, Visible Signs, Collector of Cold Weather, and Probable World
- Kurt Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five
- Jeffrey Eugenide's Middlesex
- all of Mary Roach's books
- Dave Eggars' A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius
- Carol Shields' Larry's Party
- Elizabeth McCracken's The Giant's House: A Romance
- Mark Haddon's The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time
- Miriam Toews' A Complicated Kindness
- Tristan Taormino's Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

My favorite movies:
- But I'm A Cheerleader
- Edward Scissorhands
- Show Me Love
- When Harry Met Sally (I'm a total sap)
- Outbreak
- movies about bank heists
- movies about math geniuses
- pretty much every documentary ever made, especially ones about ocean life

My favorite TV shows that are still on the air:
- Nurse Jackie
- This American Life
- dance shows (I'm a terrible dancer myself, but I find them really entertaining)
- crime shows
- Top Chef

My favorite bands/musicians:
- The Postal Service
- Sufjan Stevens
- Beirut
- Regina Spektor
- Sarah Harmer
- Tegan and Sara
- Tender Forever
- The Decemberists
- The Mountain Goats
- The Killers
- The Magnetic Fields

My favorite foods:
- coffee
- chocolate!
- pineapple
- strawberries
- red curry with tofu
- palak paneer
- pad thai with tofu
- mint tea

I've been a vegetarian for over ten years now, but it's not something that's an important part of my identity. I actually tend to forget that I am these days when I first meet people so I figured I'd mention that here. I don't mind at all if people cook or eat meat in front of me.

my friends, my family, and my relationship(s).

On a nerdier level, I'm currently on a non-fiction kick and have been reading a fair bit of popular science books. Right now I'm reading "Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex" by Mary Roach and "Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's" by John Elder Robinson. I also really enjoy talking and learning about gender, queerness (I identify as queer myself and I have lesbian moms), sexuality, accessibility issues, and how other people structure their relationships.

probably watching a movie or going out for supper with friends. I don't like to go out drinking so a more low-key activity -- watching trashy television shows; playing boardgames; grabbing warm drinks and walking around the city; or checking out a street festival -- is more my style.

I value flexibility in any sort of relationship hierarchy I'm involved in. I'm happy being a secondary partner (or tertiary or FWB...) if that's where our relationship naturally levels off, but I'm not okay with having a hierarchy enforced for another person's sense of security (i.e., being a secondary partner because there can only be one primary partner and that role has been filled). I prefer letting relationships be what they are and not having to worry about a relationship becoming "too loving" or "too close."

you're a friendly person who lives in Toronto and is into hanging out with a shy-at-first cheerful librarian. :) I am just as much into new friends as new romantic partners.

You get extra points in my book if any of the following apply to you:
- you've been doing non-monogamy of some sort for long enough to have learned from some mistakes
- you're a nerd or a geek