I'm polyamorous and queer with a soft-spot for cute people who like to cuddle. I've been happily dating photogeekmtl for about a year and a half and I have room on my dance card for others who live in Toronto. It would also just be nice to make some new friends. :)

I'm a huge fan of coffee (with milk and sugar), crime shows, and handholding. I'm pretty nerdy and would never turn down a good (or bad!) documentary. I'm busty and I identify as a fat queer femme. I really enjoy learning, talking with friends in coffee shops, and hanging out with my boyfriend's two-year-old in Montreal parks. I appreciate when people actively work on their emotional issues and I feel like I've made a lot of headway lately on some of my own. I'd like to be a parent of some sort someday, but I'm open to how that happens. I'm generally a pretty happy, bubbly person and I like to think that I'm fairly open-minded.

I have a Master of Information degree and I'm a reference librarian in a law firm. I really love providing my job: I get a lot of joy out of helping people. Someday I would like to try working in an academic or medical library so if you're a librarian in either of those fields, I'd love it if you messaged me and let me know how that is. :)

being easily amused, laughing loudly, reading quickly, knitting badly, drinking coffee, talking about feelings, and cuddling.

My favorite books:
- Douglas Adam's The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy and The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
- Chloë Brushwood Rose and Anna Camilleri's Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity
- Geoffrey C. Bowker and Susan Leigh Star's Sorting Things Out: Classification and Its Consequences
- Jeanette Winterson's Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit
- Lawrence Raab's poetry collections What We Don't Know About Each Other, Visible Signs, Collector of Cold Weather, and Probable World
- Kurt Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five
- Jeffrey Eugenide's Middlesex
- all of Mary Roach's books
- Dave Eggars' A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius
- Carol Shields' Larry's Party
- Elizabeth McCracken's The Giant's House: A Romance
- Mark Haddon's The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time
- Miriam Toews' A Complicated Kindness
- Tristan Taormino's Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

My favorite movies:
- But I'm A Cheerleader
- Edward Scissorhands
- Show Me Love
- When Harry Met Sally (I'm a total sap)
- Outbreak
- movies about bank heists
- movies about math geniuses
- pretty much every documentary ever made, especially ones about ocean life

My favorite TV shows that are still on the air:
- Nurse Jackie
- This American Life
- dance shows (I'm a terrible dancer myself, but I find them really entertaining)
- crime shows
- Top Chef

My favorite bands/musicians:
- The Postal Service
- Sufjan Stevens
- Beirut
- Regina Spektor
- Sarah Harmer
- Tegan and Sara
- Tender Forever
- The Decemberists
- The Mountain Goats
- The Killers
- The Magnetic Fields

My favorite foods:
- coffee
- chocolate!
- pineapple
- strawberries
- red curry with tofu
- palak paneer
- pad thai with tofu
- mint tea

I've been a vegetarian for over ten years now, but it's not something that's an important part of my identity. I actually tend to forget that I am these days when I first meet people so I figured I'd mention that here. I don't mind at all if people cook or eat meat in front of me.

my friends, my family, and my relationship(s).

On a nerdier level, I'm currently on a non-fiction kick and have been reading a fair bit of popular science books. Right now I'm reading "Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex" by Mary Roach and "Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's" by John Elder Robinson. I also really enjoy talking and learning about gender, queerness (I identify as queer myself and I have lesbian moms), sexuality, accessibility issues, and how other people structure their relationships.

probably watching a movie or going out for supper with friends. I don't like to go out drinking so a more low-key activity -- watching trashy television shows; playing boardgames; grabbing warm drinks and walking around the city; or checking out a street festival -- is more my style.

I value flexibility in any sort of relationship hierarchy I'm involved in. I'm happy being a secondary partner (or tertiary or FWB...) if that's where our relationship naturally levels off, but I'm not okay with having a hierarchy enforced for another person's sense of security (i.e., being a secondary partner because there can only be one primary partner and that role has been filled). I prefer letting relationships be what they are and not having to worry about a relationship becoming "too loving" or "too close." If your partner is only okay with you getting involved with me if it stays less emotionally serious than your relationship with them, I'm probably not interested. That comes up surprisingly frequently on here so I thought I'd explain that upfront.

you're a friendly person who lives in Toronto and is into hanging out with a shy-at-first cheerful librarian. :) I am just as much into new friends as new romantic partners.

You get extra points in my book if any of the following apply to you:
- you also identify as a fat queer femme
- you're a fan of fat queer femmes
- you've been doing non-monogamy of some sort for long enough to have learned from some mistakes
- you're a nerd or a geek

I'm not interested if:
- you're in a monogamous relationship and looking to cheat on your partner with me
- you'd like me to date both you and your partner as a package deal