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haohevet92

22 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:31pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
Drinks
Drugs
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I identify as queer, not bisexual. I'm also an intersectional feminist. You should too.

Note: at the moment, I'm not interested in casual sex. I want to surround myself with people who are caring, kind and supportive--looking for relationships (in whatever form) that are worth my time and effort. Please don't contact me if you're not actually interested in getting to know me.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an undergrad at NYU studying the destigmatization of sexuality, queerness and mental illness. Also: privilege/oppression, social justice, identity, compassion...the list goes on. Social work minor and hopeful MSW.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Subverting norms. Talking about subverting norms. Over-analyzing things and complicating them in my head. Being compassionate. Feeling awkward. Using gender-neutral language. Cooking spaghetti squash, and spaghetti for that matter--clearly I'm a culinary master. Hugging.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually my eyes. They change colors :)

Within 2 days of meeting me, someone who's now a close friend said I remind her of Tina Belcher because she's "an awkward sex-positive feminist who doesn't shave her legs." I am consistently the first three things, last one's up for debate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Peanut avocado sushi, Nutella
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Queer/feminist/activist communities.
-Support.
-Eye contact on subways--the sexy kind,
not the scary kind [although the scary kind can be sexy too, in small doses]
-iPhone, unfortunately.
-My beautiful, loyal, superintelligent dog (EDIT: Lava passed away a few months ago, she was 12 1/2. I refuse to take this down because I love her to pieces.)
-New York City, the constant adventure I'm lucky to call my home
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to leash train my cat
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Depression/mood disorder/anxiety. I moved to Vermont for mental-health-related treatment after taking a medical leave of absence from college. In my mind this isn't something private at all, and it's just another facet of my life. But there's a lot of stigma around this stuff and especially disclosing it online, so I'm just gonna leave it right here...

These days I'm pretty stable and I've grown and learned a lot in treatment (especially communication skills--I can I-statement the shit out of you). I do need a lot of support to get through school and have a shitton of appointments with therapist/coaches to help me with my initiation and executive functioning issues as they relate to written work... Almost always late on some paper (or many papers). I'm very open about what I've been through; it's a large part of my lived experience, and to some extent my identity, but by no means does it define me. If we ever hang out in person I'm going to talk about treatment and whatever's going on for me at that moment. Looking for people who can deal with that maturely, and who care. And/or who can relate.

Don't message me thinly-veiled ableist "compliments" by telling me I don't look like someone with depression or I sound too functional to be "mentally ill". If that's supposed to make me feel good, what are you saying about the people who do fit your picture of mental illness? Also, your first message (or any message, probably) should not consist of asking me which meds I'm on. Unfortunately I get both of those a lot more than you'd think.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you are open-minded, compassionate and nonjudgmental.

My ideal partner/date/friend/whatever:
-is a feminist and/or activist. [preferably] identifies as some sorta queer. not a prerequisite but this is a huge part of my identity that's incredibly important to me. you need to understand and respect it, not just tolerate it. (also, please don't message me saying how hot it is that i'm bi. i'm not bi.)
-seeks intimacy
-thinks about systemic oppression and privilege often
-isn't a huge drinker or drug user
-knows what cisgender means.
-is kind.