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haohevet92

23 New York, NY Woman, Cis Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:18am
Orientation
Queer, Pansexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Status
Single
Type
Mostly monogamous
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I identify as queer, not bisexual. I'm also an intersectional feminist.

The cat in the picture isn't my cat. I do have a cat, and he does have an instagram. But it's not that one.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an undergrad at NYU studying the destigmatization of sexuality, queerness and mental illness. Also: privilege/oppression, social justice, identity, compassion...the list goes on. Social work minor and hopeful eventual MSW.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Subverting norms. Talking about subverting norms. Over-analyzing things and complicating them in my head. Being compassionate. Feeling awkward. Using gender-neutral language. (My tumblr post about "they" pronouns may or may not have 30,000 notes, just sayin. Possibly one of my greatest accomplishments to date.) Cooking spaghetti squash, and spaghetti for that matter--I'm a culinary master. Hugging.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually my eyes. They change colors :)

Within 2 days of meeting me, someone who's now a close friend said I remind her of Tina Belcher because she's "an awkward sex-positive feminist who doesn't shave her legs." I am consistently the first three things, last one's up for debate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Peanut avocado sushi, Nutella
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Queer, feminist and recovery communities.
-Support.
-Eye contact on subways--the sexy kind,
not the scary kind [although the scary kind can be sexy too, in small doses]
-iPhone, unfortunately.
-Spaghetti with garlic.
-Everyone else's answers to this riveting question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This is all a facade.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in my bedroom, making no noise and pretending I don't exist.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Depression/mood disorder/anxiety. I moved to Vermont for mental-health-related treatment after taking a medical leave from college. In my mind this isn't something private at all, and it's just another facet of my life. But this stuff is taboo and sometimes a deal breaker so I'm just gonna leave it right here.

I can I-statement the shit out of you. I do need a lot of support to get through school and have a shitton of appointments with therapist/coaches to help me with my initiation and executive functioning issues as they relate to written work... Almost always late on some paper (or many papers). I'm very open about what I've been through; it's a large part of my lived experience, and to some extent my identity, but by no means does it define me. If we ever hang out in person I'm going to talk about treatment and whatever's going on for me at that moment. Looking for people who can deal with that maturely, and who care. And/or who can relate.

Please don't message me thinly-veiled ableist "compliments" by telling me I don't look like someone with depression or I sound too functional to be "mentally ill". If that's supposed to make me feel good, what are you saying about the people who do fit your picture of mental illness? Also, your first message (or any message, probably) should not consist of asking me which meds I'm on. Unfortunately I get both of those a lot more than you'd think.
You should message me if
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you are open-minded, compassionate and nonjudgmental.

My ideal partner/date/friend/whatever:
-is a feminist and/or activist. [preferably] identifies as some sorta queer. not a prerequisite but this is a huge part of my identity that's incredibly important to me. you need to understand and respect it, not just tolerate it. (also, please don't message me saying how hot it is that i'm bi. i'm not bi.)
-seeks intimacy
-thinks about systemic oppression and privilege often
-isn't a huge drinker or drug user
-knows what cisgender means.
-is kind.