First up -- hey guys, my preference is women and only play with men to please a partner. Only. I've explored this question and, while I can appreciate a good looking guy, there's no physical response and no sense of an emotional connection.

I'm seeking a partner with whom to share life's journey. I'm truly grateful for each and every adversity that has impacted me to date -- for each has been examined for lessons learned. The most significant of is confidence in what I have to offer -- and what are the essential characteristics of a partner.

My strengths are: fierce loyalty. curiosity about everything around me. giving of my trust -- without condition. absolutely devoid of judgement (or, put another way -- completely accepting) of others. quircky/kinky/open to everything/sensual/giving/passionate in lovemaking.

A partnership will be mutually positive and evolving if you posses the following traits: an understanding of why the giving of absolute trust to your partner is the primary foundation of a committed relationship. you understand why "fault" and "blame" may be the most toxic substances to resolving the relationship crises that develop over time. Finally, you celebrate the wonder of what a gift we've been given when two people are able to build a true "union" and the inherent freedom that results.

For many reasons, i'm drawn to strong, capable, "alpha" women. While - I too posses these traits, I am more fulfilled when supporting a partner achieve success. I firmly believe that a combination of two sets of skills -- within a true committed relationship is amazing, and better decisions will be made with ultimate authority in female hands.

I've also developed a belief that total power exchange (TPE) is a very important part of building the above trust. Many people that share this are drawn to BDSM -- particularly Domination or submission. As was I. I'm neither intrinsically a Dom or sub, nor even a switch. I always thought I was a true submissive. There were a couple of aspects of the typical male sub that were really uncomfortable. First, so much attention is place on the sub. Negotiate. Safe-words. Respecting Boundaries. Uncovering and fulfilling needs. All focused on the sub. Huh? Who's on top? Second, and most important, the notion of a sub as being an inferior person.

I have had the greatest luck and have made a positive contribution to many people around the world, and in doing so also am able to devote my time to what may come next... I'm open to the next adventure that passes by... and really, recently, been working hard on figuring "me" out!

I finally "get" what it means to be self-actualized. Once, the past was a resource to seek guidance in predicting present and future behaviors. Now, it is a rich source from which to draw learning and test against current theories. Once this mental switch was made I was able to answer questions such as "what caused me to do that", rather than "damn, I'm so sorry I did that". With this new outlook came understanding of looking for root causes and also a change from feelings of guilt to accountability. This maybe self evident to most people! Whatever, I'm glad I get it!

listening. More can be learnt from someone that has beliefs that differ from my own.... Understanding how a belief has formed is the foundation of consensus and growth.

i'm good at very few things, but know a bit about a great many things...

This quote has been a good guidepost:

- The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand.

a devilish little glint in my eyes -- and usually a little smile on my face

My favorite book is the next one to be read...

Music has a special place for me and ranges from Gregorian chants to techno -- and all in between. Oh, Joss Stone is amazing. ;)

Food. Ahhh food... If it grows, grazes or swims -- I'll try it. At least once! The only thing I couldn't munch was dog when in beijing recently. Can't do rover...

1. access to knowledge. 2. intimacy. 3. water. I need to live near it and spend much time playing on it. 4. A good bottle of wine and; -5. a person to share it with; -6. over a great meal

Current questions that are engaging my time and attention, these days, are:

1. Evolutionary psychology. Is it possible that the human species is on the cusp (perhaps past?) of rapid evolution? See journal posting for current thoughts..

2. It's fascinating watching the Redmond Empire in virtual terror of being decimated by those that "do no harm". This has given rise to a simple question. Is it possible to create an enterprise with a significant value (say a market cap of $50billion) and remain as agile as an post-startup, but early commercially viable business, let's use Google, pre-IPO? If so, what would such a structure look like? From personal experience, there's a magic point where somewhere between > 5 and < 50 people can accomplish damn near anything. Once "structure" starts to descend, the 5-50 that accomplished miracles become saddled with tasks that detract from their ability to do "magic".

there's no typical friday night.

Privacy belongs to a trusted partner -- not here.

You're a confident "alpha" woman that is looking for a long-term partner from whom she can learn to trust as a supporter, trusted adviser, and can trust enough to know that she doesn't have to worry about her "back" -- I'll guard it. Oh, and clearly she is grounded enough to understand the importance of absolute trust...