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he_donist

45 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 29–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Buddhism
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Moved to NYC about 16 years ago, in pursuit of "beauty" and all that entailed. Now far wiser, but not yet wise.

Now finding more value in "Quality" & Integrity; Music. Design. Art. Food. Wine. Details in Craftsmanship. People. Writing... and of course, Beauty.

I'm interested in the perfection of imperfection; not perfection sans imperfection.

I am truly learning to be more present in the moment, and I feel I have far less to prove these days; Life has become amazingly more rewarding and enjoyable- hence the user name here.

I am all about the contrast; ying/yang, high/low, city/country, brilliance/ignorance, sacred/profane.

I'm a hopeless romantic; but not as in sipping champagne on a beach at sunset. More about the perspective on life and finding depth, value, and inspiration.

Not into Hallmark moments, but instead seeking the real moments in between. Crave experiences that are expansive and bring a smile to my lips for years to come.

Not here just to get laid. We all know finding sex is easy enough without having to masquerade as a "nice guy", to get it. Looking for a more dimension.

Looking for a muse, a provocateur, a siren; someone to laugh at myself with, and push my comfort zone, and someone looking for same.

I am into cooking with real, natural ingredients. I try to grow as much as I can, and find the entire process a true creative endeavor.

Not looking for a Sugar Momma, so please stop asking!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a photographer, a sailor, a strategist, a designer, a director, a farmer, an artist, an equestrian, a yoga teacher, an architect, a friend, a bee keeper, a collaborator.

Its important for me to have a multi-faceted career whereas creativity is not limited to one or two different media, but instead is open to a variety of expression.

I am trying to master this all now, while incorporating various sailing odysseys in the process.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting myself in and out of trouble. Analyzing things. Overusing semicolons. Misusing words. Remembering smells. Building things. Never being bored. Chopping wood. Falling off horses. Being irreverent- sometimes even appropriately. Falling into the most amazing experiences and situations. Having a pretty great life!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall and thin??
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The smell of new tennis balls. Belgian (double fermented) beer, NPR, BBC, Pinot Noir, truffles, oysters, anything cooked in duck fat, citrus and floral based complex perfumes, Vonnegut, Kafka, Fellini, Goddard, Artists from The Dusseldorf School. Northern Romantic Landscape painters, Roland Barthes, El Bulli, Jim Morrison, the Stiff Little Fingers, Neil Young, Didion, Krishnamurti, Orange Blossoms, Neo-Realist Film, The Clash, I am Love, The Black Keys, Satie, Bob Marley, the smell of a horse, Pema Chodron, Cecilia Bartolli, Kundera, The Cure, Led Zeppelin, Dangermouse/Sparklehorse, Long legs, Camus, Jung, Herbert Von Karajan, Michael Fried, Murakami, Robert Hughes, Coppola, Noam Chomsky, Rushdie, Almadovar, Ang Lee, Leonard Cohen, Fela Kuti, Red Wine, Gainsbourg, Dostoevsky, The Godfather Trilogy, Cat Power, swimming in the sea, and drying in the sun, Portishead, John Stewart, Ray's Apu Trilogy, Gerhard Richter, Early Rolling Stones, Bowie, Scorsese, PJ Harvey, Neko Case, Patti Smith, Karen O, David Foster Wallace, Family guy, The Dalai Lama, Phillip Glass, Radiohead, Johnny Cash... I guess I should stop here as I might go on forever.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Music
- Ocean
- Butter
- Sketchbook and Pen, with lots of ink.
- Friends
- 6 more things (obviously rules aren't part of it!)
- Passport
- Something to say
- Camera(s)
- "Appropriate" Irreverence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is kindness often seen as weakness?
Wondering why I can't find a decent taco in NYC.
Why are our standards so low in advertising, architecture, design, food, film, etc. Where I will sail next, so I can continue musing about my diatribe, or reconsidering the significance of beauty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either driving out of town, or "there" already.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Umm, I like puppies? I'm told I smile when I sleep?
My first kiss was from Martina Navratilova...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You understand what emotional intelligence is, and give it some importance.

You have a passport.

You've done work on yourself, and understand its a process.

You understand sexuality is about how you feel about yourself, and not about what you "think" anyone thinks is sexy!

It moves you to do so, or think we might get along...

You think we might be able to find the "right" kind of trouble...