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heathery426

30 F Ann Arbor, MI

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 12:40pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I've walked along the Great Wall and had my path to work blocked by a grizzly,* but I still don't know which fork is the salad fork.** I spend more time talking about writing my novel than actually writing it. I take an excessive number of pictures of my cat.

I thought I'd feel more like an adult by now, but at least I'm still enjoying the journey.

*I was working in Yellowstone for the summer.
**I'm being facetious- I don't actually need any utensil-identifying help.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I seem to be making the rounds of living in Midwestern states. I'm originally from Wisconsin, I went to grad school (for creative writing) in Minnesota, and when I came to Ann Arbor for a visit, I liked the town and decided to look for jobs here--and was fortunate enough to get one.

Oh, and I taught English in China for two years. Bit of an outlier, that.

If that doesn't make it obvious, I love traveling. I also studied abroad in England during college. I would love to live overseas again at some point, but even if I don't I will definitely still travel as many places as I can.

Currently I work in English language assessment, i.e. making English tests for English language learners. I doubt I'll do it forever, but it's interesting and I'm learning a lot about the educational field outside the classroom.

I have an elderly cat and am experiencing a lot of jealousy towards my friends with dogs. Someday....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-reading quickly (it's my superpower)

-"school stuff" -in the humanities at least. I was that irritating kid who coasted in school without trying very hard.

-procrastination

-listening (if I'm allowed to keep my hands busy at the same time)

-a particular travel-centric kind of bravery. I don't have a need for speed and would never bungee jump, but I didn't blink at buying a one-way ticket to China knowing exactly three words of the language (啤酒,你好,谢谢, in that order).
The first things people usually notice about me
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People often tell me I have a nice smile. My orthodontist would be so proud.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I adore Terry Pratchett, and have involved conversations with people over what house they'd be in at Hogwarts. I'm pretty eclectic though--the Daily Show's books are sharing a shelf with poetry, Steven Pinker is next to a series about Merlin, and the Iliad is near Gaiman's "Graveyard Book."

I'm probably awful to watch movies/TV with, since I'm always talking about character development or narrative choices. Not fan of scary movies, and I *usually* don't go for rom coms or anime, but am otherwise pretty open to different genres. On TV itself, I usually only watch The Daily Show and Colbert, but I also watch a lot on Netflix. Recently watched: Dr. Who, Parks & Rec, Sherlock.

Music: I seem to be defining things by what I don't like as much as by what I do... but oh well. Not a country fan, and generally I only listen to rap/hip hop when dancing. Classical over jazz (in school I was an orchestra nerd) but I like many kinds of music.

Food: I can't eat much spice without turning into this really unattractive fountain of sweat, tears, etc., even though I think it's delicious. Pretty much anything is fine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I thought about going the literal "food, water," etc route, but:

1. Something to read: I've been known to compulsively read the nutritional info label while waiting in line.
2. Empathy: It's important to me to remind myself that what looks clear from my perspective isn't true for everyone. (This doesn't mean I accept any world view, just that I try to understand where it's coming from).
3. Intellectual curiosity: I don't mean only knowledge from books or school. But I'm curious about the world (particularly about language, history, and sociology/psychology) and am always learning.
4. Humor: I'm pretty picky about humor, but it's very important to me as a way to live in the world.
5. Kindness: A friend once told me that I'm not nice (I'm kind of blunt and sarcastic and tone deaf, actually) but that I'm kind. I hope that's true.
6. Chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm thinking about language and projects from work probably too much--I have a hard time leaving it at the office.

I also spend a lot of time replaying my conversations from the day and thinking of all the less-awkward things I could have said.

I read the newspaper (the top stories anyway) every day, so I spend a lot of time thinking about the terrible things that happen in the world and how adept we are at hurting each other. (I've tried not reading the paper, but it made me twitchy and it turns out that for me ignorance isn't bliss.)

Neil Gaiman once described Terry Pratchett's writing as, "outraged at what people can do to people, while proud of what people can do for each other," and that resonates a lot with me.

Despite every comment thread ever on the internet, there's still a part of me that believes if people with different views sat down and talked, really talked, and didn't get defensive at criticism, that we could really work things out.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm an introvert by nature, so my tendency is to come home from work and chill at home. I've always enjoyed going to someone's place for a relaxing time more than going out to bars or clubs.

But just because it's easy for me to stay doesn't mean I want to be a hermit. I value my outgoing friends for inviting me out even if I do grumble about it a bit. And given me-time to recharge afterwards, I usually do have a lot of fun being social.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not inclined to put anything all that private on the internet for anyone to see.

If you're familiar with the Myers-Briggs personality types, I'm nearly a textbook INFJ, with maybe a leaning towards INTJ. :)
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 28–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You should message me if you can write a non-generic message that's specific to me. I know sending a message to a stranger is awkward, but you really don't need to impress me with your wittiness or compliments or scenarios(?). If it's a message that could be sent to someone else without changing anything, it's probably not going to get my interest.

Otherwise... I'm not looking for one night stands, and I'm also not requiring that the next person I go out with be The One. But there's a lot of room between those two extremes, and I'm not sure how long my next relationship will be. It will depend on the person.