//Don't mess with me please if you just want to have free sex, one-night-stand, if you think that free sexuality equals free prostitutes. Polyamory is not about everyone with everyone, not even anyone with anyone. We share our body with people we would like to, and if we don't feel like it, we don't.

At the moment I'm only interested in people who ALREADY HAVE EXPERIENCE IN POLYAMORY, AND SERIOUS about it. So if you're not sure, you can ask questions from me etc. but don't expect anything. I cannot handle people who start to communicate by a short "poke" message. So if you want to write to me, don't write 'hello, fancy for a chat' or something like that, because that kind of message contains no information. If you write anyway, please write at least 10 sentences about why you're writing, about yourself or something, and what you think about - what you already know about - me. Those sentences can be questions as well
EDITED 09-09-09: not only questions. plus before you ask me anything have a look at my personal FAQ in my posts.

and I don't use Quickmatch. if you want to communicate, do it directly.//

I've just moved to London not long ago. I want to live (and already do) a polyamorous lifestyle. If you don't know what is polyamory, check for more info http://www.faqs.org/faqs/polyamory/faq/ and on the concept of consent see http://defma.blogsport.de/images/zustimmungeng1.pdf

It's pretty important for me so it's not just some advert for some interesting links or whatever.

I am told to be smart, logical, honest, sometimes too honest and pretty direct, which sometimes scares (away) people.

I have difficulties with dealing with people who are not critical (of the current society we live in).

I'm probably bisexual, between 2 and 3 on the Kinsey scale. Rather 2 present, and 3 in the future?

In many ways, I'm more male than female, especially when we talk about gender parameters, behaviour etc. I'd like to be more queer than male-kind, but it's not easy!:) That means I'm sometimes oppressive, interrupt, talk too much and not listen enough. And die right after orgasm:) which happens usually too fast!:)

At the moment I don't have any primary relationships, and I'm not sure if I want any. In a way it sounds really cool, and I don't have any problem with commitment and long term stuff, but in the same time it sounds a bit bizarre to tell someone 'hey, do you want to be my secondary, third, fourth or even less important lover?' It's just somehow too odd, although I already have some lovers who don't want to have more than random, rare nice sex, and that's fine too, if it's clear and consensual. I guess I would just rather have every relationship primary, no hierarchy between them, not distinguishing which one is more important than the others, or value them on a scale, but value them for what they are.

I don't have much rules in my polyamorous life, some minor things like not with a flatmate, not to mess up stuff; I try to avoid showing up as a couple in public, to avoid misunderstanding and representation of possessing each other or being possessed (that doesn't mean everything should happen behind closed doors, in the closet), not taking part in unclear situations, no cheating, that means no sex with monogamous people or in non-consensual situations, if the third (fourth, fifth:) parties don't agree, that doesn't work with me.

I want to live in open relationships, with respect, and caring, some open type of commitment and open communication (and clear rules)

Otherwise, out of non-monogamous relationships, I'm an activist, working on different projects, and trying to free myself from the everyday oppression that surrounds us all the time - including wage work. Instead I live in squats, skip food, cycle, and work on alternative infrastructure mostly within the anarchist scene. And travel a lot.

I live without money, in fact without any income, which is an experiment -- I want to see how far one can go with this without becoming a leecher:)

I would like to learn german again. And would like to learn making furnitures, working with wood. And have three times more hour a day to do all this...

in D.I.Y. things, fixing electricity, working with wood, fabric, drill, stencil making... i was good in photography but after some time I got bored with it and also it was dangerous and uncomfortable to carry around my SLR + the big set of lenses and keep them safe when we're running, or should run, or cycle and carry more stuff we find on the way, or its just anyway precarious cause we can get evicted and there is dirt everywhere... i'd like to have a small but good camera again... i've got a small but shitty now:)
opening closed doors without a key.
being nice to people every once in a while, other times being direct and welcoming if I feel like and arrogant, if my mood tells that... well...
new thing: feeling superior, a lot more clever than anyone else when I read messages from people here:) (I'm sorry in advance for telling you your message is empty and boring, doesn't have any content and make no sense at all:)
cycling in the city, fast and crazy
self-expression, hm, and sex, including prostate massage:)
and critical theory:)
talking in a way noone would understand, but maybe some would act like if they have PhD in sociology or cultural studies or sth like that:)
skipping and cooking food for lot of people, eating too much sometimes:)
getting more drunk than I should to avoid thinking about my personal problems, and about the conflict between the mainstream society and the alternative struggles - although it only works for a few hours...

I'm not good at lying. And my english is not that good as I thought - fuck!

that'd be a long list!
let's just mention some...

comics: xkcd :))

writers: Marx, Antonio Negri and other similar, Luc Boltanski, Pierre Bourdieu, Guy Debord, Foucault, Crimethinc stuff... etc etc. (oops social science only?) and fuuuck men only!!! lets add... Judith Butler?
+ Victor Pelevin. it's simply great.

films: Shortbus, Hedwig and the angry inch, The Raspberry Reich, Wilhelm reich - mystery of the organism, Sweet movie, Red psalm / Még kér a nép, 1900, This revolution, Dog day afternoon, Can dialectics break bricks?, The society of the spectacle, Dogville, The Idiots, After sex, Hukkle, Taxidermia if.... Mike Leigh's Naked The hours Peter Greenaway movies: The Draughtsman's Contract The Cook, the Thief, His Wife & Her Lover The Pillow Book 8½ Women Drowning by Numbers
have a look at my list of films i posted here. (i don't actually know all of it though:)

food: vegetarian, trying to be freegan (only eating milk products when it's from the bins). I don't like eggs, although I can eat stuff that has eggs if it's skipped, but the taste of it is too much. Sometimes I eat fish if it's skipped. But generally cooking vegan food all the time. I like everything that is home made!:) everything with lots of garlic. good home made pizza, home made tahini, home made hummus. beetroot. wasabi peas:) avocado, ginger. carrot salat with walnut and garlic and olive oil. red lentil soup with cashew. missing real sour cream. lithuanian unfiltered wheat beer with a small slice of lemon (svituris baltas). sweet or dry white wine. marmite. ciapatti. banana+chocolate baked in foil in bonfire. (i know, it's hippie to say such things...)

Did you know that celery soup, or fennel soup, a good vegan diet + generally avoiding junk food and too spicy food makes sperm taste quite good, not that bitter taste, but pretty sweet? Actually really fast, half day or a day (if you don't eat meat anyway - meat makes it horrible. but also milk products and eggs.)

sometimes german food and german music:) (like aufstrich - breadspread)

about music have a look at my list of music i posted here. there's also a list of films I have.
(i don't actually know all of it though, but probably most:)

spray+cutter+thin plastic for stencil making, or a big permanent marker
bicycle
hammer
raw garlic and fresh parsley (and fresh herbs) and ginger and olive oil and tomato and beetroot and carrot salat and... = a key for the bins!
water (hehe)
what to write last... you? no that's ridiculous and probably not even true (btw: you as in singular, or as in plural?:) ... ahm let's say giving and getting infinite love!

Multitude and Rhizome (Antonio Negri, Deleuze&Guattari, Foucault, poststructuralism, political philosophy in general) as a concept of autonomous networks and also how and why social movements are a failure (Boltanski) ... how to become less intellectual and more understandable for people from all social classes... Social change, everyday oppression, and how to get out of it. How to make a living without money, where to go skipping (dumpsterdiving) next... How to convince people that free love is possible. And how to escape from places where it seems they all get eaten up by the mainstream society, and the fear it produces, and they all go back to monogamy, excluding themselves form their own desires...

i spend too much time thinking about food (what I had or cooked in the past, in the present and in the future), and replay past sexual experiences.

... wondering why the people on this site I would agree with politically+personally (and that the personal is political & the political is personal etc) are not so attractive, and why those who look more attractive are sexist, capitalist/workaholic pigs and/or into monogamy... and why the not-so-attractive men have 5+ lovers, while the attractive ones not so many or not at all.

there are no workday for me, so every day is a holiday and there are no typical days!:)

that I haven't had as much experience with homosexual sex as I'd like to. But I did have a group massage experience and would really like to repeat it!!!!

and that I don't have any fuckin' idea what is twitter, and not planning to find it out! and i'm proud of that! (unfortunately I knew what is Facebook. I wish I'd been older when it became popular)

YOU SHOULDNT. I'M NOT GONNA REPLY. I'M NOT IN LONDON ANYWAY NOW, THAT'S WHY

... if you can deal with sarcasm and cruel, direct way of being told off, sent to hell for being stupid, indirect, judgemental, sexist, sneaky or whatever else that you probably are even if you can hide it.

... if you agree that sex is a form of communication and want to tell me something:)
... or if you live somewhere in North-East London and have hot water, a bathtub, and a washing machine:)
... or you know about an orgy in London or reasonably close and want to invite/take me there...
... or you want to give me a massage and okay with not getting anything as an exchange:)
... or I saved your profile (I always save it with letting people know - I have nothing to hide) but I didn't write (yet? I might not write actually because I'm too busy but if you feel like you _also_ want to meet me, it could work. if I saved your profile I'd be up for meeting, at least for a drink and talk, watch a movie or show/visit an interesting alternative place, squat etc. somewhere that one of us don't know yet)
but more seriously if you live(d) already in open relationships or really willing to and you're critical on issues in everyday life. You don't have to be a hardcore anarchist or something, just not afraid of them too much and have some enthusiasm, motivation to do something serious about exploitation and alienation, climate change, racism and sexism. I don't mean you have to be a full-time public activist or sth, but at least take social issues into account in your everyday life decisions.

and so if you really want to live like this (polyamorous) and can deal with jealousy, and looking for some kind of partner, for sex, for intimacy, or maybe even more, you can contact me!:)

EDIT 2nd sept: and if you actually want to meet in person. no overseas and stuff like that, but some reasonable distance! like lets say you live or you're often in London:) I'm busy enough, and don't have time to develop distance relations, be it even just some random talk.

EDIT 22 Oct: be aware that I'm quite busy, not extremely busy, but more or less in waves. I travel a lot, especially between central-eastern europe and western europe, london, so I'm here a month, away a month, thus it's pretty complicated to develop anything long term, esp. beyond having friends/casual fuck buddies. Would be great to have more than fuck buddies, but technically it's too difficult now with time management. So if I don't reply for really long - or not at all - that's the reason.