I'm at the point in my life where I appreciate the finer things. I drink good beer, wine, (and the odd martini or g&t) and make pots of good quality tea.

I like spending time with friends at the pub (one where you can hear yourself talk - not nightclubs), having dinners in or out, and a healthy slab of time by myself (OK, being realistic, the free time to myself doesn't really happen. I'm normally too knackered by the time I get the alone time to really do anything except watch a DVD) - reading, painting, playing with my two Jack Russells.

I've always been cynical about internet meetings. They seem to be either strange, half-real relationships or Gaydar style hook-ups. However I have already met a couple of nice, normal people on OK Cupid, so decent run so far! None was exactly relationship material, but, working on percentages, I'm doing alright.

I'm a remedial therapist - that is massage, Bowen Technique, lymphatic drainage, Bach Flowers, iridology. I work in a busy multi-disciplinary practice in the CBD - City Clinic on King.

I get a fair bit of exercise - from my job, walking my dogs (at least an hour every day and more on weekends), walking to work, the pub, friends places etc and I've just started at the gym. Yes, I caved. I decided it was time to get in before the downhill slide gained too much momentum. I'm not fanatical at all. I just do some simple weights stuff, mainly targeted at core strength and endurance. I do feel better for it. The best part is that the gym has a steam room, so I always have the motivation of hot (sometimes), nude men. Yay!

I'm also studying almost continually - nothing major, just skills updating and the odd personal imterest course. Although I am thinking of studying counselling next year, both as an essential skill for my current work and a possible career path for when my poor hands wear out.

I'm also on the committee of a volunteer group that has taken a fair ol' whack of time this year, but that should slow down soon. We lost a couple of paid staff, so the committee were working harder than ever, but we have new staff starting soon.

Ignoring my first impressions which are normally proved right......

Causing immense physical pain (but for one's own good and done with love....).

How small I am - height and weight.

And lately the fact that I've shaved off my curls.

I'm generally fairly smiley.

Books - Jude The Obscure (Hardy), And The Ass Saw The Angel (Cave), Loaded (Tsiolkas), The Secret History (Tartt), and for poetry TS Eliot and Max Dunn;

Movies - Dancer In The Dark, Love And Other Catastrophes, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Drop Dead Gorgeous, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Shortbus(!);

Music - Tori Amos, Sinead O'Connor, Elvis Costello, REM, Violent Femmes, Brodsky Quartet, Dusty Springfield, Def FX, iOTA, Pixies, Breeders, Bjork;

Food - Japanese, good quality dark chocolate

Music, books, art, tea, my dogs, my faculties (terrified of dementia).

Things I can't change - and getting frustrated, angry and depressed.....

Too shagged to do anything. Leftovers and a DVD. Maybe sit on the internet for a while. Although, now I am making myself go to the gym on many Fridays to burn what tiny amounts of energy still reside in this little frame.

Private, schmivate - an open book here.

You are together, friendly and looking for an adventure or two. Or just a shag really.

I don't really have a "type". Shoot me a message and we'll see. I have this tendency to over-analyse these profiles and often decide, just from what's writtent hat someone is unsuitable without ever finding out properly.

There are certain things that are off-putting. Addictions are baaad. I don't mind if someone likes the odd endulgence, but frequent use is kinda sad really.

Alos, I've done the whole relationship with a closet case and it really ended up hurting me, so never again.