Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
People call me a firecracker.
I'd say I'm quick and kind, a smart aleck who might be a softie. I
cook. Hiking calms me down and good coffee revs me up. I laugh
easily, am slow to judge and like to sing to myself. I have East
Coast notions of loyalty and respect, and have learned only a few
things really matter: kindness and compassion, patience and a quick
wit. Dancing in the living room. Silliness.
My life has been an adventure, and I'm looking for a Lewis to my
Clark: a man who's kind, funny, smart and works hard at what he
Is that you? I hope so.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an Ellie-nominated food writer, I travel all over the US for my
research work, and have my own business. Which I love. My life and
career keep expanding, and I'm up for the ride.
Really, I try to be kind to myself and others every day. Stay
balanced emotionally, physically, spiritually. Enjoy what's in
front of me and laugh at the absurd. It's a good life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cooking, dancing, laughing, telling stories, cracking people up and
working things out. Upsetting religious fundamentalists while
remaining polite (it's a gift). I listen. And I read people pretty
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes. Sometimes LA people say I have a "bright energy." I take
it as a compliment.
Also, some people ask if I grew up on a farm. Ugh. But there are
worse fates than looking perpetually wholesome.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: Beckett, Cather, Kingsolver, Hemingway, H.D., Franzen,
Chabon, Lois/Bill W. and Roald Dahl. Short stories by Breece D'J
Pancake and Denis Johnson. I have an astonishing cookbook library.
(Yay!) And I like detective novels when I can't sleep.
Music: I have a piano, like dancing to Jamaican dancehall, prefer
music live when possible. I love the symphony- the rest,
What, no art question? Rothko paintings, love Marcel Duchamp, Man
Ray, illuminated manuscripts (I got to see The Book of Kells in
Ireland and it was AWESOME), I like feminist vaginal art from
O'Keefe to Judy Chicago, the beautiful repeating patterns you see
in Persian art/architecture/everyday objects, and Chinese and
Japanese scroll paintings from the Middle Ages.
Food: Pho (I wrote a story about LA's best pho!), good macaroni and
cheese- I eat and appreciate everything except turtles. Won't eat
turtles. I like food that is well-conceived, uses good ingredients
and is beautifully executed, from a $2 tamale or banh mi to serious
cuisine. And my cooking is dope. If you dated me just for the food,
I'd get it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good coffee in the morning.
The plays of Samuel Beckett.
My friends and marvelous niece and nephews.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The way time and space interact, the quality of light, why the red
finches attacked my thyme plant, recipes, food I like, the American
food system, why Texas is the way it is, writing and the people I
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either out and about going to three different things, all of which
I'm excited about, or somehow have nothing to do at all.
When that happens, I'll have dinner with a friend, then maybe
wander around a bookstore. That's a great Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes my socks don't match. Judge if you must.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are self-aware, kind, a good eater, smartypants, hilarious and
have good manners. And fun! Let's have some fun.
Also: I want something real. A meaningful connection with a great
guy. I'm not into your threesome, Internet Man. (Though I'm sure
it'll be hot.)
So send a note! I'd be happy to hear from you.
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