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47 F Asheville, NC

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:47pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Like my no-makeup selfie? I turned 47 on Halloween 2013. Nothing like truth in advertising, I say.

I've been in Asheville 3 months, and the pickings are slim, my friends! Why don't people talk about politics and religion in this, the most progressive, liberal city in the state? These are intensely fascinating topics to those of us who can tolerate more than one opinion without having our brain melt and run out our ears. (Yes, I have a crush on Jon Stewart. Stephen Colbert is more of a big brother to me.)

I'm looking for straight men with strong personalities and opinions, extroverted or introverted. I've had it with passive men who won't risk rejection, or male libbers who truly believe there's no difference between the sexes and ask me to split a two beer bar tab. I'd prefer to take turns treating, that way we don't resemble a couple of antique ladies. :) My Myers-Briggs indicator is INFP. If you know yours, you're already on my short list. Curious? Try

I confess, I don't get the Asheville fetish with gardening and cooking. However, I am a grateful guest and with a generous heart who appreciates good fresh cooking, and the company of real people. I'm a city girl and a tenderfoot but wouldn't mind more exposure to the outdoors with a companion. I confess to being a bit intimidated having breathtaking mountains everywhere...I'd like to see what I'm missing.

I love good movies (WHEN one is made) and strong cinema on obscure TV channels, like The Walking Dead and Hell On Wheels. Grimm and Anger Management are just my guilty pleasures. If good (meaning psychological, not gore) horror movies freak you out, we're not a match. I love science fiction, but again, the GOOD stuff. Firefly, Star Trek, Grimm, the Alien movies (I named one cat Ripley and another Bishop), Buffy, Shamalan's Signs, the ORIGINAL Blade Runner, The Matrix, Forbidden Planet, Metropolis. If you play Dungeons & Dragons or write Star Wars fan fiction, bless your heart...but we're not a match.

A few specifics...I'm not here for a hook-up. I'm here for dating and good friendships, and I am sexually monogamous. New friends are great and I can always talk to an honest soul. Please have a least one clear photo of your face in your profile. I don't want to think you are married and hiding it, which is uncool. Also, I'm not looking for a strictly online email is always personal with me. Odd how I never knew how many people are afraid of face to face interaction until I joined this site.

I'm a funny, hopeful, affirming person with a lot to offer. I'm often told often that I look younger than my age...this I attribute to my Irish and German grandmothers. Can't take credit for good genes. I always try to see the another point of view as an opportunity to learn. I don't have children, and would prefer a partner without kids or with teenage/grown children. I'm looking for sex and intimacy; someone to spend romantic time with and active physical time with as well.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently a full time grad student at Lenoir-Rhyne University getting my Master's Degree in Counseling. I'm trying Asheville after 20 years in Charlotte and one in Boone. Charlotte left me exhausted from fighting the Bible Belt, the big bank materialism and the soccer mom mentality. I left for Appalachian State after getting my B.A. in Psychology at UNC-Charlotte. Boone is beautiful, but bereft of single men 35-55. Here's hoping I find my niche in Asheville, you guys like freaks and geeks, right? Well, my OKC test tells me I'm a "modern, cool nerd."
I’m really good at just comes naturally to me...not sure if that is a plus or minus sometimes. Anything which requires emotional intelligence and good intuition. I'm detail oriented and a compulsively good speller. My empathy runneth over. Service oriented and an expert at anticipating needs of clients and those close to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a sarcastic smartass wrapped in a lot of compassion. Perhaps Jon Stewart and I were separated at birth?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Sun Also Rises, The Catcher in the Rye, Look Homeward Angel, The Land Where the Blues Began, My Old True Love.
Movies: Alien, Forbidden Planet, The Avengers, The Thin Man, North By Northwest, The Zeitgeist documentaries.
Television: The Walking Dead, Hell On Wheels, Anger Management, Grimm, Archer, Doctor Who.
Music: Delta blues, Irish fiddle tunes from Appalachia, 60s/70s AOR, 80s New Wave, 90s Alternative. Nick Cave, Johnny Cash, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Etta James.
Food: Grilled/roasted veggies, turkey, pork, tuna, Fox Barrel Pear Cider, Angry Orchard Apple Ginger Cider. IPA beer is disgusting, give me a Stella and erase your damn chalkboard.
The six things I could never do without
Affection. Chocolate. Sex. Friends. Tabby cats. The Daily Show.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How the years I've spent starting over will be worth it when I graduate; whether men and women are really meant to live together for our greatly extended lifetimes; if life might be better in a resource economy without free market greediness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully, spending time with a gentleman rogue who has talents I am still discovering. Most likely, I'm streaming a movie or The Walking Dead, happy the week is over.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My answers are public...all 2000+ of them. I was stuck in my Boone apartment during a blizzard last winter. (P.S. Answer at least 300 questions to get the best matches.)
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 37–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You find my Scots-Irishness heritage attractive. To be clear, I was born in NC, but lost most of my accent working 15 years in the corporate travel business.
You enjoy dry humor or sarcastic wit, and the BBC.
You're smarter than the average bear.
I message you...even if all you say is "no thanks".