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40 M Oakland, CA

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
There are a few thing that I've learned in my short life:

1. There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.
2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
3. Bad decisions make good stories.

On that note, my father once told me that, at the end of my life, I would remember the experiences I had not the items I purchased. I take this to heart each and every day and consciously put myself into situations where I will have the opportunity to meet new people, learn new things or at least have an interesting story to tell a friend.

People always describe me as a "nice guy" and I don't see this as a bad thing. I'm an excellent friend, the first person people call when they need a favor and always go the extra mile to help someone out.
What I’m doing with my life
Work. That's not actually true but sometimes it does feel like it. I am the owner of a small residential construction company which has grown dramatically in the past year. I really enjoy owning my own business particularly doing something that I love each day.

In my free time I like to take a ride on the motorcyle either through the hills or perhaps up to Napa. I also enjoy playing the guitar and recently started playing the piano again. I've also taken up boxing at a local gym here in Oakland as a fun way to stay in shape.

Last year I completed the Tough Mudder in Squaw Valley and it has inspired me to get into better shape and stay that way. So now I am back in the gym a few times a week and am training for the race in LA next summer.
I’m really good at
I'm very good with my hands. Almost each and every nail in my home was hammered by me. Although it still needs a bit of TLC, I'm incredible proud of the fact that I took a run down foreclosure and turned it into a beautiful home.
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people notice about me is my manners. I believe in "thank you" and "please" and don't think treating others respectfully makes me less of a man.

The other thing that people will notice quickly is that I say what is on my mind. I absolutely never have any intention of ever hurting anyone's feelings but believe that direct communication is much better than beating around the bush.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I really enjoyed Life of Pi and Water for Elephants. Just finished reading The Passage, which is a pretty interesting and unique take on the vampire stories, and the Hunger Games at the recommendation of a friend. The Dark Tower series by Stephen King was also good but I wish he could figure out how to end a story. Shadows of the Wind was one of my favorites.

Movies - I watch pretty much anything from the Disney to horror. I don't think a movie has to be an Academy Award winner in order to be a fun evening but I've recently found that there has to be something there to keep me interested. Nothing recent really comes to mind as being fantastic. As far as favorites go, Shawshank Redemption is high on my list.

Food - I'm currently in the market for cooking classes. I enjoy food and pretty much eat anything but am really interested in learning more about how to cook. I really envy the people that can look in their cupboard and refrigerator and think up a meal. Right now, if I don't have a recipe, I am pretty much out of luck.
The six things I could never do without
1. My daughter
2. My mind
3. Occassional peace and quiet
4. The LA Times crossword puzzle
5. My passport
6. Orange Tic Tacs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why the travel and airlines aren't doing better considering almost every person on OKC is traveling the world so often. While I love to travel as well, and have done so extensively in the past, I probably now only get one significant venture per year. Hopefully this year it is back to Australia as my trip to Egypt fell apart due to obvious issues.

Otherwise, it's probably about the future in general. I'm a pretty laid back guy and generally go with the flow. But since I have no intention on maintaining the daily grind until I'm 75, I stay pretty focused on getting where I want to be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually doing something pretty mellow. Dinner with the family or friends. Maybe a beer and shooting some pool.

I also enjoy playing poker, either online or preferably in person. I used to play in hold em tourneys occassionally when I lived in LA but sort of let that go recently.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a dad in every sense of the word. I spend a lot of time with my daughter and am definitely not the "every other weekend" kinda guy.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
1. You enjoy having fun with someone new, whether or not that leads to romantic involvement.
2. You think you can teach me something new.
3. You take the time to actually type words instead of using "ur" and "l8r".
4. You can laugh at really tacky and distasteful humor and know that it doesn't make you tacky and distasteful.
5. You have a skill that would be useful after the zombie apocalypse.