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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–46
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 3:00pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Not at all
Christianity, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of space camp
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Dislikes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The Basics. I'm a silly human being. Which is to say I like to laugh and don't take myself too seriously. But I'm also intelligent, sensitive, grounded, and sincere. I make things with my hands, usually out of wood. Free time is infinitely more important to me than a lavish lifestyle. I like to listen, observe, ask questions. I'm 38, frequently mistaken for 28-32, and often feel younger than that. I'm generally a vegan, consistently a life-long learner, and oftentimes a walking contradiction. I'm better one-on-one than I am in a group. At home or when the weather is nice I enjoy being out of clothes. According to Myers Briggs personality theory I am an INFP (Healer/Idealist); according to Enneagram personality theory I am a Type 9 (Peacemaker). Besides quality time with people I care about, my favorite things are music, movies, books, and exploration.

Lifestyle. I'm in favor of minimalism, a DIY ethic, re-purposing found items, and non-consumption when possible. I like the idea of having a smaller space and fewer things and thus not having to work so hard and so long to acquire and maintain them. It doesn't make sense to me to own a grand home that sits unused most of the day because I'm out working to try to pay for it.

Love. I'm a very devoted person, a very loyal person, a very caring person. I find active ways to serve the people who are important to me. I believe in being genuine, sincere, trusting, open, truthful. I am quite empathic, a wonderful listener, and exceedingly patient. I want to follow as much as I want to lead and I don't have to be right. Mostly all I want is quality time, intimacy, and friendship with the person I am sharing my life with. Is this what it means to love someone? If so, I love well. If not, I'm open to learning better...

Food. I've followed a primarily vegan diet since the beginning of 2004. Every once in a while I add a few things back in on an experimental basis, if I feel good about where those things come from and how they were raised. I've never been a "Food Nazi" about any of this and am not the type to be preachy or cast judgement on what other people are choosing to eat. However, since food is such a big part of life, a partner who follows a similar regimen would certainly make the practicalities of day to day life a lot easier! Still, you never know...

Belief. I grew up in a conservative, evangelical environment. It molded and shaped me into the person I am in both good and in bad ways. It set me on my course and informed my values. That said, I never really fit into the categories they emphasized and today I find myself actively asking LOTS of questions about all of that. My world is not as black and white as it once was. I don't feel I have many answers. Only questions. At the moment I'm leaning more away from that background than toward it. The divide is growing, but without animosity.

Sex. I took to heart much of what I was taught when I was young. This included beliefs about sexuality and faithfulness: not sleeping around; not playing around; waiting for marriage. In recent months and years I have been reconsidering those positions and am currently more in tune with my own sexuality and not someone else's opinion of what my sexuality should be.

Choices. It can be hard for me to make a decision or take a particular stance on an issue. This is because of my capacity to see things from multiple points of view; to understand and relate to all sides of an argument. It's one of my greatest strengths and also one of my greatest weaknesses. I consider myself a generalist, I rarely speak in absolutes, and I try not to get pinned down. You may find this frustrating.

Career. I'm both competent and artistic. I'm good at working with my hands and I generally like to work alone. I fix things. I build things. I help people make their living spaces (and sometimes their working spaces) better. But I keep it casual. I'm not a driven, ambitious person. It's all word of mouth. I'm not good at selling myself. Still, I've got more work than I can keep up with, so I guess that's a good thing; but it could be turned into a much more efficient, effective operation and I like the idea of a partner who could be a good balance to me in that context.

Likes (in a partner). Kind eyes. An easy smile. Honesty. Happiness. Playfulness. Sensuality. Long, dark hair. Height. Natural features. Direct communication (the practice of saying what you mean rather than "hinting" at it or "beating around the bush" and just hoping or assuming that I'll get it; there's a good chance I won't). Someone I can play and sing music with and for.

Dislikes (in general). Sports (football, basketball, baseball, golf). News media. Country music. Commercials. Politics. Competition. Violence. Alcohol. Debate. Seafood. "Guy" guys. Fashion. Disturbing content. Plastic surgery. Ha. It's true.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Helping friends build things they want and need.

Learning about things that are of interest to me at any given time.

Trying not to lose my sense of wonder, curiosity, and innocence. I don't want to be jaded, hardened, cynical. I agree with the sentiment that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Sometimes even pain can be a welcome friend because it signifies that my heart is still able to feel; that it hasn't shut down after all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Explaining complex things in simple terms (once I understand them). Making things. Asking questions. Figuring things out. People watching. Playing music. Procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Based on the feedback I've heard over the years? My energy. My eyes. My lips. My smile. Sometimes my butt.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I would rather not do without:
-Quality connections with a few, close friends
-A sense of humor
-My hearing
-A laptop
-Peppermint essential oil
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Beliefs, sex, food, hobbies, personality theory, relationships, faith, and life choices.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading a book, surfing the web, watching a movie, riding a bike, eating a meal, taking photos, hanging out with a friend. I would prefer to be spending it with a partner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In person, once I know you, I'm an open book. Ask me anything you want. I'll tell you.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Attraction is very subjective but here are some known quantities that have done it for me in the past:

-Something about what I've said here resonates with you.
-You are not put off by a guy who is still searching.
-You are more "funky/hippy/tomboy" than "fashion/driven/diva."
-Smiling, laughing, and playfulness come easily to you.
-You're OK with not trying to keep up with the Joneses.
-You are a curious person who has not stopped asking questions.
-You are attracted to thin guys.
-You are creative (artist, dancer, musician, photographer, etc)
-You are hungry to pursue connection with a partner.