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heyoverhere_x

59 / M / gay / Single

Tampa, Florida

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 7" (1.70m).
Body Type
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Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
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Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Kids
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Pets
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Languages
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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I am bright-but-average, energetic, and patient.

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My Self-Summary

Friends say I'm a good listener. They also like what I say. I guess that's a good combination to have, but you'll find that I tend to hang back in conversation until I get to know you and how your sense of humor works. Laugh at my jokes and I'm your friend for life (and if I'm way out in left field, just tell me). I'm bright but very much an average guy. I'd much rather go to a show, concert, or movie than get into the details of philosophy. Left alone, I tend to read, sing, exercise (bicycling, hike), or travel (bike, scuba, or whatever), and to drop out of popular culture. With friends, I get into whatever they're into, within reason.

What I’m doing with my life

Work. I just moved from the Seattle area to Tampa near USF in August, 2008. For fun in the NW, I sang (tenor) in a local community chorus that does community service, and I served it as treasurer. I've joined a chorus in Tampa. And I'm a travel junkie, blessed with good friends to visit or travel with in a variety of interesting places. I'm a warm-water scuba diver, which is a great excuse for travel, and I got into bicycle touring about 5 years ago. I bike out in Flatwoods regularly to keep in shape (and am always looking for someone to ride loops with).

I’m really good at

Thinking logically about a problem or situation and figuring how to proceed. Then I can just wade in and know what to do, and get to the end result. I'm really bad at giving someone else directions on how to help, or at laying out a plan ahead of time.

I'm also really good at being a "strong second" to someone with a clear vision of what he wants to accomplish. If I buy into that vision, then I'm good at keeping him on track to accomplish it. And I'm really good at appreciating that kind of support from someone else.

The first things people usually notice about me

When I'm relaxed and at ease, my walk and my smile. In other conditions, I don't know.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

T.H. White's Once and Future King; The Mission; any music that evokes magnificence; and an awful lot of Spanish cooking.

The six things I could never do without

A group to sing with; people to talk with; a bicycle; scuba gear; a computer; and at least some warm weather.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

How to be more effective at what I do and want to do.

On a typical Friday night I am

Pretty domestic. In Olympia, you'd find me at home, cooking, probably doing some treasurer's stuff for the chorus, maybe ironing while watching a rented movie. Minus the treasurer's work, Tampa is similar. During symphony season, about half of my Fridays are attending concerts, preceded by a good dinner out.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm going to have to think about this one. I like to think that I've shared just about everything about me with at least one other person. I guess I would say the following. While there are some guys I'm instantly, intensely, physically attracted to, it usually takes me a while for that to develop. I need to spend time with someone, get to know what's cool and exciting and important, and share some of that. Learn each other's senses of humor. Get to feel really relaxed with each other. And start to notice little things about each other that are exquisite just because of what you know about each other. Stuff that takes time to learn and develop but that makes a friendship or relationship strong. I want to get to that stage before getting in bed with someone.

You should message me if

You think I'm someone you'd like to know. Or if you have a clear vision of what you're wanting to accomplish, and need someone to help with the details and keep you on track (that "strong second" thing).

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