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hhelenah

35 F Cambridge, MA

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:15am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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i'm a professor, i'm from new zealand and i have an identical twin. according to one of last Fall's teaching evaluations, "professor h is wonderfully happy all the time". false, student! you get a C- for insight. (i'm a performing introvert - like a chipmunk on her third martini when in front of the class). i do have many enthusiasms and am usually quite cheerful. i say what i think, and i say it in a cute accent. i'm a nice person.

i love this poem:

If dawn breaks the heart, and the moon is a horror,
And the sun is nothing but the source of torpor,
Then of course I would have been silent all these years

And would not have chosen to go out tonight
In my new dark blue double-breasted suit
And to sit in a restaurant with a bowl

Of soup before me to celebrate how good life
Has been and how it has culminated in this instant.
The harmonies of wholesomeness have reached their apogee,

And I am aquiver with satisfaction, and you look
Good, too. I love your gold teeth and your dyed hair-
A little green, a little yellow-and your weight,

Which is finally up where we never thought
It would be. O my partner, my beautiful death,
My black paradise, my fusty intoxicant,

My symbolist muse, give me your breast
Or your hand or your tongue that sleeps all day
Behind its wall of reddish gums.

Lay yourself down on the restaurant floor
And tell me all that’s been kept from my happiness.
Tell me I have not lived in vain, that the stars

Will not die, that things will stay as they are,
That what I have seen will last, that I was not born
Into change, that what I have said has not been said for me.
What I’m doing with my life
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some things I enjoy: reading / writing, california / the west, mid-century architecture & design, swimming, the new york review of books, national parks, foxes, hummingbirds, log cabins, pine trees, mixing cocktails, outdoor movies, the sea.

3 years ago a cashier at home depot asked for my ID so she could check if i was over 14 and could legally buy spray paint. but, sadly, i want to be 65: i've taken classes in bird-watching, tree identification and lawn bowling and i like sewing unusual things onto pillows.

I’m learning to play the ukulele (who isn’t?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books

e.g.: short stories: john cheever, lorrie moore, alice munro, lydia davis, george saunders. poetry: mark strand, louise gluck, philip larkin, patrizia cavalli. novels: to the lighthouse, swann's way, madame bovary, herzog, housekeeping, revolutionary road, the moviegoer, the go-between, the mountain lion. alice in wonderland, the wind in the willows. art/architecture/design: populuxe (hine), american glamor (friedman), everything is its own reward (paul madonna).

music

always: andrew bird, neko case, silver jews, stephen malkmus.
more recently: pandora tells me that i'm into shoe-gazing literate softly homespun electroclash midtempo panoramic woodsy glam pop. apparently so.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me if
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I like men who are at least some of the following: passionate about something in particular and sometimes wild about everything; interested in art / literature; funny; inquisitive; kind; silly on occasion; comfortable in their own skin; happy spending time alone; not all that interested in material gain. i like a guy who is willing to face up to the dark side of life, but who, when all is said and done, finds the world beautiful and fascinating: worth paying close attention to.

you should message me if:
you want to do these kinds of things on weekends: read books under trees or in cafes; see live music / art / dance; hike; go on road trips and picnics around new england & new york; play badminton or croquet in meadows (or ping pong indoors); seek out new experiences; have a great conversation over a dinner that’s almost as great.

(if I don't reply, it's because I don't think we're right for each other, not because I don't appreciate you getting in touch).