I never know how to answer these questions: what's your hometown?
where did you grow up? where are you from? I was born in Sweden,
raised in England and Hong Kong, moved to California in my mid
teens. It's a great world. I've had the privilege of seeing a lot
of it, and there's a lot more I want to visit. On my shortlist of
trips I want to take in the next couple of years: Iguazu Falls in
South America, Vic Falls in Africa, revisiting Hong Kong, scurrying
between friends in the UK.
I seem to spend a lot of time in the pool; four times a week I swim
about a mile. The first three laps are always the hardest, but
then, miracle of miracles, the water seems to warm up and my
remaining swim is an exercise in earned decadence, the silken water
holding me up, no noise but the lapping of the water and my own
My home is filled with art and color and music, my time is managed
by my dog.
I am notorious among my friends for the ability to build a playlist
on almost any theme. We recently discovered, for instance, that I
have 27 tracks in iTunes about soup.
I'm not interested in anyone who: is under 45; lives outside the
San Francisco Bay Area; describes himself as God fearing; is
What I’m doing with my life
I work in fundraising...don't ask me about it unless you're really
interested, because I'm passionate about it and will talk your ear
off about why.
Work, swim, travel, play with dogs, play with friends, see movies,
read books, write letters, sew clothes. I recently overheard a
child complaining of boredom, and tried to remember what that feels
I’m really good at
Wanting what I have, being who I am, doing what I can.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm very verbal and have a tinge of a British accent (Surrey).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have an egregious tendency toward eclecticism, and don't seem to
be much influenced by pop culture. Some favorites, then.
Authors: William James, Lois McMaster Bujold, Jane Austen, Adrienne
Rich, Rebecca Goldstein.
Musicians: Bela Fleck, Nick Lowe, Ella Fitzgerald, Mary Chapin
Carpenter, Glen Gould, Elvis Costello, Patti Smith, Marc Bolan,
cousin Yehudi (Menuhin).
Film directors: Philip Kaufman, Peter Weir, Martin Scorsese, Sofia
Food: Greek, Indian, French.
The six things I could never do without
Other than the survival basics such as air and nutrients...books,
music, poodles, laughter, companions, inspiration.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What makes life meaningful.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing with friends, playing with poodles, out to see live music,
staying in watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I want to be wooed.
You should message me if
You think we might have an interesting or fun conversation, you are
in the San Francisco Bay Area, and you are age appropriate. If you
are under 45, I'm really not interested at all. If you want me to
respond to your message, say something that indicates you've at
least glanced at my profile or my answers to questions.