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26 Carbondale, IL Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Dec 8, 2014
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm not available for dating, but I'd love to make some new friends!

The ones I made when I did a short stint here in 2010 moved away before I came back last year because I think I'm one of the only people in Carbondale that actually likes it here. :P


I like to play with my wiener... dog, Penny; stare at railroad tracks, trees, and lakes; talk too much; take drum lessons; try to motivate myself to practice drawing; practice roundhouse kicks on my manfriend's little brother's punching bag; travel to Cape Girardeau for the crack-bread at Bella Italia; travel to foreign countries alone; read; listen to music too loudly in the car; appreciate beautiful people; live as many different lives in this one life as I can; do anti-oppression work; keep as few of secrets as possible; watch Game of Thrones with my manfriend while avoiding anything else related to television whatsoever; drool over Hayley Williams; not hide my quirks and enthusiasm for the things that make life worth living.

Every day I get a little bit better about not taking things for granted. I used to suffer from severe depression despite whatever good things were happening in my life. It was a long and difficult struggle and I would feel pretty frustrated when I'd come on sites like these and read crap like "I hate negative people." I hate summing up an entire human being with one vague and uncreative adjective. If you feel like your life is a giant entanglement of sadness and drama, no worries. If that is the case, you may already feel shitty enough without the internet shaming you and I'm not going to add to that.

However, I will not waste time or energy responding to one word messages, disrespectful messages, or lewd messages, and I'm likely to forget about it as soon as I see it. I'm not really that fun to troll. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
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Acting like an adult Monday-Friday at a job I quite like, 9 to 5, and otherwise doing what I can to never grow up.

I have to admit that occasionally I wonder if I sold out a bit, but I strongly believe that the work I do is important and if it's at the regular adult-a-maton time, so be it. I hope one day to have enough control of my career that I can change that up a bit. But I hate and am terrible at being a boss. So we'll see.

Also, Spending time doing things I love alone or with people I love, and sometimes boring things like cleaning my house.
I’m really good at
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Making horrible puns- PUNishment.
Typing extraordinarily fast
The first things people usually notice about me
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I guess I don't know what the first things people usually notice about me are because if everyone who saw me on the street everyday talked to me about what they first noticed about me, I'd probably have little time for anything else.

But I guess I'll stop being a smart ass and answer the question. During warm weather, I think my hairy armpits turn some heads.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Mah Favrit Berks: Oryx and Crake, 100 years of solitude

Movies: Everything is Illuminated, Brick, Wayne's World

Shitbox: Game of Thrones only. (okay, and Firefly).

Music: Deftones, Hanson (yes, for real!) , Beirut, Imogen Heap, Regina Spektor, The Honey Trees, Incubus, M83, Tori Amos, Birthday Massacre

NOMS: basil and cilantro. teeeaaaa. copious amts of garlic

Other: Andrea Gibson.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Slingshot planner
Puppies and other assorted baby animals
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the people I work with, the people I love, my dog, family dynamics, problem solving, psychotherapy, social justice movements, my to do list, how to save money for my next international travel adventure, how to manage my anxiety regarding pending/existing social and environmental disasters that some politicians, corporations and accompanying lobbyists merely find inconvenient to profit-making, how to appropriately respond to sexual and street harassment without getting myself shot or arrested, food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fucking exhausted from a week of hard work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My nails and the skin around them usually look like shit. I've had people try to get me to fix it, which is cute, but it's a lifelong habit that is probably not going away soon. Certainly not for lack of trying. That, dairy, processed sugar, and a tendency toward excessive contentiousness are my vices.
You should message me if
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you want to make a new friend! Especially if you like to travel.

and please don't message me if you think that just because I'm bisexual I'm automatically attracted to every person on the face of the earth and crave threesomes like water.... or if you think I'm not queer anymore just because I am currently with a cisman. I can acknowledge that I get privilege for being in a different sex relationship, but I won't acknowledge that bisexuality/sexual fluidity does not exist, because then I would be saying that I don't exist. And that would just be awkward.

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