Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This profile refers to how I behave and think when I'm not at work
and on my own time.
A cross between:
Isfj (counselor); Infj (advocate/diplomatic/idealist); istj (over
analytical and fact based cynic); intj (micromanaging but
imaginative creative writer)
But many who have known me in the past swear I'm an extrovert. I
thrive when I have a balance of social and alone time. There have
been times in my life (years at a time)! where I found it hard to
be alone, however. Was this evidence of being an extrovert, or
evidence of low self esteem and depression?
The moral of the story is, trying to fit most people into one of 16
boxes remains problematic. If that was already on your no shit
list, we may well get along!
I'm pretty patient with those I care about. When I feel
extroverted, it's because I'm getting energy from being around
people I enjoy who are respectful to me and their
That said, the other day I shoved a guy backwards and swore loud
enough for the entire bar to hear so that everyone could draw their
attention to the fact that a man put his hand on me without my
consent. I hate having to deal with this shit, but since it appears
that I have to I have no problem getting enjoyment out of
publically shaming the person as much as possible. (He was thrown
out of the bar).
I actually have a plan to pick my nose and eat my boogers at the
next man who harasses me given the right context. I find no
personal shame in desexualizing and humanizing myself when all I
want so desperately is to be able to be in the in the community and
still be treated respectfully without having to have a fucking male
escorting me every where I go.
If I could, I'd tell all the hundreds of men that have harassed or
otherwise attempted to make me feel small: Truly, it is not my
problem if you have no fucking self control when you feel
threatened by a powerful and beautiful presence but are so out of
touch with your feelings that you don't even realize this. Women's
power and beauty are not here FOR you. These qualities just happen
to be existing in the vicinity of you by some happy (or in her
case, not so happy) accident. Yet Someone taught you to destroy
anything or tear down anyone that is beautiful who cannot be yours.
To force your " compliments" or your dick or whatever you can down
her throat, because it's only your reality that matters to you.
Unlearn this. Stop poisoning my life because you are insecure.
Don't tell us to smile and then try to justify your sexual attacks
on us if we do. Don't expect us to be fleshy mannequins specially
placed to entertain you in the Truman show of your unexamined
That said, I will delete any message you send that is idiotic
without a second thought. :)
If it seems like I think a lot about this shit, it's because I have
no choice. It is my reality almost daily.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to break old habits and learn new skills
Planning a grand adventure
Dating a couple of people at once and enjoying it
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making horrible puns- PUNishment.
Typing extraordinarily fast
Psychoanalyzing myself and other humans
Helping my friends write essays about the evils of transphobia
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I guess I don't know what the first things people usually notice
about me are because if everyone who saw me on the street everyday
talked to me about what they first noticed about me, I'd probably
have little time for anything else.
But I guess I'll stop being a smart ass and answer the question.
During warm weather, I think my hairy armpits turn some heads. (and
that statement is not an invitation to message me about how sexy
you think my armpits are. Immediate deletion :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Mah Favrit Berks: Oryx and Crake, 100 years of solitude
Movies: Everything is Illuminated, Brick, Wayne's World
Shitbox: Game of Thrones only. (okay, and Firefly).
Music: Deftones, Hanson (yes, for real!) , Beirut, Imogen Heap,
Regina Spektor, The Honey Trees, Incubus, M83, Tori Amos, Birthday
NOMS: basil and cilantro. teeeaaaa. copious amts of garlic
Other: Andrea Gibson.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Leggings as pants. Fuck your judgmentssss (and ew if you are some
skeezy guy thinking of messaging me about that. Go away)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to manage my anxiety regarding pending/existing social and
environmental disasters that some politicians, corporations and
accompanying lobbyists merely find inconvenient to profit-making,
how to appropriately respond to sexual and street harassment
without getting myself shot or arrested, food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
exhausted from a week of hard work. Maybe out with friends... I am
comfortable hanging out at a bar without drinking so even though I
don't drink a lot I go out pretty often.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've made 2 or 3 friends from this site.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't want to have sex with me.
As in, repulsed by the idea.
Go on. I mean it. I am attempting to hoard friends who don't have
secret ulterior motives to have a sexual relationship. :)
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