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28 Escondido, CA Woman


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  • Ages 24-32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Nov 26
Relationship Type
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and it’s important
Working on University
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So I'm new to Escondido, moved down here to transfer to CSUSM. I'm excited about starting school again, but while I know that (technically) 28 isn't exactly old, there's definitely a part of me that's chagrined about becoming a Cougar.

I'm pretty nerdy. Might as well get out there and say that first off. I play video games, not as often as I should (that both makes zero sense and tons of sense), but on a day off, if the mood hits me I can easily blow 8 hours on some rpg or mmo. I go back and forth between preferring console vs pc, but I digress...besides, all my consoles (and TV for that matter haha) got stolen about two years agos, so I'm strictly PC. Recently I've been bleh towards games and gone back to reading.

I have opinions. About a lot of things. And I like discussing them.

I'm considering ordering a companion cube plushie. I'm not sure how comfy it would be though, but I almost think that's besides the point. Besides, when I no longer have a use for it, I can throw it into a fire and feel like I've accomplished something.

Oh, also, I'm a feminist. I feel like that should go without saying, but oh well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working as a pharmacy technician. It's an odd mix, I've got the people who treat me like I'm knowledgeable (which I'm not going to lie, is pretty fucking great), but then I've also got the people that assume it's like any other retail chain: bitch enough and you'll get what you want. I get a perverse sense of satisfaction telling those people "no."

School will hopefully lead to either more school, or a teaching credential (which, I guess technically is more school, but not for me).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Laughing at myself. It's come in handy, because I randomly do dumb things, like walk into doors (which, in reality, I should have the whole door thing mastered by now...), or walking into fixtures at stores. I also trip while standing still. I have a plethora of things I do that are teasing worthy, so being able to laugh at myself helps a lot.

I'm decent at figuring things out. While I don't necessarily KNOW how to solve a problem off the top of my head, the internet is a handy tool, and phones nowadays are awesome. The internet taught me how to install a stereo and speakers in my car; take apart, clean, and put a pistol back together; and how to whistle. Recently replaced my alternator after the bearings went bad. That was fun, considering my car must have been built by gnomes with hands a third the size of mine. But I managed. Huzzah.

Changing tires! I've done it often enough that it's less than a 10 minute ordeal. People don't even have time to stop and see if I want help.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tattoos? Maybe? That I'm from Texas. People always give me a funny look when I say "y'all" (it's a friendly word, dammit!) Um, that I read a lot. And have opinions. Lots of those.

Apparently it's the way I write. I'm a lefty and the way I write seems to confuse a lot people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Wheel of Time, as far as the books go. Excellent series. Anything by Brandon Sanderson as well, his books are amazing. I'm big into fantasy books, have read some science fiction (I definitely separate the two). Anne Bishop and her Black Jewels books. Read Good Omens recently and definitely enjoyed it. I've fallen in love with GRRM's series and honestly I'm dying to talk to a reader who'll talk theories with me and not just yell "SPOILERS!!" at me every time I open my mouth. David Weber is a good author as well. I read. A lot. When a book I've been waiting for finally comes out, I'm not going to be talking to you that Tuesday. I will have that day off from work and I will read from the moment the book store opens until I finish that book (I finished A Memory of Light in one sitting, I regret nothing). And I won't apologize for it.

Shawshank Redemption is probably my favorite movie, that's one of those questions where it's hard to nail down an answer. I like most kinds of movies as long as they're not stupid.

I enjoy cop shows, like Castle, NCIS, I enjoyed Psych while it was on. I am one of the rare people that do not like Game of Thrones. The book series is excellent, and while the show is amazingly done and the actors are awesome, I watched the first few seasons too close to having read the corresponding book, and the nerd in me went, "NOPE! NOT OKAY!"

I hate talking about music with people. I don't equate my likes and dislikes with what's "good" and "bad". I studied music for 11 years, and became quite good at playing an instrument. I have tons of respect for anyone who can compose anything, whether I enjoy what they create or find it distasteful. And I'm tired of listening to people tell me that I don't know good music while they orgasm over some band that does nothing but bounce between the I and the V chord (though I suppose at least always cadence on the I).

Not sure I have a favorite food. I like to cook, and I'm willing to try most foods once (sometimes it helps not to know what's in them before I try them--learned this in Amarillo when a friend had me try calf fries).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Barring the normal things like food and water and such: (in no particular order)
1. A book to read
2. My phone - (in order to read the books, huzzah ereaders)
3. Caffeine
4. A piano that I can access at a whim
5. Good pillows
6. Warm showers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The cultural differences between living in southern California and living in Austin, Texas, and how it's odd that I find myself missing the south occasionally. (Usually when I'm looking for someone to help me jump my car)

My rational behind my morals. As an atheist I don't believe in objective morality, and therefore feel I have to have reasons for why I am for or against something. I have a tendency to pull my friends into these musings.

Why so many people on this site like The Great Gatsby and The Fountainhead. I've read both of those and I really cannot fathom why someone in my age range would consider either of those as one of their favorites. If you can answer this for me, I'd love to talk to you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I honestly don't know? I work Saturdays so Fridays don't exactly have the same appeal that they do for people who work 9-5 Monday through Friday. Free time is spent catching up with friends or unwinding with a book or game.

(Also, shame on all you people who say "there's no typical Friday night", you're pandering.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a wheel of time tramp stamp. I regret nothing.

Also, I saw my first episode of Archer like, three days ago. What have I been doing with myself these last five years? I mean, seriously.
You should message me if
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You read! I love talking about books. I mainly read fantasy, but I'll occasionally pick up sci-fi or mystery books as well (and the occasional bit of smut, but everyone needs their guilty habits).

Apparently I need to add this again: Hi, I have a name, it's Heather! Please don't message me calling me something else. I'm so tired of hearing customers and people I don't know calling me pet names that it'll actually be quite refreshing to be called by my name.

To add to this (and that paragraph directly below this) don't message me and tell me I'm beautiful. I'm not arguing whether or not it's true, or whether or not I deserve something like that being said, I'm just so tired of getting messages that are just, "Hi! You're beautiful, let's get coffee sometime." Is this how you interact with people in the real world? "Hi! Inserts physical characteristic! Let's insert thing to do!"

Also, if you can message me with something that doesn't sound like a line, I'll be very impressed (the bar is on the ground there, I'm basically saying, "I will be impressed if you can form a comment that's specific to me!")

Another also! You can get my neighbors to turn down their bass. Dear god, what is with the people in escondido and their loud music? (I'm not an old man yelling at people to get off my lawn, I swear). When I lived in Texas, people would play their music loudly, but at least the bass was at a level that made sense, and you didn't feel your entire body vibrating from it.