Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you are a cis man and you are not actively involved either
emotionally, intellectually or materially in allying with struggles
for queer and trans liberation, please do not message me.
I oscillate between craving cozy domestic time snuggling up on the
couch under blankets, cooking Syrian stews and wanting to be
outside watching the sunrise and greeting the birds by the
I care immensely about the people in my life, including my long
term partner (who I am so lucky to be with.) I like having romantic
friendships, and friend flirting as much as I like being pursued
I've been practicing wielding my power lovingly and with
accountability. I've been feeling all femmed up lately after years
of presenting myself more masculinely. It feels amazing to be
responsive to my newly budding genders, and as a result I've been
extremely connected to my assertiveness and sexuality.
I'm witchy, an empath, and extraordinarily perceptive.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a community mental health worker for my job. I work with young
people with extremely severe behavioral struggles and their
families. When I'm not at work I write poetry, see my friends, cook
Halabi food (my mother is from an Aleppan Jewish family), watch
America's Next Top model (with self-conscious cynicism), support
POOR Magazine and the Homefulness project in deep East Oakland and
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Noticing magnificence almost anywhere, especially in light and
people and plants; allowing myself to be moved; being vulnerable
and strong; making the best salads ever (I have a tender, undying
love for vegetables); crushing; noticing what is happening in group
dynamics; developing meaningful relationships with kids; connecting
Jewish texts and traditions to contemporary political struggles;
The first things people usually notice about me
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My warmth, my strong opinions and outspokenness, my listening
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Middle eastern salads, avocados, really good Ethiopian food,
homemade almond milk. And lemons.
Separatist queer zines and pamphlets (particularly those written in
the early 90s.) an example is "QUEERS READ THIS: A leaflet
distributed at a pride march in NY, Published anonymously by
And poems, always poems.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bodies of water, sunlight, real intimacy, connection to ancestry
and family, the smell of open air spice markets in the Old City of
Jerusalem (where my family is from), radical Jewish community.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My grandparents who are far away and how to best express to them my
appreciation and love; how to resist colonization in all of it's
forms and how to support peoples' powerful resistance and
liberation struggles; gorgeous queers; how to express what is hard
to express and in what form; cooking, laughing, hanging out with my
friends, hot water, healing, bodies, the moon, and how to protect
time for these.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having Shabbat dinners with friends, watching trashy reality
television with my anti-capitalist, radical feminist boo.
You should message me if
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[You're a high/ hard femme of any gender who wants to get it on, or
you have a gorgeously complex masculinity and you either want to
worship me or boss me around. Also if you're a kind, solid, good
boy/ boi and you want to woo me through charming notes and home
made morsels, or in your own swoon-worthy ways. And you're
respectful of the fact that I have a primary partner to check in
with about things.]
I'm not currently in an open relationship, but I may be again some
You want to have tea and talk about things you care about or make
me laugh, I am too serious sometimes!
Or you want to friend romance me.
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