Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm afraid I sometimes get in a bit over my head, allowing my
imagination to lead when my reason might object. That's why I have
a semi-bi-coastal life, meaning a 180-year old house (no plumbing
or electricity) in the Champlain Valley of NY that spoke to me from
behind a veil of trees and weeds. I spend a few weeks to a few
months there summers, figuring out what do next. Last summer it was
repairing the sheathing and siding. I've learned a few things about
slinging a hammer, but I've sworn off table saws...
On the other hand, I'm a big reader and I write stories sometimes,
I'm attracted to warm-hearted intellectuals, gay-seeming straight
men, and wry humor, preferably in combination. I'm an ENFP, which
means I'm an introverted extrovert. But these days, I've been
pretty introverted. Although I've dipped my toe into OKCupid over
the past several years, I've dated only sporadically. I'm looking
for someone unusual I guess. I'll try to describe that more fully
when I can figure it out myself.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I finished grad school in May and just completed certification to
teach English to speakers of other languages. I'm not sure yet how
I will translate that into a new career. I'm thinking about
everything from community college teaching to overseas work or even
boarding schools. I'm beginning to interview, so keep your fingers
I have a curatorial project that's ongoing which will translate
into a museum exhibit in the next year or so. Once that's complete,
I'll be freed up to consider my options, especially living abroad
for awhile, which is high on my list of desires.
I've been working on my house here in the Bay Area a bit (in case I
decide to sell) and I'm also very slowly restoring that 19th
century house in the Adirondacks (upstate NY). I dream of having a
place for family and friends to gather during the summers for canoe
trips, hikes, visits to nearby Montreal, horseshoes and
Community and companionship are a bit lacking in my life right now
because most of what I do, I do alone. Which has made me a bit of
an introvert I think. A companion would really be a breath of fresh
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at talking to people and representing them fairly when I
write about them. I'm an enchanting conversationalist and I'm good
at taking the back roads. I like to find unlikely solutions and
cool objects and if you want to know something, I'll happily do the
research. I can cook up a meal out of nothing and do it quickly. I
can get into and out of a parking space in the same amount of time
it takes lots of people to put their key into the ignition.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably whatever expression's on my face. That, and my curls.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read all the time, though sometimes I get sucked into
compulsively watching a series on Netflix that takes all my
attention. Most recent of these was The Killing. I loved the way it
developed the butterfly effect, though the ending was a bit
anticlimactic. Endings are often sudden though; once something
becomes obvious, it's just obvious.
Right now I'm reading Krakatoa, learning about the development of
the spice trade and the rumble that ushered in globalism. I love
the sort of non-fiction that gives me a glimpse into a time before
something we now take for granted was known. An example would be
Dava Sobel's Longitude or a book I once read about the time before
centralized timekeeping. I'm also buried in books about early
anthropology and 19th century journalism, theosophy, and American
Recent TV: Wallander (Swedish), The Killing, Deadwood, Lie to Me,
Dexter, and Downton Abbey.
Music: I've been using Pandora stations more than my own music
library. I have Bebel Gilberto, Bowerbirds, Traditional Blues, Cab
Calloway, Antonin Dvorak, Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova, Sean
Hayes, Carla Bruni, Cole Porter, Jose Gonzalez, Van Morrison, Iron
& Wine, Joanna Newsom… you get the idea perhaps?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm thinking a lot about how history is constructed, who or what
got trampled or is left unremembered.
Lately I've been wondering if the wizard has anything in his bag
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The idea of having my belly button poked is as appealing as having
my eyeball poked.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're smart and warm and offbeat, even goofy, with a knack for
the English language and possibly introverted, don't be shy. I'd
love to meet someone handy and artistic who can teach me a thing or
two or someone sporty and fun who'd enjoy taking me and my dog on
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