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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 41–65
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:41pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you've answered at least a couple hundred questions it would be foolish to not read this entire profile, look at our 'the two of us," especially the questions with explanations and maybe even take a test or two.

I'm a 59 year old product of growing up in the '70s and being young in the '80s. Like everyone else I've got some baggage but I try to not make others in my life carry it for me.
I'm reasonably smart, fairly funny, normally honest, generally reliable but very seldom precisely on time. I'm much more a doer than a watcher Given an either/or choice I'll usually opt for both/and. I try to live by the "Platinum Rule," i.e. "Do unto others as they would have you do unto them." I am very widely read and can discuss (literally) most things without sounding like I don't know what I'm talking about. Yes, I really do mean "most."
I've never been married and only been engaged once. I believe the exchanging of marriage vows is the deepest level of promise you can make. Your word is the only thing which can't be stolen from you. In some ways I'm extremely old-fashioned. I believe in marriage as just once "...until death do us part." In others I am among the most avant of the avant garde. I don't try to tell mentally competent adults what to do to, with or for each other as long as I don't have to participate in it, pay for it, or clean up afterwards.
This is such a cliche' but for us to have any future beyond being shooting stars in each others' romantic skies you "must love dogs." Truth to tell it's pretty much non-negotiable that it's "love me, love [or at least like] my dogs." I do not have children. These are my furbabies. I'd like to say my "stuff" is all together but it's not. What I bring as a friend/lover/partner is honesty, humor, affection, a listening ear and intimacy (mentally enlightening, emotionally exhilarating, and physically fulfilling). Oh yeah, I should probably mention that I can put a smile on your face every time you think about us.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm writing three books, one of which is sold, at once. I'm doing some self-healing and therapy to resolve stuff which came up during my mid-life crisis. I'm playing with my dogs, but not nearly enough to suit them. I'm trying to bring who I am more in line with who I think I should be. I'm actively searching for someone that is willing to invest energy in creating a safe, satisfying friendship and love affair. If we're lucky this would ripen, without pressure, into something deeper--a lifelong romance.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the answers to others problems very quickly. To mix metaphors I'm skilled at using Occam's Razor to slice through other people's Gordian knots. I also frequently see ways to combine elements in a new and synergistic manner.
cooking, reading dogs' body language, therapeutic massages and erotic body rubs (both giving and getting), calming, word play, learning, laughing, listening, encouraging, physical intimacy and sex, adapting, finding my way around in places I've never been, writing, Scrabble and Cribbage, blowing harp (when in practice), growing cannabis, teaching, procrastinating, forgiving,
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am animated and speak with my hands and large gestures; my dog(s), at least one of which is generally with me when I leave my house; I'm not tall; my Fu Manchu moustache; all or none of the above
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books, (Absolute Favorites)"Stranger in a Strange Land" and the Lazarus Long series by Robert Heinlein, anything by David James Duncan (especially "The River Why" and "The Brothers K,)" Malcom Gladwell's "The Tipping Point," Bill Drake's "The Cultivator's Handbook of Marijuana" and a preposterously long list of others.

Movies: Mr. Magorium's Magic Emporium (Dustin Hoffman and Natalie Portman), Little Big Man, It's a Wonderful Life, Rudy, Miracle Beach, Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (anything with Sidney Poitier), McClintock, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers and more!!!
(more to come)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my self-respect, my freedom, my family (by blood, by mutual adoption and four-legged), music, intimacy (all kinds), laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I'm going to do for the rest of my life. Who, if anyone , I'll be spending it with. (More to come)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either sitting in front of this thing trying to get the words of one of the three books I'm working on (one sold) to fall out of my head and onto the screen or I'm out procrastinating. My procrastination can take many forms. It would be nice to have someone to procrastinate with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I kiss dogs and even sing to them, in public.
You should message me if
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After reading this section all the way through, you think it's worth our time to explore our potential.

Here, in a nut shell (Where did this expression come from?) is what and who I'm looking for and a glimpse of who I am.

I believe it's possible for two kindred spirits to connect, challenge one another intellectually, enjoy one another physically, nurture one another creatively and emotionally and develop a fantastic sexual rapport, all while maintaining separate selves and parallel lives. I’m looking for inter-dependent, not co-dependent.

I want to laugh my ass off for hours with someone. I want to feel my heart skip a beat when I see them and I want for us to not be able to keep our hands off of each other as if we were a pair of teenagers who have just discovered how good it feels to touch and be touched. I want someone who'll laugh as hard as I do when someone tells us, "Get a room!" I want to talk for hours about everything and nothing. I want to smile when, in the middle of the day, I think of something she said. I want to be someone's safe harbor and have someone be mine. I don't want this feeling to go away in a year or two. I want to go haring off on wild adventures at the drop of a hat and believe that we'll be talking about them with smiles on our wrinkled faces, maybe holding hands on a deck facing the sunset, when we're old. I long to look forward to growing old with a specific someone. I want to know there is one person on Earth I can absolutely count on and to be that someone for them. I've just about given up on "happily ever after," but "pretty darn content, most of the time" has a nice ring to it.

I'm looking for a best friend, confidant, partner in adventure and lover all rolled into one. The woman I'm looking for values honesty. She is a passionate soul with a life rich in experience. She’s willing to invest energy in creating a safe and satisfying romance. The joy felt during courtship and the reward of a mutual seduction...the dance of intimacy...the give and take of power, and the possibility of some shared adventures are all welcome. Possessiveness and suffocating enmeshment are not."Hold on loosely, but don't let go."

Hopefully, over time and without the pressure of expectations it will ripen into a life-long love.

A little about me—I’m: reasonably intelligent; occasionally funny; usually reliable; much more of a doer than a watcher. I’m seldom precisely punctual, but usually pretty close; and a highly-skilled, enthusiastically uninhibited, and considerate lover who knows how to touch the most sexually sensitive spot you have--the one between your .................................................................. ears. (I pay attention to my lover's body showing me what it craves and how to satiate that craving.) Faced with an either/or choice, I’ll usually opt for both/and. I try to live by the Platinum Rule, “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” I laugh at people's quirks and idiosyncrasies instead of getting irritated by them. I appreciate life's absurdities and ironies. I love to laugh, especially at myself. My cooking will give you tongue-gasms. I can speak about an unusually large number of subjects without sounding like I don't know what I'm talking about and I'm really good at seeing the answers to other people's problems. I have strong hands and a willing heart. In other words I'm not totally boring.

If what I've said here echoed in your heart, mind and loins quit wasting time! Get back to me!

If not, good luck finding just who/what you're looking for.