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30 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 6
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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I'm creative, slightly introverted, and I like to learn, but I also like to eat pizza and party with my friends. I'm sort of like if you had a cross between Bluto and the kid that's always raising his hand in your Philosophy 101 class in freshman year of college.

I value kindness, being open to experience, creativity, intelligence, cleverness, wisdom, and a sense of humor. I dislike basketball, boring music, "just going to bed" on Friday nights, and running all over town doing errands. I'm in good shape, and I try to take good care of my body, but I'm not crazy about it. I'm fairly mellow, but I've also been told that I wear my heart on my sleeve.

For a first date, I like to go out for drinks/tea and conversation. I'm open to ideas, and if something sounds cool to me, I'm there.

In the interest of full disclosure, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with a friend of mine who has a significant other. I currently do not have a primary relationship of my own, and we have discussed the possibility of me finding a long-term girlfriend. She's really beautiful and totally awesome! Perhaps you would like her too! Maybe you would even like her husband. But I guess that's not all necessary or mandatory - just something to be aware of. I can see how such a scenario might be intimidating - but the rewards may also be great? Time will tell. If you have questions, feel free to ask away.

All of that said, I have decided that I'm looking for love - not just sex. I'm romantic and I have deep connections with people. Being 30 and all, I'm thinking long term about this whole thing. I'm looking for someone that is creative, open to variety, and emotionally available. I have some scars from past relationships like everyone else, but I'm past the point of wanting to be with someone that's not available to me anymore. I hope you're the same.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a Special Projects Coordinator at a non-profit in Vancouver. My most recent project was to start a Mental Health program for low-income people. I also am in a garage rock band. I want to go to PSU and get my MSW so I can become a therapist.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring people out. Weird lines of thought. Futurism. Playing guitar. Writing songs. Being friends with people.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Really don't know about this one. I think a lot of people find me "pretty", including otherwise straight men.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Judas Priest, Diamond Head, Bongripper, Sleep, Curtis Mayfield, Iggy and the Stooges, Pat Benatar, Heart, Talking Heads, Passion Pit, Foster The People, Cream, Dinosaur Jr., Sex Pistols, Led Zeppelin, Digital Underground, Tupac, Joy Division, Bauhaus, Beastie Boys, Led Zeppelin, Pixies, T. Rex, Deep Purple, Weezer, Superchunk, Warren Zevon, Arthur Brown, Cameo, Chromeo, Zapp and Roger, Charlie Parker, Beethoven, Crudbump, David Bowie, Dizzy Gillespie, Eagles of Death Metal, Evergreen Terrace, Stooges, Free Energy, James Brown, Jeremy Enigk, Sunny Day Real Estate, Lars Fredriksen and the Bastards, Chopin, Pavement, and The Rolling Stones

Shows: Community, Fresh Meat, Trigun

Food: Thai, Mexican, French, Italian

Books: 1Q84, Mating in Captivity, What do Women Want, A Wrinkle in Time, Brave New World, Catch 22, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Point Counter Point, Tao Te Ching, The Way of Liberation, How Music Works

Movies: Sleeper, Commando, The Return of the Jedi, Snatch, Looper, Lincoln, Manhattan
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Really good people
Dumb jokes
Time to think
Life (just couldn't live without it)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to make music that's original, yet timeless. It's not easy.

Personalities, people, and experiences.

Culture, equality, politics, social issues, etc
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing something semi-cultured in Portland like snobbing out on a delicious beer, visiting Bula Kava house, eating Thai food, or playing a show. I also might be talking about philosophicalish topics with a friend. I mean, we're not pros, but we get into some mildly deep shit. I might be watching porn with a mixed group of friends. Depending on which people are there, the porn varies in weirdness. Once upon a time we looked up...oh wait, where was I? I might be playing guitar and working on a sick metal riff or throwing down some fly raps and slammin' beats. So cool. If it's summer, I might be getting ready to go hiking, rafting, or backpacking. I even go on dates! Perhaps we can turn some of these things into dates, though I'm not sure how romantic watching porn with a group of friends is, but uh, it takes all types I suppose. Ummm when in Rome??? I'm struggling to finish this paragraph.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a cautiously romantic person. Sometimes I get dragged, kicking and screaming to love, but once I'm there, I can throw down that romance with the best of them.
You should message me if
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The fact that I'm ambivalent about Game of Thrones is not a deal breaker for you.

You think I'm hot and want to hang out or go on a date with me.

You are a nice person.