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44 F Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I tend to be drawn towards cultures different from my own. This has led to big life decisions, like spending varying chunks of time abroad (5 yrs in Montreal, 2 yrs in Paris, 1 yr in Madrid, a few months in Italy and Argentina), becoming fluent in several foreign languages, becoming a soul/jazz singer - as well as some more trivial preferences, like my affection for Middle Eastern rugs and antique Chinese furniture. It's also led to a split identity, since I am a Spanish professor by day and musician by night. This combo works great for me in some ways, since I love exercising both my intellectual/analytical sides and my creative/artistic sides. The downside though is that I have never felt able to devote myself 100% to either academia or music.

I'm looking for a guy with (ideally) a similar blend of intellectual and artistic interests, a goofy sense of humor in addition to a quick wit, intelligence, curiosity about the world, kindness, loyalty, integrity, and non-flakiness (and yeah, sex appeal too, of course!). I've become more fiercely progressive over the years as the Republican Party has continued to spiral to ever-greater depths of greed, intolerance, hypocrisy, contempt for facts and religious fanaticism, so if you're a fan of Fox News, uh... we're not going to get along! Just saying. ;)

Finally, I guess I should add that I'm sick to death at this point of casual dating, "friends with benefits", blah blah blah, and am definitely ready for a relationship... So if you're a commitment phobe (you know who you are!), please do not write me!
What I’m doing with my life
I recently became a co-author for the next edition of the textbook we use at my university, which is exciting. Right now I'm revamping a bunch of the courses I coordinate, so that's my current project. Musically I have not been as active as I would like, but am hoping to amp things up in that department soon...
I’m really good at
learning languages, singing, debating. ;) Some things I'm really bad at: directions (I get lost even with my GPS), driving (so my screaming friends say), math, sports.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Wild Swans, Lord of the Rings, The End of Faith, Infidel. Honestly though, I'm a political junkie so I have not been much of a novel reader of late, tending to prefer news articles instead (The NY Times, New York Magazine, the New Yorker, The New Republic,, & are my reading staples)
Movies: Raising Arizona (still my favorite comedy), Pulp Fiction, Todo Sobre Mi Madre, Dangerous Liaisons, 12 Years a Slave, Django Unchained (to name a couple of recent ones).
TV shows: Rachel Maddow (my girl crush even though I'm straight), Bill Maher, Jon Stewart. Starting to dig Chris Hayes now too. And of course, who doesn't love Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Orange is the New Black, and Mad Men? Totally addictive!
Music: Neo-soul, r&b, hip-hop and jazz are my thing: D'Angelo, Chaka Khan, M'shell N'dgeocello, Amel Larrieux, Donny Hathaway, Stevie Wonder, Prince, James Brown, Dianne Reeves, Sarah Vaughan, (the list goes on)...
Food: Home-made gnocchi and tortellini, NY-style pizza, Nutella, tomatoes, Nan bread, fresh berries, gazpacho, duck tacos, sushi... (the list goes on)...
The six things I could never do without
1) my family/friends
2) my adorable cat
3) my favorite music
4) Wifi and my MacBook Pro
5) carbohydrates
6) the color blue
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how f**d up politics are in our country.
On a typical Friday night I am
hanging out with friends, or staying home cooking, taking a bubble bath, and chillin' with my cat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well if it were private I wouldn't trumpet it to the world on the internet, now would I?
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 36–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
any of this stuff strikes a chord with you.