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37 Farmington, MI Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:02pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Full figured
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and very serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen of OkC, **
I recently have entered into serious relationships, that I want to see grow. Real love; with amazing men, who fit and surpass all of my desired descriptors. Kind, interesting, funny, attentive; ridiculously smart, open minded and level headed. With the added bonus of being fabulous kissers; which is an important attribute, for which even the very best algorithm cannot test.

I am feeling very lucky with my men. I am really happy. . This love thing is fun, and joyous and terrifying and beautiful, and I feel the need to give it my full heart’s attention. Therefore, as a commitment to myself, and my heart, I have decided to take myself out of the OkC active dating pool.

I wish you all the very best in your search for love. I recognize that you may not be searching for exactly what I was looking for, but I know we are all looking for our version of happiness. I wish happiness for you OkCers.

** (Yes, of course there is a footnote, I could not hold up my nerd credentials without one.) I do not know the formal gender queer address that would correspond with Ladies and Gentleman. Is there one? If not, this seems like an oversight. With all the linguistic debate that we in the allied communities are doing about developing queer-gendered language, we need to come up with a word, for formal occasions.

You will note that in all three of my photos, I am smiling. I smile a lot. My life is mostly pretty fabulous. I have a wonderful family and wonderful friends. I am here to improve the “wonderfulness” of my love life.

I am a fun, witty girl. I am a good conversationalist. I enjoy museums, libraries, music, wine, dancing, story telling and travel. I am a pretty great date.

I am seeking a man to share my next adventure. I am not sure what that new adventure will be. I am searching for someone who does not freak out if we miss a highway exit, or the restaurant lost our reservation. The gentleman I am seeking is calm, and realizes, that while the world is a big, beautiful place, sometimes poop passes. My perfect amore loves to read, learn and try new things. I want a guy with patience and a sense of humor. I am generally a happy optimist; however, I have many high anxiety moments. In these moments, I want someone who is supportive. In return, I shall support his high-anxiety moments, entertain his silly moments, be loyal in his insecure moments and revel in his blissful moments.

I am socially conscious and incredibly active. I volunteer for non-profit organizations and political organizations. This may lead to scheduling frustrations. Fear not, dear one, if it is meant to be, we will meet. I care about the health and sustainability of our planet as well as the people, plants and animals that live on this planet. I have the expectation that any person I spend my precious time with, will care about our world also. I am a bird-watcher. I love to dance and travel. I do yoga and reiki.

I am smart, funny, and kind
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to live my life with my heart chakra open. Searching for love, health and career success.

I am working a great deal on self-improvement and volunteerism. I am participating in “Mission 101” which is a list of 101 goals to accomplish in 1001 days. Some of my goals are to find a work out
regime I will enjoy (and stick to), get focused on my yoga, read 50
books every year of the three years in my mission.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My friend quixotic_otaku wrote "speaking my opinions and keeping in mind other people's feelings at the same time. I'm very empathetic, and enjoy connecting with others." This made me blush all over. It still makes me blush all over, although, I am more integrating these compliments into my self-perception.

As you can see in the photo with the yellow shirt, I bake amazing pie. (That one was made with delicious Michigan blueberries and
cherries. I want to acknowledge that I think it is a special
blessing to live in a state with such an abundance of
agriculture.) I also tell good stories and make people laugh.

PS Quixotic_otaku is still super-awesome. I am proud to say that I
will be officiating her wedding to ScholarHemera.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am very friendly and open, and try to make people feel at ease. I am very smart, witty and well-spoken. Another thing people seem to notice is my general “perkiness.”

As for physical appearance, I get complimented on my hair and nice smile. My friends also often comment about my great rack. Which is rather funny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read a great deal. I am not sure I have a single favorite book.
As I mentioned before, I have been participating in the 50 book
challenge. I like historical fiction and science fiction.

So, while writing my “I am leaving the dating pool for now” update, it occurred to me that I never updated my favorite books from 2012. Going over this list, I do recognize that it is perhaps telling that two of my favorite books from last year were about the Plague, and two were about genocide. It was a rough year. On the other hand, they were amazingly well written and interesting books. Also, Bonk, is everything one wants in a non-fiction sex-book; informed, salacious and funny. I highly recommend it.
•A Year of Wonders; Geraldine Brooks
•The Ghost Map, The Story of London’s Most Terrifying Epidemic and How it changed Science, Cities and Modern World; Steven Johnson
•Malinche; Laura Esquive
•The Sheen on the Silk, Anne Perry
• Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex; Mary Roach
• A Canticle for Leibowitz; Walter M. Miller Jr.

I love music, most music. I used to play string bass. I sing every
day. I have a deep love of opera, (Carmen is my favorite…)

I enjoy full-flavored, nourishing food including Indian, Italian,
Mexican, Chinese and Thai which are some of my favorites. I’ve been a vegetarian since 1996. I despise potatoes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can not do without:
1) friends and family
2) coffee and wine
3) books
4) indoor plumbing
5) laughter
6) engaging conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about how to improve myself and my life. I also am engaged with current events, and think about how I may make the world a better place. I am deeply saddened by what is going on in our state and our country. The far right has devolved our national debate into a xenophobic screaming match, over “so-called rights.” These aggressive and loud tactics provide the distraction necessary to allow the super-wealthy plutocrats to engineer massive income distribution from the poor and middle-class to the wealthiest 2%.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I often go to a Friday night swing-dance. I also attend a Friday night drum circle. I also attend a Friday night Reiki Share. My friends and I often have dinner on Friday nights. Or, I spend Friday, vegging in front of a movie, decompressing from my work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a nerdy girl who really likes sports. One of my favorite activities is going to a game with my family.

Also, I'm rather offended that OkC has rated me as "less loving." I'm very loving. In fact, I love many people, and I love people who, in turn, love many people. I have a deep, open, inquisitive and wondrous heart. I willingly share my love, and expect love in return. Perhaps OkC feels I am "less loving" because I am not willing to stick it out with people who don't treat me the way I want to be treated? This seems like doormat behavior, not loving behavior. I'm looking for lovers, not fighters or doormats.
You should message me if
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I am looking to date. I am looking to date interesting guys who want to date a smart-funny girl. Ultimately, I am looking for a long term primary relationship. On this journey, I want to have as much fun as possible. I want to have good dates with nice guys.

You're a nice person and open-minded. If you can hold up your end of a conversation. If you volunteer for just causes. If you read.

Also, I really don’t like to “chat” on-line, or spend weeks e-mailing back and forth. I find electronic media to be a stilted mode of communication, devoid of eye-contact, voice inflection and pheromones. I much prefer to actually meet, in person, like as in a “date.” I am aware that this is apparently very radical thinking, here on a “dating site.” Nonetheless, actual in-person, face-to-face contact is my preferred way of meeting people.

Also, do not approach me with bad grammar. As you can see, I put the time and effort into writing this profile. Please take the care necessary to write in full sentences when you address me.