Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You will note that in all three of my photos, I am smiling. I smile
a lot. My life is mostly pretty fabulous. I have a wonderful family
and wonderful friends. I am here to improve the “wonderfulness” of
my love life.
I am a fun, witty girl. I am a good conversationalist. I enjoy
museums, libraries, music, wine, dancing, story telling and travel.
I am a pretty great date.
I am seeking a man to share my next adventure. I am not sure what
that new adventure will be. I am searching for someone who does not
freak out if we miss a highway exit, or the restaurant lost our
reservation. The gentleman I am seeking is calm, and realizes, that
while the world is a big, beautiful place, sometimes poop passes.
My perfect amore loves to read, learn and try new things. I want a
guy with patience and a sense of humor. I am generally a happy
optimist; however, I have many high anxiety moments. In these
moments, I want someone who is supportive. In return, I shall
support his high-anxiety moments, entertain his silly moments, be
loyal in his insecure moments and revel in his blissful
I am socially conscious and incredibly active. I volunteer for
non-profit organizations and political organizations. This may lead
to scheduling frustrations. Fear not, dear one, if it is meant to
be, we will meet. I care about the health and sustainability of our
planet as well as the people, plants and animals that live on this
planet. I have the expectation that any person I spend my precious
time with, will care about our world also. I am a bird-watcher. I
love to dance and travel. I do yoga and reiki.
I am smart, funny, and kind
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Good Folk of OkC, ***
I am updating my profile. I thought that this most properly
belonged in the "What I'm Doing with My Life" section. One of the
relationships I wrote in an earlier version of my profile fizzled,
while the other is still hot and heavy and romantic and amazing. I
am ridiculously happy. We live together in a small messy apartment
with our Couch of Commitment and our fish. Life is really, really
We are still poly. So, while I am keeping my profile active, I am
not “actively dating.” That is, I am happy to date people that may
come my way, but I am not in an active search, so as to fill a
romantic gap. My love basket is wonderfully full. However, as a
poly person, I am aware that more love is always possible. If you
are looking to add more love and adventure to your life, perhaps we
In addition to living with my beloved, I am still trying to live my
life with my heart chakra open. I am still working on my yogic
My other big life change is that I have opened my own grant writing
business. Now, instead of commuting 3 hours a day, I sit in my
living room, listening to birds outside and my dish take burble. I
work to help fund people's dreams and solve critical problems in
our society. I really have the best life I for me.
** (Yes, of course there is a footnote, I could not hold up my nerd
credentials without one.) I do not know the formal gender queer
address that would correspond with Ladies and Gentleman. Is there
one? If not, this seems like an oversight. With all the linguistic
debate that we in the allied communities are doing about developing
queer-gendered language, we need to come up with a word, for formal
I have taken many suggestions on what the gender neutral formal
address should be. I like “good folk.” The word “folk” feels
inclusive of everyone, as everyone is someone’s folk. The adjective
“good” feels nice, as it makes the assumption of the positive
qualities of the people I am addressing. I am hopeful the people
reading my profile are “good.”
And, here I shall just go ahead and project upon you, dear reader.
You have made it much of the way through my profile, and have even
made it to the footnotes. You are a reader. You are most likely
curious. You have a decent attention span. You may have a good
sense of humor. If you understand my concerns over the proper word
for “the gender-inclusive formal address,” then you may care about
gender politics and trans-inclusivity. All of these descriptors put
you in the category of “good.” Perhaps we can meet for brunch and
find out if my assumptions are correct?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My friend quixotic_otaku wrote "speaking my opinions and keeping in
mind other people's feelings at the same time. I'm very empathetic,
and enjoy connecting with others." This made me blush all over. It
still makes me blush all over, although, I am more integrating
these compliments into my self-perception.
As you can see in the photo with the yellow shirt, I bake amazing
pie. (That one was made with delicious Michigan blueberries
cherries. I want to acknowledge that I think it is a special
blessing to live in a state with such an abundance of
agriculture.) I am working on perfecting a gluten free pie crust.
Much to my chagrin, I have developed a gluten allergy. I love
I also tell good stories and make people laugh. I am also a really
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am very friendly and open, and try to make people feel at ease. I
am very smart, witty and well-spoken. Another thing people seem to
notice is my general “perkiness.”
As for physical appearance, I get complimented on my hair and nice
smile. My friends also often comment about my great rack. Which is
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read a great deal. I am not sure I have a single favorite
As I mentioned before, I have been participating in the 50
challenge. I like historical fiction and science fiction.
My favorite books from the I read recently were:
Into the Beautiful North; Luis Alberto Urrea
The Lies of Lock LaMora; Scott Lynch (I love this whole
The Man Who Made Lists: Love, Death, Madness and the Creation of
Roget;s Thesaurus; Josh Kendal
Neverwhere; Nial Gaiman
The Red Garden: Alice Hoffman
Bellweather: Connie Willis
I love music, most music. I used to play string bass. I sing
day. I have a deep love of opera, (Carmen is my favorite…)
I enjoy full-flavored, nourishing food including Indian,
Mexican, Chinese and Thai which are some of my favorites. I’ve been
a vegetarian since 1996. I despise potatoes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can not do without:
1) friends and family
2) coffee and wine
4) indoor plumbing
6) engaging conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about how to improve myself and my life. I also am engaged
with current events, and think about how I may make the world a
better place. I am deeply saddened by what is going on in our state
and our country. The far right has devolved our national debate
into a xenophobic screaming match, over “so-called rights.” These
aggressive and loud tactics provide the distraction necessary to
allow the super-wealthy plutocrats to engineer massive income
distribution from the poor and middle-class to the wealthiest 2%.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I often go to a Friday night swing-dance. I also attend a Friday
night drum circle. I also attend a Friday night Reiki Share. My
friends and I often have dinner on Friday nights. Or, I spend
Friday, vegging in front of a movie, decompressing from my work
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a nerdy girl who really likes sports. One of my favorite
activities is going to a game with my family. This isn't all that
private. But I want you to know it is true. My Beloved seemed to
think this was a minor thing, or maybe I wrote it because
mentioning "the Sports: would lure in a guy. But no, it is true. I
like "the Sports."
Also, I'm rather offended that OkC has rated me as "less loving."
I'm very loving. In fact, I love many people, and I love people
who, in turn, love many people. I have a deep, open, inquisitive
and wondrous heart. I willingly share my love, and expect love in
return. Perhaps OkC feels I am "less loving" because I am not
willing to stick it out with people who don't treat me the way I
want to be treated? This seems like doormat behavior, not loving
behavior. I'm looking for lovers, not fighters or doormats.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I am looking to date. I am looking to date interesting people who
want to date a smart-funny girl. You should recognize that I have a
long term primary relationship. We will all know each other. There
will be NO CHEATING! On this journey, I want to have as much fun as
possible. I want to have good dates with nice people. You should
message me if you too would like to date nice people.
You should message me if you're a nice person and open-minded. If
you can hold up your end of a conversation. If you volunteer for
just causes. If you read.
Also, I really don’t like to “chat” on-line, or spend weeks
e-mailing back and forth. I find electronic media to be a stilted
mode of communication, devoid of eye-contact, voice inflection and
pheromones. I much prefer to actually meet, in person, like as in a
“date.” I am aware that this is apparently very radical thinking,
here on a “dating site.” Nonetheless, actual in-person,
face-to-face contact is my preferred way of meeting people. You
should not message me if all you want to do is chat.
Also, do not approach me with bad grammar. As you can see, I put
the time and effort into writing this profile. Please take the care
necessary to write in full sentences when you address me.
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