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37 • Farmington, MI • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Yesterday – 6:02pm
- 5′ 3″ (1.60m)
- Body type
- Full figured
- Strictly vegetarian
- Other, and very serious about it
- Leo, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Politics / Government
- Seeing Someone
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
Dear Ladies and Gentlemen of OkC, **
I recently have entered into serious relationships, that I want to see grow. Real love; with amazing men, who fit and surpass all of my desired descriptors. Kind, interesting, funny, attentive; ridiculously smart, open minded and level headed. With the added bonus of being fabulous kissers; which is an important attribute, for which even the very best algorithm cannot test.
I am feeling very lucky with my men. I am really happy. . This love thing is fun, and joyous and terrifying and beautiful, and I feel the need to give it my full heart’s attention. Therefore, as a commitment to myself, and my heart, I have decided to take myself out of the OkC active dating pool.
I wish you all the very best in your search for love. I recognize that you may not be searching for exactly what I was looking for, but I know we are all looking for our version of happiness. I wish happiness for you OkCers.
** (Yes, of course there is a footnote, I could not hold up my nerd credentials without one.) I do not know the formal gender queer address that would correspond with Ladies and Gentleman. Is there one? If not, this seems like an oversight. With all the linguistic debate that we in the allied communities are doing about developing queer-gendered language, we need to come up with a word, for formal occasions.
You will note that in all three of my photos, I am smiling. I smile a lot. My life is mostly pretty fabulous. I have a wonderful family and wonderful friends. I am here to improve the “wonderfulness” of my love life.
I am a fun, witty girl. I am a good conversationalist. I enjoy museums, libraries, music, wine, dancing, story telling and travel. I am a pretty great date.
I am seeking a man to share my next adventure. I am not sure what that new adventure will be. I am searching for someone who does not freak out if we miss a highway exit, or the restaurant lost our reservation. The gentleman I am seeking is calm, and realizes, that while the world is a big, beautiful place, sometimes poop passes. My perfect amore loves to read, learn and try new things. I want a guy with patience and a sense of humor. I am generally a happy optimist; however, I have many high anxiety moments. In these moments, I want someone who is supportive. In return, I shall support his high-anxiety moments, entertain his silly moments, be loyal in his insecure moments and revel in his blissful moments.
I am socially conscious and incredibly active. I volunteer for non-profit organizations and political organizations. This may lead to scheduling frustrations. Fear not, dear one, if it is meant to be, we will meet. I care about the health and sustainability of our planet as well as the people, plants and animals that live on this planet. I have the expectation that any person I spend my precious time with, will care about our world also. I am a bird-watcher. I love to dance and travel. I do yoga and reiki.
I am smart, funny, and kind
I am working a great deal on self-improvement and volunteerism. I am participating in “Mission 101” which is a list of 101 goals to accomplish in 1001 days. Some of my goals are to find a work out
regime I will enjoy (and stick to), get focused on my yoga, read 50
books every year of the three years in my mission.
As you can see in the photo with the yellow shirt, I bake amazing pie. (That one was made with delicious Michigan blueberries and
cherries. I want to acknowledge that I think it is a special
blessing to live in a state with such an abundance of
agriculture.) I also tell good stories and make people laugh.
PS Quixotic_otaku is still super-awesome. I am proud to say that I
will be officiating her wedding to ScholarHemera.
As for physical appearance, I get complimented on my hair and nice smile. My friends also often comment about my great rack. Which is rather funny.
As I mentioned before, I have been participating in the 50 book
challenge. I like historical fiction and science fiction.
So, while writing my “I am leaving the dating pool for now” update, it occurred to me that I never updated my favorite books from 2012. Going over this list, I do recognize that it is perhaps telling that two of my favorite books from last year were about the Plague, and two were about genocide. It was a rough year. On the other hand, they were amazingly well written and interesting books. Also, Bonk, is everything one wants in a non-fiction sex-book; informed, salacious and funny. I highly recommend it.
•A Year of Wonders; Geraldine Brooks
•The Ghost Map, The Story of London’s Most Terrifying Epidemic and How it changed Science, Cities and Modern World; Steven Johnson
•Malinche; Laura Esquive
•The Sheen on the Silk, Anne Perry
• Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex; Mary Roach
• A Canticle for Leibowitz; Walter M. Miller Jr.
I love music, most music. I used to play string bass. I sing every
day. I have a deep love of opera, (Carmen is my favorite…)
I enjoy full-flavored, nourishing food including Indian, Italian,
Mexican, Chinese and Thai which are some of my favorites. I’ve been a vegetarian since 1996. I despise potatoes.
1) friends and family
2) coffee and wine
4) indoor plumbing
6) engaging conversation
Also, I'm rather offended that OkC has rated me as "less loving." I'm very loving. In fact, I love many people, and I love people who, in turn, love many people. I have a deep, open, inquisitive and wondrous heart. I willingly share my love, and expect love in return. Perhaps OkC feels I am "less loving" because I am not willing to stick it out with people who don't treat me the way I want to be treated? This seems like doormat behavior, not loving behavior. I'm looking for lovers, not fighters or doormats.
You're a nice person and open-minded. If you can hold up your end of a conversation. If you volunteer for just causes. If you read.
Also, I really don’t like to “chat” on-line, or spend weeks e-mailing back and forth. I find electronic media to be a stilted mode of communication, devoid of eye-contact, voice inflection and pheromones. I much prefer to actually meet, in person, like as in a “date.” I am aware that this is apparently very radical thinking, here on a “dating site.” Nonetheless, actual in-person, face-to-face contact is my preferred way of meeting people.
Also, do not approach me with bad grammar. As you can see, I put the time and effort into writing this profile. Please take the care necessary to write in full sentences when you address me.
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