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hughbar

64 London, UK Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 42–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:15pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English, French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Seeing someone at present, don't know how serious it is on their side, but live in hope.

I'm a happy and fun bobo* who's a little too odd for conventional dating sites.

I've no exact idea who'll suit and refuse to be prescriptive (must be 5'3", live in SW7, called Penny with a small dog called Antigone and say yah. Incidentally the imaginary Penny [or Pen to her friends] is a good example of hard-core-unsuitability. At least she has a dark sense of humour, if she knows the story of Antigone, but, since she's imaginary she probably won't. I've let her get out of hand now, haven't I? Everything does, it does though, even the imaginary dinosaurs that live in Jurassic Park, let alone the non-imaginary mammoth that the Russians wish to clone.

My profession, in as much as I still have one, is as a hard-core anorak but without the anoraky persona. I've been involved with computers [in a platonic sort of way] since about 1965, even before then I loved the idea of Jacquard Looms [or actually loom heads, I believe] with their punched card programs. This isn't really really attractive is it or is it? We're the people that make everything go, nowadays.

Here's a list of things that I like and dislike, in the hope that chords (preferably not gloomy, diminished ones) will be struck:


  • - semi-retired and live in east London and France and travel a bit, work if I have to (though I enjoy what I 'do')

  • - spend a fair amount of time on voluntary projects in east London

  • - not necessarily looking for a live-in relationship but I'd be delighted to find one

  • - like people that like words (they like to read and maybe write), art and popular music (jazz, blues everything except disco and 'pop')

  • - like thinkers and unusual people especially mixtures of art and
    science

  • - like sushi, dim sum, all-you-can-eat, Sunday roasts AND transport cafes

  • - like Dylan, Bert Jansch, Nick Drake, jazz guitarists, Fairport convention and Jimi Hendrix, for example. I play and write too, probably not great but I enjoy it

  • - like James Lee Burke, Daniel Woodrell, James Sallis, Haruki Murakami, Neal Stephenson, Pynchon (someone just re-issued Gravity's Rainbow, more fun than Harry Potter...)

  • - like social justice but not PC or Grauniad style

  • - French is good and I spend quite a lot of time there

  • - in spite of my advanced age [haha], semi-retirement and anorakicity [to coin a word], I like to run, 5k every Saturday and up to half marathon here and there, not looking for whist/golf players anyway

Here's some dislikes:
- Career, piles of possessions, wine-bars (oh how I hate All Bar One and Starbucks!)and yuppy chit-chat (about salaries and possessions...)
- Insincere talk and no-shows
- Log-fire and champagne and other TV/media inspired images of happiness, happy is happy, it doesn't depend on props...

* Bobo is bohemian-bourgeois, I've a middle class
background and education but (if left unsupervised) I'll live in a somewhat bohemian way (I -do- wash though (especially on my birthday, wash behind my ears on that special day too (with soap)) and I don't take drugs, smoke or drink)

Here's some-being-worked-on music, if okcupid allows urly interweb thingies.

In spite of this list of likes and dislikes, I'm not uncompromising or cantankerous. I'm very practical and realistic about material things,just don't want to be dominated by them.

I am kind, mad, and creative
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Writing songs, creating green and local projects, websites, writing computer programs, spreading Linux in the east end, eating out, visiting friends, working (thinking about working anyway), pushing various social reform agendas.

Incidentally I run still, half marathon coming up early September and Wanstead parkrun most Saturdays when in the UK, club run sometimes mid-week. So I'm not really looking for a whist or golf companion at the moment in spite of my 'veteran' status. Actually I hate golf 'waste of a good walk' is the correct description of it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
It would be really, really bad taste to fill this bit in.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A big nose, that precedes me into any space...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Blade Runner, 12 Monkeys, Akira, Clueless, Amelie, 37.2 Le Matin (I live near there, some of the time), Flash Gordon haha, The Toxic Avenger (hahha, I just shook Lloyd Kaufman's hand at the Prince Charles recently) Chinese. Thai, Indian, Vietnamese, North African especially couscous [the French equivalent of a big plate of curry] and see-food (if you know that joke). I like the steaks at Botak Jones (the one at Toa Payoh, correction by Sook, thanks, is best, the chilli fries are great too), too.

Bert Jansch (he just died, great shame), Joni Mitchell, Dylan. Pearls before Swine, Jimi Hendrix did I say that already? I'm beginning to acquire a taste for some of Wu-Tang, should I worry about that? I'll always dislike Fiddy though [though his twitter feed is hilarious], so, no problem.

I like Haruki Murakami, Flann O'Brien, James Sallis, James Lee Burke, Aldous Huxley (Point Counter Point was a fairly decisive novel for me), Orwell (but why read it, when we live it?), Neal Stephenson, Dana Meadows, Jane Jacobs, Guy Debord (re-reading the Society of Spectacle right now, more relevant than ever) and many others ranging from fairly enlightening to trash, I'm not an intellectual snob, just a reader.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, Guitars, Computers, Food, Music, The Ocean
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, reform, various east end projects...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home usually, the weekend has never been a big 'production'.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've decided to remove the bit about how the blood rushes during the full moon, the scent of the forest path as I resume my somewhat vulpine form as it seemed to make people less eager to meet me. Good thing, the queue was really, really long. Damn, I've put it back in again, haven't I?

Incidentally, the name for that particular rhetorical trope is http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apophasis so much distraction and fun on the interweb, isn't there?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well, you should anyway. But, especially, if (as another profile said) there's something 'wrong'. I don't quite fit into the world, as currently 'organised', but I'm quite happy with my own. Please don't bother if you're in love with your ipod, mobile phone/iphone or car (I have a house full of computers incidentally, but that's for my GCSE in hypocrisy, having just made the above statement),

Please don't if you have many cats (yes, I know I'm excluding nearly everyone in my age group), smoke or have an active drink or substance abuse problem...friends of Bill W. welcome however.