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hughwho

46 Oakland, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 30–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:48am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm friendly and talkative and I make friends easily. Children and small animals make me smile, but I don't have any of my own. There's a high likelihood I can make you laugh if I try hard enough. I live in Oakland and work in SF. I am an atheist and a skeptic, but I practice kindness and compassion religiously.

Prediction: you will find the love you need.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have three dream jobs! I work as a designer for an amazing nonprofit defending civil liberties online, and I also do graphic art of all kinds: book covers, posters, websites, logos. On top of that I teach at a local art school. In my free time I make paintings!

Sometimes I can't believe I get paid for this stuff. I always chuckle as I deposit my checks.

I'm also a fairly active community member. After living in the Bay Area for years and years, I find myself belonging to several overlapping circles of artists & visionaries, revolutionaries & reformists, circus performers & educators — all strange, all beautiful, all wild in their way. It's fun to try to stitch these many circles together into something wider. A Social Movement? Maybe, if we're lucky.

I read somewhere that exercise is the key to happiness, so I tried it. Turns out — yep, it works. (Why didn't someone tell my younger self this stuff was better than drugs?) So I do yoga, run, swim and hit the gym five days a week.

I'm lucky in that I have family in the area, including two parents, two sisters, two nieces, and one nephew. A wealth of genetic similarities! I try to see them on the weekends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making friends with strangers. Seeing through bullshit. Speculating about the future. Zeroing in on funny. Making wild accusations. Writing my own profile (obviously).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Dimples. Also: satanic laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Ursula K. LeGuin; Don Delillo; Rayond Chandler; Michael Chabon; Alice Munro; To Kill a Mockingbird; Comments on the Society of the Spectacle; Kim Stanley Robinson; Cory Doctorow;

Graphic novels: Chris Ware; Dan Clowes; Adrian Tomine;

Music: Yo La Tengo; Luna; Galaxie 500; PJ Fuckin' Harvey; X; Johnny Cash; Calexico; Manu Chao; The Pixies; Metric; Andrew Bird; Ferocious Few; Sean Hayes; the Mekons; Iron & Wine; Al Green; Cat Power; Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings; Tom Waits; Yo La Tengo (listed twice for good measure).

Movies: Beasts of the Southern Wild; Blue Valentine; Moonrise Kingdom; The Royal Tennenbaums; Anything by Steven Soderbergh; Drive; Margaret (the 3 hour version); You Can Count On Me; anything starring Bill Nighy (he's the awkward British dude in Love Actually and my favorite actor).

TV: I haven't been watching much lately! Maybe that's because my cable stopped working and I got used to not having it, and then, even when it was fixed, I couldn't be bothered.

Food: I'm a sushi-holic! I spend WAY too much money each month on sushi. But what is money for if not raw fish?

My ambition: to see more plays and live performances!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
For some reason I find this question boring, so I refuse to answer it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to craft the perfect contact note to people on OK Cupid. If you received a message from me, I thought about it a while. Mulled it over. Re-wrote it several times. Finally hit send. Will she respond? Most people don't. I guess that's OK, but… What about the adventure?

Also: Science. I read the science page at nytimes.com, and I find this often causes my head to explode. I think more artists and creative people should pay attention to the incredible things going on the worlds of science and technology.

I like politics too. Not so much the horse race between the parties, but the long, slow process of people working together to transform the world. I think of politics as a massive, multi-generational, interactive art project that we're all contributing to. When I say this, people usually ask: "Yes, but isn't it *bad* art?" I suppose it might be, but we've only just begun. Give it time!

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the insights trickling into the popular press from the world of neuroscience. I wonder how much our morality and our politics are rooted in our brains, and whether that means we can or cannot change the direction of society.

When I'm meditating, I'm thinking about not thinking, which is totally ass backwards. I know, I know -- I'm doing it wrong! If you can tell me how to silence this jabbering monkey inside my skull, I will be eternally grateful.

I think a lot about the kids in my life. What will they be when they grow up? Why are they so awesome and inspiring? How can I be a better uncle and friend?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having dinner with friends, getting an early drink to avoid crowds in the Mission, biking with the SF Bike Party or Critical Mass, alone with a book and a cup of tea while it rains outside (wishing I had a cat).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was once a hippie.
You should message me if
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• you like the short, sweet, absolutely perfect message I sent you.
• you feel as if you know me even though you don't.
• you don't mind atheists.
• you like drinking beverages with strangers you meet online, and you trust it won't be a disaster because you read the guy's profile, and he seemed like a decent human being, maybe even someone with some depth and kindness, who knows, maybe something will happen, like a spark or a flame or maybe just a friendship, it's impossible to predict and the universe is a very large place and we are very, very small.