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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-42
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 27
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Turkish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My main aim in life is to build, to create, a beautiful life, and then share it with others. I love the things that contribute joy to life - I love reading good books, drinking good wine, and having good conversations, and eating and eating and eating. Although I like to enjoy life, my life is usually pretty quiet. I really enjoy scuba diving, and fighting sports to keep fit, but I don't really care for most other sports. I feel like I am lazy, but I pack every minute with good stuff - so maybe not!

I am constantly learning - almost nothing makes me as happy as feeling that I am somehow growing and changing or progressing, though progressing toward what I have no idea. I love babies - I melt when I see them. And oddly enough, most babies love me - I suppose they recognize someone of the same maturity level. I suppose I should add that I am an American. I have no idea how that may be significant - but maybe it is.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I am teaching at a university, but I am considering doing a second masters degree, and I hope to go on to get a PhD. eventually.

I am working my way through a list of the "top 100 books according to the international board of so-and-so." It may take a few years. Actually, I'm lying - I made my own list off of 5 other lists. Yes - I am that bored sometimes.

I am trying to become more patient with people who think they have political views, but really just have a vague sense of spiritual indigestion, and cannot express it except by "harumphing" a lot about political matters.

I am also working to improve my kickboxing, and have recently started cooking more - it's quite fun and interesting, and it gives me something to eat for days on end.

Then again, I have a feeling I might be wasting my life - but I cannot think of any better way to spend it. If you have any ideas, let me know.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
What I am best at is wasting time. It amazes me how a whole day can fly by . . .

I am good at communicating and talking with people. I enjoy people who like to analyze and discuss politics and relationships and such.

I am pretty good at boxing - My cooking is pretty good - I am very good at scuba diving - And many of my students tell me I am a very good teacher, but maybe they are just trying to get better grades!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know, and I am afraid to ask. Probably my big ears? Or . . . honestly - I have no idea. Once upon a time a girl said my ass was the first thing she noticed. I walked backwards into every room of strangers for the next year.
Another said my shoulders. One said my eyes. But those were years ago - but I suppose my eyes are still the same.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is my favorite part!

Favorite books - I can go on forever. Ragtime, by EL Doctorow, A Passage to India, by EM Forster, Anything by Robert Olen Butler, ditto for Neil Gaiman. Life of Pi was good, Anything by Ryszard Kapuscinski. W. Somerset Maugham - Of Human Bondage was AMAZING. Chuck Pahlaniuk . . . if I keep going we are going to be here all night. (Update: Pahlaniuk is starting to lose me. Last two books of his I read weren't worth it.) But master of the masters is Tolstoy. If art is about the human condition, then Tolstoy is the pre-eminent artist, because he writes the human soul.

Movies: Fight Club, Pulp Fiction, The Hunting Party, In the Electric Mist, The Brothers Bloom, Habla con Ella, The Dangerous Lives of Altar Boys and more. As a sad confession, (but hey, we all have one, right?) I will watch almost ANY vampire or treasure hunt movie, regardless of how bad. It really isn't about the quality of the film any more, so much as to see how the conventions of the genre are respected or avoided. That said, Twilight was almost too much. Sparkly vampires? Oh, dear.

Food - mmmmmm . . . Indian or Thai would be my favorite, but Turkish, Italian, are very nice as well. Really - I love all food!
Sutlac may be the best thing in the world, as far as I am concerned. In fact, when I die, I want to be submerged in a barrel of sutlac, and then thrown into a volcano.

Music - I am not huge on music, but am eclectic. Faithless is a fave right now. Massive Attack is good. Aloe Blacc is awesome. I like Sage Francis. GirlTalk is fun, fun, fun. When I am melancholy I like Beirut. U2 is always great. Simon and Garfunkel always touch me. (I wish they would stop. If they keep it up I am telling mother.) Nina Simone when I am feeling . . . indescribable. I do love classical. Beethoven is a huge fave. Mozart, Haydn are always excellent. Guns 'n Roses, for nostalgia's sake.

I suspect soon hip-hop is actually going to turn a corner and start producing music that is not only musically diverse and vibrant, but also not intellectually stultifying, and that will be a great day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NEVER do without? Ok - Oxygen, food, water, shelter, friendship and a good book.
Or how about I just list some of my favorite things?
1. my ipod for listening to lectures (itunes iuniversity is essential.)
2. milk
3. Books,
5. traveling,
6. learning new things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People - we humans are really strange.
Time - it just never stops, does it? Or does it? I mean, if it is relative, and it can be slowed, then . . . we can ALMOST stop it, right?
Where I want to be in a few years. What's coming up over the horizon. That sort of jazz.
Why in the hell straight Men would classify themselves as Women on their OKCupid profile? It's not like they are fooling anybody - their picture is right there. It is totally baffling . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Kickboxing. I teach a martial arts class on Friday nights. Then, when the training is over, I read a book or watch TV at home. Like I said - I have a pretty quiet life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like it when you do, you know, that THING you do, to me. Yeah, that one. I like it.
You should message me if
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If you have room for one more interesting person in your life, and you like jabbering, art, wine, life, books, travel, politics, etc.
And if you do message me, I promise to buy you a drink.