hwiley
27 Oakland, CA
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My self-summary
Here are some identifiers:
Queer
Musician
Exhibitionist
Pansexual
Kinky
GGG
Sex-positive
Anti-oppression
Nonmonogamous

I'm concerned about big issues--like dismantling modern imperial capitalism/patriarchy. But I also know how to enjoy the simplicities of life.

Things important to me:

Environmental ethics
Social justice
Eastern thought
Playing music (here's my band: https://soundcloud.com/wewillbelions/we-will-be-lions-when-your-skirt-hits-the-floor)
Yoga
Books
Spinning fire
Laughing from the heart
Fresh veggies
Tea
Having discussions
Trying to hypothesize solutions to the many world crises
Watching sunsets
Meditating
Watching sunrises
And the list goes on...

*****I have non-monogamous relationships.

Also, I'm in a partnership with this amazing human----> emonstertron, so please be okay with that. We're interested in dating people both individually and together 😊 Check her out to see if you'd like to hang out with her and/or me!
What I’m doing with my life
Listening, learning, loving...and making plenty of mistakes along the way :)

I'm getting together a zine directed towards white cis straight men with topics that raise awareness around consent, male privilege, gender identity privilege, systemic racism, misogyny and cultural appropriation. Basically it's a 101 on how to not be a privileged jerk. Message me if you want to get involved!

Other things I'm into;
philosophical quandaries
clinical psychology
creating music
continuing my travels
filling life with interesting people
giving love
and
giving thanks
I’m really good at
Empathizing
Inspiring
Listening
Loving
Embracing vulnerability
Giving respect
Making love
Talking philosophy
Oral sex
Conflict resolution
Cooking you dinner
Massage
Acting like a child (with or without other children)
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't see how I would know this :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books/articles
-'The Power and Promise of Ecofeminism' Karen J Warren
'Things Fall Apart' Chinua Achebe
-'Yes Means Yes, Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape'
-'Cunt' Inga Muscio
-I really love Alan Watts; 'The Wisdom of Insecurity', 'This is It', 'In My Way'
-The zen buddhist text Awakening of Faith
-The 'Tibetan Book of Living and Dying' by Sogyal Rinpoche
-'The Ethical Slut' Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton
-MURAKAMI
-Hemingway, particularly his poems

The list goes on, but that's enough for now yea?

Films
I like to watch documentaries, but also enjoy a well crafted piece of cinema. Broken Cameras, is a very amazing and important film. Some others: Pulp Fiction, Amélie, Almost Famous, City of God, My Life as a Dog, Shawshank Redemption, Spirited Away, Akiro, etc..

Music
Well...you'll just have to ask me. In brief, I like everything from Delta Blues Folk to Deep House to Gypsy Jazz
The six things I could never do without
Love
Sex
Passion
Spirituality
Art
Compassion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
privilege and the ways I can be an ally
philosophy
anthropology
sex positivity
all the possible ways to love
alternative societies
relationships
polyamory
ways to end oppression

whether humanity is a fruit or infection of the earth
On a typical Friday night I am
Howling at the moon
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask me anything
You should message me if
I'm seeking connections with passionate and independent people. Show me what motivates and inspires you and I'll show you what does this for me! If something more develops out of the fluidity of our interaction, all the better! To me, friendship is the best foundation to any romance.

It is, however, necessary that you're actively working on communication skills and that you feel comfortable talking about needs, desires and expectations.

***NOTE: I'm only interested in non-mongomous/polyamorous relationships, so please be okay with this if you'd like to hang out**

However please do message me if:

-Something in my profile resonated with you

-You'd like to play, dance or just hang out with me and emonstertron and see what develops!

-You want to spin poi or staff, etc

-You're into kink

-You're a practicing artist and you want to paint/draw me, nude or not!
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