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I’m looking for
- Ages 30–55
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 7:30pm
- Bisexual, Demisexual, Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
- 5′ 3″ (1.60m)
- Body type
- Full figured
- Other, and somewhat serious about it
- Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Art / Music / Writing
- Open relationship
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Other (Fluently)
I'm constantly doing stuff. (Though, not necessarily the stuff I need to be doing...) I try to live a balanced life, which is difficult since it goes against my all-or-nothing nature. I also try to find restful / peaceful times of meditation. This is good for centering but not so good for my desire to do ALL THE THINGS!!! Eh... it's a work-in-progress, this life.
I am Pagan and a feminist and if either of these labels scare, upset or make you uncomfortable, you might want to move along. My magic is private but my belief in equality is very public.
I'm more queer (possibly pansexual? But that always makes me giggle... Pans!) than bi. But it's all semantics, really. Basically, who you are means more to me than your bits.
I run an Open Mic once a month & try to get to other open mics and readings.
I volunteer with an animal shelter in their fostering program and assist with other events. (I previously worked there for over three years.)
I have been known to randomly rescue animals.
I love to read, hike, camp, explore, swim, play with my pets, play with other people's pets, eat at new places, learn new things, go on adventures, go to the theater, research random things, dream...
I also write... I write a lot... I write often... I don't write nearly as often as I should. I should be writing RIGHT NOW!!!
I read a lot. I rarely read only one book at a time. My interests vary and shift so I read about many different topics.
Folklore & mythology worldwide
Writing practice / technique
I also read lots of novels. Dystopian / post apocalyptic novels are always intriguing but I read in just about any genre available. (I don't read many romances. There are a few exceptions, but they're often too formulaic.) Give me a good solid story with believable characters who do interesting things that's written well and in a unique way and I will read the hell out of that book, short story, poem, whatever.
Fiction Authors I adore in no particular order:
Charles De Lint
Diana Wynne Jones
George RR Martin
We have no cable & no basic TV, but we download and check things out of the library or watch things on Netflix. I tend to "watch" while writing or doing other things.
Movies: I like LOTS of movies!
Just a small smattering of random movies I've watched many times... ALL the Alien movies, Amelie, Auntie Mame, The Bad Seed, The Big Lebowski, The Blues Brothers, Cabin in the Woods, Delicatessen, Evil Dead, Fargo, The Fifth Element, Hunger Games, The Lord of the Rings trilogy, Memento, Mirror Mask, Night of the Living Dead, Psycho, Rosemary's Baby, Shaun of the Dead, Until the End of the World, Zombieland, etc.
Shows: MANY shows!!!
The Almighty Johnsons, American Horror Story, The Americans, Bates Motel, Breaking Bad, Continuum, Coupling, Dexter, Doctor Who, Dracula, Elementary, Firefly, Game of Thrones, Hannibal, Invader Zim, The IT Crowd, Jekyll, Lark Rise to Candleford, Lost Girl, The Maxx, Misfits, Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries, Once Upon a Time, Red Dwarf, Sleepy Hollow, Sons of Anarchy, Survivors, True Blood, Under the Dome, Walking Dead, etc.
Music: Aphex Twin, The Bastard Fairies, The Beetles, Bjork, Buddy Guy, The Clash, CocoRosie, The Cure, The Doors, Dresden Dolls, Gaia Consort, Garfunkle & Oates, Macklemore, Massive Attack, Ministry, Mumford & Sons, Nina Simone, Nick Cave, Nine Inch Nails, A Perfect Circle, PJ Harvey, Santana, Siouxsie & the Banshees, SJ Tucker, Skinny Puppy, Talking Heads, Tori Amos, Tool, U2, etc.
To my slight shame, while I like classical music, I don't know it as well as I used to. *hangs head*
I do not like country. Nope, not even Willie Nelson.
Food: Vegetarian... My tastes tend towards spicy so lots of salsa, wasabi peas, curry, etc. I also like salads, sandwiches and pizza... always PiZzA!!!
I like food! But I don't eat carcasses or tomatoes... for very different reasons. (I will eat the humiliated juices of tomatoes in all its many glorious forms.)
Something to write on & with
I refuse to list people and animals as things, but I'd be hard pressed to do without my best friend / hetero-lifemate (think Jay and Silent Bob or Laverne and Shirley) and I don't think I'll ever again live without pets.
...SUNDAYS!!! My one day off (usually)
...the latest story I'm working on. (I sometimes have "story brain" and will blurt out random things that are going on in my story that have nothing to do with anything anyone else is talking about.)
...proper grammar? It affects my writing.
...other people's stories, written & unwritten. I LOVE people watching and making up things about their lives! I hope other people do that when they see me and that the stories they make up are, at least, as interesting as my real life.
(It's weird that English doesn't exchange the day for night... Frinight?)
(If you can name where that quote came from without googling it, we'll probably get along.)
I'm polyamorous, bisexual and pagan yet incredibly picky.
If you do message me, please, for all that's holy, send me more than a "hi" or "how are you" or "like your pics". An indication that you read my profile and why you're interested in me would be nice. Also, having your profile filled out will increase your chances for a response.
And one last thing... please have a picture of your face. I really don't want to repeat the time I was enjoying getting to know someone through email only to find out they looked just like one of my relatives or the time that I almost met with someone only to discovered they were a dead ringer for my ex.
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