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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:59am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 11" (1.80m)
Special Diet
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Yiddish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Thirty something New York Lawyer.

I'm a vegetarian but not a preachy one (more like a lazy vegan these days... I am somewhat artsy, somewhat nerdy, somewhat guyish, somewhat metro/fashionable, somewhat polyamorous (see bottom for full details), somewhat of a vegetable gardener (I make awesome heirloom tomatoes with my hands and dirt), some kind of a rugby player (in a prior incarnation), something of a roller derby coach (in another prior life), somewhat Jewish, but somewhat agnostic, I believe the term for Gen X'ers is "cultural Jew," somewhat political, well to be fair I'm kind of insanely political...

I am a save-the-world lefty do-gooder type policy person at heart, and I am also drawn to the horse racey election and personality parts of politics (summary: I am both hack and wonk...) I am kind of a talker... but I assure you, there is something behind all of it...

I have a penchant for this fantastic city we live in...
no really, we live in a fantastic city.

Also, I have a penchant for: 3 piece suits, designer jeans, pocket watches, vintage tees, cuff links... vinyl records (Music is kinda important to me... Black and White (not fucking half-moon, or half-and-half cookies for those not from the NYC), half sour kosher pickles, dried cranberries, fancy vegan ramen, and bahn mi... single malt scotch (Laphroaig still my favorite)

Also also, I have a penchant for the ellipsis...(clearly)
What I’m doing with my life
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Keeping the streets safe for crack dealers!...

Self employed lawyer doing lawyery things that I never expected to be doing. Some of these things make me very happy... some make me shrug, but pay... mostly, I make it a point not to fuck anyone over... Wish me luck.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hair... its red, though a little blonder as I make my way through my 30s.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is by no means a complete list but it should give you us harmless ground to cover and perhaps start a conversation

books- Jitterbug Perfume High Fidelity, Skinny Legs and All, The Ethical Slut, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Catcher in the Rye, , On Liberty (J.S.Mill), Unbearable Lightness of Being, Opening Up,
Also, I have recently decided to reread A Peoples History of the United States

movies- Mr. Smith Goes to Washington, Breakfast Club, Sabrina(both versions),Star Wars original trilogy, High Fidelity, Brother From Another Planet... (director section) -Coen Bros: Raising Arizona,Big Lebowski, Fargo. -Hal Hartley: Henry Fool, The Amateur, Honest Men, Flirt. -Michel Gondry -Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Science of Dreams, Be Kind Rewind.

My favorite TV shows include: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Doctor Who, All in the Family, The West Wing, The Walking Dead, The Sopranos, The Honeymooners, Cowboy Bebop, Boston Legal

Most recently I just devoured both seasons of Copper.

music-Lately I have been digging The Chameleons, Medium Medium, Ex Hex, Husker Du, Pianos Become the Teeth, The Figgs, the new LP from Spoon, Waaves, and the newish album from Afghan Whigs. I am also so very grateful for this new video of theirs

Favorites include: Sonic Youth, John Coltrane, Sleater Kinney, Johnny Cash, Michael Jackson, Nada Surf, Superchunk, Aretha Franklin, Wolf Parade, Velvet Underground, Fugazi, The Temptations, Underworld, Diana Ross/Supremes, Concrete Blonde...

food- spicy stuff, Thai, Indian, any vegetarian/vegan variation on Jewish food, Bahn Mi, Bubble Tea, diner food is great, I feel that beets are the most underrated vegetable. I dig cooking, my latest endeavor is making really amazing ramen, and chickpea cutlets (a really great vegan chicken cutlet alternative).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
New York City (all 5 boroughs... well, 4 anyway)
Records, (big round ones)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once cheated on a High School math regents exam. The proctor had apparently worked all the multiple choice questions out and had her answer key in my face while she answered the question of a person sitting next to me. Seriously, this was not planned at all, I got maybe 7 or 8 answers... mea culpa.

Overall I'm not a terribly private person, I'd be willing to admit most anything to people about myself.
You should message me if
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You found something here that you dig about me, might like to meet me, and can carry your half of the conversation.

You need to be cool with the idea of an open relationship as this profile is labeled, and mentioned up top (polyamorous). I have a partner, she is fantastic... here she is known as hardcoverdarlin and we are in a polyamorous, or monogamish relationship. This is a consensual thing for all parties...

A more complicated yet more concise explanation of this is that while we are committed to eachother, we do not depend exclusively upon eachother for all of our romantic, or emotional needs and wants. If you are unable, (or disninterested) in meeting up with a guy that has a steady, stable, and honest relationship, then sadly this is probably not the profile for you.