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i_am_2nd

30 M Indianapolis, IN

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:11am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Gemini
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Hospitality
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I could paint a picture of who I am, but I'll let the things I do with my life do that for me. I'll say that I'm a counter-cultural man of many passions. What you need to know before you know anything else is that I'm a Christian.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The only thing that's for sure about me is nothing's for sure. There are too many things out there to learn, too many places out there to see, too many people out there to meet, too much food out there to taste, and so on. I've got huge aspirations, but the one thing in particular I can point out is that I spend a lot of time reflecting on my life through a biblical lens. I'm constantly working on spiritual aspect of who I am.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I fancy myself a socially awkward butterfly. There are times where I'm making conversation with strangers of all sorts. Other times, I'm away from all forms of human contact. It's made me adaptable in all social situations. I can connect to introverts and extroverts, optimists and pessimists, and those that are like me, the opportunists.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I cannot be pigeon holed. My personality is too random and my interests are too diverse to group me with a particular type of personality. I'm also not driven by the things that what pop culture deems as normal in any sense of the phrase. I do what I want to do and take up my own interests despite how much that clashes with where I come from and who I'm "supposed to be" culturally. Bring on your assumptions, prejudices, expectations, and judgements. I will defy every last one of them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I have a growing mini-library. It mostly consists of books on science, theology, and philosophy. I'm a huge fan of Mark Driscoll, Lee Strobel, and Ravi Zacharias.

Movies: My favorite movie scene goes like this:

"Seriously, what do you see in that guy?"
"He makes me laugh."

If you know what that's from, I'll marry you right now. ;)

Shows: I don't watch much TV. Most of it is softcore porn with no distinguishable plot. I always feel like my brain cells are rapidly eroding when I do watch it. I do enjoy Lost, Heroes, The Walking Dead, Once Upon a Time and shows of the like. I'm a casual WWE and anime fan too.

Music: I am pretty passionate about music. If you want to see an extensive list of what I like, check out my last.fm page. To give you an idea of what you're in for, I like listening to classical music when I'm reading or trying to sleep. I listen to some pretty heavy stuff when I'm on the go, and I listen to hip-hop (REAL hip-hop) when I'm in deep thought.

Click to see what I'm listening to right now!

Food: I'm a southern boy. Bring on the spicy stuff! Bring on the seafood! Bring on the soul food! Just keep the fast food at bay. I can't stand it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Let's color outside the lines. I'll tell you three things I look for in potential interests and three things that'll land you in the friendzone. I'm a rebel like that.

01) Jesus. He walks. Do you know it? Having the same theological worldview is very important to me. I believe the bible is the infallible truth without any exceptions (this includes marriage, sexuality, abortion, and everything else people debate about).

02) Music. I love it. I don't just say I love it, I show it. I still buy music. I go to concerts. I buy DVDs. I read/listen to interviews. I have tons of merchandise. I actually show the artists love that enhance my life. It REALLY irritates me when people say they love music, but steal all that they have. Have something you're passionate about too!

03) Art. It runs in my family. I'm alright with a pen myself. I'm no poet by any means, but literature is my thing. Everyone on my father's side is some type of artist. Because of this, I've been convinced I'd marry an artist since I was 14.

Three things that'll banish you to the land of no return:

01) Mixed signals. If you're confused about life, just leave me alone. I've had enough women waste my time because they don't know what they want. Even more annoying are the ones that get what they want and don't know what to do with it when they get it. I digress....

02) Prudishness. I can't stand "holier than thou" people. I like to have a drink now and then. That doesn't mean I'm a drunk. I like to tell edgy jokes. It doesn't mean I'm insensitive, deranged, or a pervert. I have gay friends. That doesn't mean I condone sexual sin. I could go on. Please, don't be a stick in the mud.

03) Smoke. I can't stand it. I don't care if it's mary j or cigs. It's all disgusting to me and turns me off. My friends do it, and that's where you'll be with the rest of them. The friendzone. ;)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I have many great theological and philosophical teachers. Through what I learn from them, I'm always thinking about life's different challenges and how I can better approach them for myself and the world around me. I want to be a loving example for people. The only way I can do that is to continue to challenge myself. How do I get all of this accomplished? How can I keep pushing myself?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Who knows? Maybe it's one of the nights I'm wandering around downtown looking for random people to hang out with. Maybe I'm actually hanging out with my own friends. Maybe I'm catching a movie. Maybe I'm at a local concert venue. Maybe I'm at a comedy club. Or maybe I'm being boring and just reading a book. It's always a shot in the dark with me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This isn't very private, but what I want in a woman is a helper. I need someone to be strong in the areas that I am weak. I want to be the same thing for the woman that I end up with. All I want is someone I can balance the struggle of life with and honor God at the same time.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–31
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You know what "I am second" means.
You are "notw" too.
You have good taste in men. ;)
You are this woman!
You want to do things His way.
You think I'm interesting/cute/etc etc.
You're going to rate me 4 or 5 stars.
You didn't google the movie quote.
You want to.