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35 • Oakland, CA • Cis Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 21-50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Yesterday – 6:34am
- Heteroflexible, Queer
- Native American, White
- Open relationship
- Relationship Type
- Strictly non-monogamous
- 6' 1" (1.85m)
- Other and it’s important
- High school
- Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Attitude- Accepting (but optimistic), playful (but serious), curious (but shy), enthusiastic (but chill), respectful (but mischievous).
Movies-SOME Favorites are Flight of Dragons, Fight Club, Over the Edge, Breakfast Club, Big Lebowski, Star Wars, LOTR, Warlords of the 21st Century, Princess Mononoke, Harold and Maude, Repo Man, Pulp Fiction, Lost Boys, Trainspotting, Doom Generation, Mad Max, Akira, Kill Bill, Hobbit, From Hell, 300, Orgazmo, Lock Stock & 2 Smoking Barrels, Sleepy Hollow, Princess Bride, Army of Darkness, Fifth Element, Wolverine Origins, Sin City, Office Space, Ninja Scroll, Reservoir Dogs, Valley Girl, Titus, Dark Crystal, Natural Born Killers, Snatch, Baseketball, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, Curse Of The Black Pearl, Silence Of The Lambs, Wet Hot American Summer, V For Vendetta, Ghost In The Shell, Underworld, Return Of The Living Dead. I don't watch much in the way of television shows but I really enjoy Metalocalypse, Firefly, Kids In The Hall, Superjail, Boondocks, Aeon Flux, Young Ones, and South Park.
Music-SOME Favorites are Nirvana, Crass, Dethklok, Ghoul, Deadfall, Dead Kennedys, Amebix, Toxic Narcotic, Subhumans, Black Flag, Bread and Water, Operation Ivy, Bad Religon, F.Y.P., Dystopia, Black Sabbath, Born Dead, Naked Aggression, Phobia, Instant Asshole, Conflict, Voetsek, Soundgarden, Strung Up, Fugazi, Witch Hunt, Rudimentary Peni, Harum Scarum, Artimus Pyle, D.R.I., Municipal Waste, Misfits, Nausea, Population Reduction, Slayer, M.D.C., Descendents, Venom, Against Me, Common Rider, Tom Waits, Retching Red, Embers, Voivod, Sonic Youth, Melvins, Brainoil, Econochrist, Tad, Resistant Culture, Submission Hold, Link 80, Sepultura, Propaghandi, Gossip, Led Zepplin, Motorhead, Annihilation Time, Behind Enemy Lines, Hirax, Theories, Common Rider, Hatchet, Skankin Pickle, That Dog...
... and BRYAUGH! (my band. look us up on facebook or bandcamp! We play punk and metal covers of songs from Tolkien movies like the Hobbit and LOTR, and from the animated classics The Flight Of Dragons and The Last Unicorn.
Books-Favorite authors are Earnest Callenbach, J.R.R. Tolkien, Michael Bakunin, Howard Zinn, RA Salvatore, Ray Bradbury, Ursula K LeGuin, Noam Chomsky, George Orwell, Chris Carlson, Hunter S Thomson, Kurt Vonnegut Jr, Alan Moore, Peter Dickenson, Ward Churchill, Mumia Abu Jamal, Warren Ellis, Isaac Asimov, Evan Dorkin, Robert Louis Stevenson, Robert A Hienlen, Jules Verne, Aaron Cometbus, Brian Wood, Jim Mahfood, Judd Winick, Peter Bagge, Bob Fingerman, Peter Lamborn Wilson, John Milton, and the Crimethinc Collective.
Food-Favorite types are Mexican, Thai, Japanese, Ethiopian and Italian. I'm a burrito addict, but my favorite dish is french toast a-la-mode in maple syrup, side of toasted plain bagels with cream cheese and lox, with strawberry mimosas (I'm a big fan of breakfast). Favorite drink at a bar is Guinness.
3. Magnifying Glass
4. Magic Cards
Or perhaps returning from the beach...
Or occasionally at a restaurant or bar having a meal or a beer with family, friends and/or a date...
But most likely playing magic cards with friends.
(But that's sort of a cop-out, so here's something a bit juicier- I am vasectomized. I knew I didn't want to procreate since I was a teenager, and so I later made sure I would never biologically reproduce.)
(Bonus pet peeve- Recently I've found myself hyper aware of word combinations that accidentally result in an insult. For instance- 'more on', 'as whole', 'not see'. If I hear someone say moron, asshole or nazi by accident, my brain kinda cringes.)
I am queer-friendly. I usually self-identify as hetero-flexible (thanx to Fetlife for introducing me to that term), but I don't think any term could really encapsulate my sexual identity. I tend to be a dom/top with female-bodied playmates, a sub/bottom with male-bodied playmates, and a switch with trans/genderqueer playmates.
Please note that at the top of my profile it says 'open relationship', not 'single'. I am in a domestic partnership, and am not currently looking for anyone else to fill that role in my life. Respect this, and you can go far with me. I am still very open to a variety of interactions with the potential to evolve into more serious attachments- i am configurationally flexible and open to letting things develop organically. Also, as a couple, my codomestication partner and I are looking for future potential playmates and partners with whom to build a poly group.
Contrary to popular gender roles, I generally prefer to be saught instead of seek, to be the pursued as opposed to being the pursuer, to be wooed rather than woo. I'm down to reciprocate should circumstances allow, but you'll initiate and actively maintain contact to really impress me.
Reconsider contacting me if you are really big on spirituality, wealth or drinking. I'm pretty open minded and accepting of folks in general, but god, greed and alcoholism bring out the worst in people IMO.
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