i_am_derp
32 Seattle, WA
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My self-summary
I am an inquisitive, honest, geeky, relentlessly inquisitive guy prone to bouts of deep analytical thinking about whatever topic piques my interest at the moment.

I have a fairly even mixture of analytical and creative ability. I'm not hyper-analytical like some of my friends who can easily decipher patterns from complex information, nor am I hyper-creative like some of my other friends who can seem to weave whole worlds out of thin air, but I am reasonably good at both, and I like being able to use each of those aspects to supplement the other, either in my own thinking or in a conversation with others.

Speaking of conversations, I am the kind of person who finds excitement about a topic contagious -- if you are a person who has an interest, hobby, or whatever else that you are passionate about, chances are that I will be super interested to talk to you about it.

Also, I really like video games.

**IMPORTANT**

Just to get this out of the way at the start -- I am married and in an open relationship with my spouse. We've talked about this at (extreme) length and are both comfortable with each other seeing other people, and in fact have found it healthy for our relationship.

Basically, I'm not looking to start another serious relationship with anyone. However, it would be totally awesome to meet some new and interesting people who are up for a friends-with-benefits-style arrangement!
What I’m doing with my life
On a professional level, I'm currently working as a video game designer at a small independent studio in Seattle. I've always wanted to work in video games since I was a kid back in the 80's growing up with an Apple II and an NES, so I'm pretty happy that I've been able to find a place for myself in the industry. I'm not quite at my exact career goal yet, but I'm pleased with what I've done so far and optimistic about acheiving my goals eventually.

On a personal level, I have an awesome group of friends here in Seattle who are excellent conversation partners AND gaming partners, whether for video games or tabletop roleplaying games or board games or whatever else (I like all the games, pretty much). I also have three cats who I adore to a ridiculous degree. They are my babies, and I spoil them unashamedly and relentlessly.
I’m really good at
Approaching topics honestly and without a lot of bias. Haha, yeah, I know that that is somewhat vague and broad, but it's true, I swear! I have tried to really hone my ability to assess things as objectively as I can, or at least to be able to notice my subjectivity and bias and call myself on it. In turn, I feel like that has allowed me to be a good communicator; I'm good at listening and responding to other people's thoughts and opinions, even if I disagree with them. And again in turn, because I feel like I can precisely articulate a difference of opinion both to myself in my own head and to others in a conversation, that helps me not get defensive when someone disagrees with me.

I hope that that last paragraph doesn't come off as elitist or anything. In any case, I'm pretty good at video games as well.
The first things people usually notice about me
Ah geez, this section. Wouldn't the first thing someone notices change from person to person?

I actually ended up asking some people what they thought, and one of the answers that came up often was that I apparently come across as very genuine. Which is good! Because I'd like to think I am genuine. So... go me?

Hopefully that satisfies the requirements for this section.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am terrible at making favorites lists. For some reason, my mind just doesn't really mentally organize stuff like that.

However, it is also lame to not have something here, so I'll make a list of some of the things that I am enjoying currently or have enjoyed recently.

Movies\TV: Just finished watching Jessica Jones. Wow, what an intense series. These Netflix Marvel series have been crazy good, and I'm really excited about season 2 of Daredevil this March. Also, I wish Cartoon Network would let us know when Steven Universe is going to get more episodes. I need them. I need them real bad.

Video Games: XCOM 2! Saving the earth from the alien menace, one bullet at a time. Fun game, though it has some issues. Also, despite having played it months ago now, Undertale is still ringing around in my brain on a pretty regular basis. Incredible game.

Board\Tabletop Games: My friends and I are in the thick of our "island game", which was inspired by Lost (but hopefully will have a better ending). The game focuses fairly heavily on the roleplaying and character aspects, which is a ton of fun with the right group. I'd be happy to chat about it if you're interested!
The six things I could never do without
i dislike this section
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Various things. I don't really have a favorite subject to think about. Things will occur to me pretty much whenever and I'll just follow that string of thoughts. I enjoy just the process of thinking, and the subject doesn't really matter.

That said... I spend a lot of time thinking about myself. Not necessarily in a narcissistic way, but more in an introspective way. I like figuring out the underlying patterns of my own thoughts and behavior, basically trying to understand, or at least catalog, the "software" that I'm running on. I figure that not only is it interesting, but it makes it easier to try to fix things about myself that I don't like, or at least to be aware when I'm engaging in those behavioral patterns that I've decided are undesirable.
On a typical Friday night I am
Chilling out at home with my partner, relaxing together at the end of the week. Usually we're watching something and eating dinner while the kitties hang out with us.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Death scares the hell out of me. Sometimes when I'm thinking it kind of hits me that I'm going to die and stop existing and there's nothing I can really do about it. I guess it's kind of silly to worry about something that you don't have any real control over, but the thought of nonexistence scares me a lot. I mean, I really like existing.

Also, I think "The Touch" from the 1986 Transformers movie is a poignant song. Hrm, maybe that one was a bit too private.
You should message me if
Before going any further, make sure you've read the section at the top of my profile marked **IMPORTANT** and are OK with it!

-You want to have an interesting conversation about pretty much any topic. Especially if it's a topic you are passionate about.

-You are honest and a good communicator. This one is pretty important to me. I get frustrated and anxious when I feel like I can't trust things that my friends say, like for example if one of them says that they are okay with a particular thing when in fact they are not okay with it. Don't do that! Be assertive and honest about your needs!

-You want to swap pet stories. I've heard that talking about your pets to other people is supposed to be considered self-indulgent or something? Fuck that. Pets are awesome: I want to hear about yours, and I would love to tell you about my group of feline troublemakers.

-You have some feedback for my profile. Seriously, I've rewritten this thing many times now and I feel like I might never be satisfied. If you think it's too short, too long, is missing information you'd like to know, has information that you found extraneous, or whatever else, I want to hear about it!

-Or if you want to talk about or play some video games! :p

NOTE: I've just come back to OKC after a fairly long hiatus, and I'm in the process of maintaining and updating my answered questions. If you see any answers on there that don't match up with what my profile says above, go with my profile.
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