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i_am_johnshade

48 Los Angeles, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–47
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Status
Single
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English, Latin
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
OK, I'm not seasick. (Not that I couldn't be.) But I'm a sharp, verbal, literary type with a sense of humor about myself and some perspective. Who hates filling out little boxes and answering generically attuned questions, even ones as open-ended as these, but I'll give it a shot.

Stuff I dig: music (all stripes: today, Deerhunter, Spacemen 3, Mott the Hoople, Brian Eno, Al Green, Otis Redding), books, red wine, baseball in October, parentheses, Venice, LA in general, sex, patience, modesty, affection, Jonathan Lethem's forthcoming novel, my own forthcoming novel (some days), guilty pleasures without any actual guilt, finding out I love something I didn't know I would (see under: Austen, Jane), eating expensively, having cool clothes but a job that doesn't require me to wear them, James Salter's Light Years, Saul Bellow, Tolstoy, Philip Roth at his most corrosive, artists' colonies, sleeping, hiking, sneaking a cigarette only super-occasionally when I've been drinking, vowing, quite sincerely, never to smoke again. Imperfection. Seriously. Yours, and mine.

A few things I deplore: pundits, absolutism, argumentativeness, sarcasm, rank egotism, eggs. Surely there are other things, but I'm not thinking of them just now.

I am Articulate, Seasick, and Charming
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Writing & publishing novels; creating a series based on one of those novels for a premium cable network; writing a script with That Actor Who Does All Those Other Things Too; co-parenting an incredibly charming seven-year-old.

In short, a lot. And it's all a tremendous amount of fun, most of the time. A charmed life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
DJing, contemplating, writing flirtatious emails, hitting balls with sticks, listening, interpreting, teaching, thinking about becoming a better cook, skateboarding (OK, probably better in my mind at that), skiing, self-mocking, scrabble, empathizing, public speaking, editing, stumbling, maintaining grace under pressure.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Not being those people, I wouldn't know, but I'm guessing it's intelligence, eyes, general kindness of disposition.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh, Lord. Books: War & Peace, Moby Dick, Light Years, Shirley Hazzard's The Transit of Venus, Fortress of Solitude, miscellaneous Bellows, James Baldwin's Another Country, The Crying of Lot 49, Pale Fire, Middlemarch, Great Expectations, Turgenev's Torrents of Spring. So, so, so many others.

The Conversation, Husbands, Chinatown, The Sting, Network. 70s golden-age stuff, basically.

Music? We'd be here all day. Curtis Mayfield, Television, pre-1973 Stones, Al Green, various Jamaican harmony trios, Big Star, that first Spiritualized record, the Faces. On and on, again.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Literature, music, sex, a sense of humor about myself, my daughter. The sixth thing can be undiscovered, for now.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Art, mortality, morality. The big questions, really.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Prone, in my pajamas? Out of my mind on whiskey and cheap speed? Seriously, what kind of question is this? Alive, fortunately, and breathing somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm all for embarrassing self-disclosure, but not in cyberspace. Leave me some material about which to be charming later.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
These questions all seem at least a little bit beside the point.