When I'm in, I'm in. I'm loyal, passionate and communicative. I don't play the field, and I don't do casual.
The thing I’ve learned is I thrive on connection. I want chemistry, friendship, conversation and staying power. I want a new type of love that is deeper than before, more experienced and generous. I also know that we both need to make ourselves vulnerable (again) and it’s scary.
I want someone who is eager to shape her life in new ways, who reads, conquers crosswords and craves sushi as often as you crave Mexican. You drive fast, are fiercely independent yet relish complementary roles. You want and expect commitment because it’s the foundation for trust and partnership. Together, we encourage each other and happily fill needs. We pamper and confide and create adventure.
You are your own person, yet you’re not afraid to love and rely on me. You are creative and funny and wickedly smart. You are an outsider because you don’t like to be constrained, but you are faithful to honorable and true things. You communicate regularly because you have a lot to say. You are Cake’s short skirt, long jacket girl, with a mind like a diamond.
I am attracted to you because you DO NOT have everything figured out. I wrestle with issues all the time, and I'm amazed when other people don't.
That’s part of it. The other part is family, which is a significant fabric of my life. I’m a dad to three boys, 11, 14 and 16. I have them 50 percent of the time. So if you can't do the family thing for a while longer, I'm not your man. I was married a very long time, divorced for about five years. Some people boast that they like to jet off to Belize at a moment’s notice. That’s not me. It would be nice, sure, but more realistic is a long weekend in Santa Barbara.
I've been a writer most of my life and enjoy it immensely. Over the years, I've been a daily newspaper reporter and editor. Now, I'm a marketing and speech writer for a large technology company. I'm also writing short story fiction and a weekly newspaper column in my spare time. If you like to read, try typing "hintdiction" and you'll find me.
I like to live an eclectic, modest and meaningful life. I don't appreciate being labeled or pigeonholed. I'm not into partisan politics, preferring to judge issues or candidates on their own merits. I'm not religious but I do consider myself ethical and open to the possibility of the unknown.
But my life is not necessarily a PBS miniseries. Truth be told, I often prefer downtime: bodysurfing, sports, reading on the beach, speeding in my quirky classic car. I am very easy to entertain. I try to laugh freely and have fun, but I also enjoy being contemplative and quiet, which seems to be a dying art.
So like that cool, humble little bungalow in Laguna you've lusted after all these years, I'm on the market. It's a great value, I think, with character, good light, solid foundation and a face with a view. Plus, my home plays very original, infectious music: Beck, Moby, Massive Attack, The XX, Alt-J, Tom Waits, Morphine, Nine Inch Nails, Peter Murphy, Depeche Mode and many others. I'm your off-beat, genuine and reliable neighbor, someone you might underestimate at first but ultimately will never forget.