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ichbinilya

31 M Washington, DC

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:51pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Politics / Government
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Well, I'm almost 30, so there's that. When does the "feeling like a grown up" part kick in?

Edit: Now I'm 31 but it's still not happening.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I was born in the Soviet Union, immigrated to the U.S. at the age of 7, grew up (and left my heart in) Boston, and moved here last fall to start a new career.

My family story is complicated -- ask me about it on our first date! -- but the upshot is that my closest friends are like the extended family I don't have. They're mostly back in Boston, and I've been missing them a lot since moving here.

Fortunately, I tend to fall in love with cities easily (past loves include Prague, Berlin, Saint Petersburg, Bishkek, and most recently Vilnius), so exploring a place like DC keeps me busy. It's a beautiful city, and there's plenty to do. But it doesn't, really, you know, feel like home yet...

Also trying to navigate this whole work/life balance thing. So far with less success than I might like. I work in a very fast paced human rights job which can mean nights and weekends, though I'm trying to cut down on that and find a little more balance.

In general, what I want to do with my life? Find fulfillment in my career, joy in my relationships, raise a family, and leave this world a little better than I found it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I read and type faster than you, but I probably have a shorter attention span. I think I read people well, and I'm good at both empathy and sympathy. I'm good at conversation, but not so good at being patient with people who are not so good at it. I'm good at expressing my feelings, at least the ones I admit to myself. Maybe not so good at keeping my mouth shut when it would be wise to do so. I'm good at being curious and getting excited about things -- less good at following through in the long term. Especially when it's hard! I'm good at quitting smoking, having done it a bunch. This latest time seems to have stuck, more or less. I'm great at being a pleasant drunk (very friendly and gregarious) but despite literally years of practice, I'm still not good at beer pong. I'm good at becoming enthusiastic about most things you might be enthusiastic about, but not so good if it's sports or cars. I have good social skills, but sometimes I need other people to also be energetic and enthusiastic so I can feed off of them, otherwise I get exhausted. If I love you, I'm good at showing it. But I don't seem to be as good at falling in love as I once was!
The first things people usually notice about me
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This question feels a little too ego-strokey.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'd rather just paste some of my favorite quotes. Each one says something about me or something about what I believe.

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."
-- Unattributed

"Education, then, beyond all other devices of human origin, is the great equalizer of the conditions of men."
-- Horace Mann

"We had fed the heart on fantasies,
The heart's grown brutal from the fare"
-- W.B. Yeats

"The path from good to evil goes through bogus"
-- Paul Graham

"O, let America be America again--
The land that never has been yet--
And yet must be"
-- Langston Hughes

"...ich freu mich über meine Gedanken, selbst wenn sie Wüsten entdecken."
-- Odön von Horvath

"Breathes there the man, with soul so dead,
Who never to himself hath said,
"This is my own, my native land!"
Whose heart hath ne’er within him burn’d,
As home his footsteps he hath turn’d,
From wandering on a foreign strand?"
-- Sir Walter Scott

"The whole world is three drinks behind."
-- Humphrey Bogart

"Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn."
-- Gore Vidal

"And do you think that unto such as you
A maggot-minded, starved, fanatic crew
God gave a secret, and denied it me?
Well, well - what matters it? Believe that, too!"
-- The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam

"I and the public know
What all schoolchildren learn,
Those to whom evil is done
Do evil in return."
-- W.H. Auden

"yo, too many songs
weak rhymes that's mad long
make it brief, son
half short and twice strong"
- GZA, Wu-Tang Clan

Совесть, благородство и достоинство – вот оно, святое наше воинство.

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I'll list my favorite shows, since I watch TV extremely sparingly and I'm proud of my taste: Six Feet Under, Arrested Development, King of the Hill, Newsradio, Peep Show, and The Office.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My bike, my music collection, the Russian language, my close-knit group of high school friends, sriracha, and living in a walkable city.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out.

If your answer is some variant of "sometimes I like to stay in but sometimes I like to go out," then I hate your profile.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Everyone on here comes off as way too fucking self-assured. I'm going to go ahead and say that I don't always have my shit 100% together. Come on, it's okay. You don't have to. It's much more important to be real about it. Can we just admit that sometimes we feel fragile and vulnerable?

For what it's worth, I believe that exchanging vulnerabilities is the realest way to get close to someone.
You should message me if
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if you are fierce, funny, and exceptionally emotionally intelligent.