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44 Ventura, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:35pm
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Can read and write. Well-rounded. Sharp. Sturdy shoulders, good hands. Like fine dining... and spirited slumming. Don't claim to have $8000 rims on my ride. Well-traveled, athletic. Slightly sloppy, but sensitive and observant. Fun in a car. Supportive in a jam. Meditator. #5 bocce player in North America.

Got a fun job.

I am observant, confident, and mellow.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Splitting my time between L.A. and Ventura. Working hard. Then taking it pretty easy (surfing, camping, frisbee, pretty high level amateur bocce,trying to figure out the barbecuer, etcetera .)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
throwing a frisbee.

mind reading.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
eyes and grey hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Salinger, William Goldman, David Sedaris, Miranda July, Larry McMurtry, Roy Blount Jr., Jonathan Lethem, Henry Miller.

Sex Lies and Videotape, Tri-Colour, Children of Men, Flirting With Disaster, Searching For Bobby Fisher, My Life as a Dog, Naked

The Americans, homeland, drunk history, Sherlock (british one), Broad City, Silicon Valley, Key and Peele, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey, Girls, Workaholics, Forensic Files, The Office (original British), Survivor.

Arcade Fire, Pixies, Modest Mouse, Miles Davis, Keith Jarrett, King Krule, Animal Collective

artichokes, wasab-peas (?!), kale, steak
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
chipotles in adobo sauce, surf board, frisbee, a mead composition book, sharpie, electric toothbrush, the main remote control.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
not thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
there is no typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i have trouble saying "Arnold Palmer" when ordering "Anah Pamuhs"
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.

a) like artichokes

b) smell good, but not because you poured a gallon of windsong on yourself.

b.5) your favorite movie is: one flew over the cuckoo's nest, fearless, flirting with disaster, (tricolour) red, sex, lies and videotape, searching for bobby fisher, what's eating gilbert grape, meatballs, ordinary people, fast times, survivor fiji with yau man, The Wire, six feet under, high stakes poker, intervention, or good morning earth.)

c) your curiosity or sense of justice occasionally overpowers your sense of decorum.

d) you laugh hard but not out of charity.

e) have been to starbucks in your pajamas, but on two or less occasions.

f) think Malcolm Gladwell is full of shit, or want to debate it. ( I don't care about this one anymore)

g) occasionally speak in a foreign accent for own entertainment

h) play hooky from time to time

i) have an archrival/nemesis who adds spice to your life.

j) play poker, surf, disc golf, or meditate.

k) Can talk about wine... and make fun of people who talk about wine.

l) know or pretend to want to know what a squeeze play is. ( I actually don't care about that sport that much but just curious who might know that, off hand.

m) help old ladies across the street or go to trouble to return other people's stuff if you find it, unless it's really really cool and you want it. (But not if you are haunted by that.)

n) are a pianist, photographer,physician, teacher, painter, architect, filmmaker, modern dancer, tamale lady, or genius of unspecified field.

o) have skinny dipped in the last two years.