idlehandz
37 Union City, NJ
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My self-summary
Keepin' it short & sweet in an effort to be simplistic. I'm a turnpike trekker. I live in the north, but travel to south jersey often to be close to my Philly area family. I live in Hudson County, but I've set my area to central jersey because this site keeps giving me matches from Brooklyn & I don't love NY enough to travel there all the time. Seeing it every morning from my window is enough.

70's baby. Early 80's kid. Hard working family man who grinds in the design world to avoid the stigma of being a starving artist. I make money with my talent, blessed with great family & home life, so in my eyes, I've already gotten far in the game of life, but there is always room for growth.

*** News Flash ***
I'm in an open marriage with a wonderful woman of almost ten years. This may not sit well with some, but honesty with each other felt better than going the Ashley Madison route. I keep no secrets from the Mrs. & we're not about games or drama or establishing a "poly family unit". We have our friends & fun responsibly & keep our priorities paramount. All apart of being adults folks.
What I’m doing with my life
I work hard & love my family. There was a time I didn't think I would fit into this mold, but I've taken it on whole heartedly. I'm a creative soul, & get a decent pay for my talent; the bills gotta get paid. Such is the life for most of us in this economy. The majority of my downtime is where it should be, with my family, but being under family all the time is not healthy & the wife and I agreed to allot at least one weekend out of the month to "roam the open terrain" & live social. Art, music and entertainment are my passions and I root for the home team sports wise always.
I’m really good at
Cooking, art, conversation go hand in hand. Finding interesting movies & music or art. I got free time? I can go out with ya to a show or bar just for the fact that I the time to breathe a bit.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'd say my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books are once in a while for me, though the iPad has made it easier for me to get my mitts on new reading material. Walking Dead Rise of the Gov was a good read. Movies a plenty. Martian was good. Mad Max kicked ass. Beasts of no nation got robbed for Oscar nods. TV: Walking Dead ( kinda hard not to like that show), Big Bang Theory (Sheldon finally getting laid saved the show for another season). Game of Thrones, Spongebob does get rotation on my tv, Gravity Falls and Rick & Morty has been refreshingly funny (yes I still watch cartoons. I did go to school for animation afterall & so decrees my daughter). Venture Bros is back! Mr Robot is next on my viewing schedule.

MUSIC: My tastes are all over the place. Kendrick Lamar made for a good album this year. Madlib and Freddie Gibbs: Piñata was a good album. Lately the works of Full Crate and Mar have impressed me as well as Detroit's "Tall Black Guy productions" (His beat rework of Sade's taboo is wtf ftw all way round). Some Bibio as well and Ocote Soul sounds, Tommy Gurerro, The works of Farouz, Ennio Morricone's cinema works (mostly 60's era)...list goes on.
The six things I could never do without
Music
Family
Laughter
Peace, prosperity & a little paper.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I've gone from being young and dumb to adult and happily domesticated. Parenting & being a good father. Everyday is a new day & you shouldn't mind making mistakes in life just as long as you can correct them. If you can't, try to stand strong when the dust clears.

What will the dating/social life will be like for my children when they get of age & will us as mankind get progressively dumber and worse as time progresses.

Paying Bills

Painting

Why aren't fanta leaves so easy to get in my neighborhood.

Someday beating Super Mario Brothers (yup, never beat it)

Most importantly: Why is that a high percentage of my matches in the North Jersey area are concentrated in Brooklyn?? I love Brooklyn, but I fear it. I fear it because every time I've gone there... "Beautiful Chaos" sums up how it goes down in Brooklyn.
On a typical Friday night I am
With family. On my weekends of freedom. I'm out with like minded friends, movies, or chilling at their respective "fortresses' of solitude" playing video games, board games, or movie watching, cooking, painting or partaking in the herbal gifts I bring. Concert or show would be option 2
I can be more of a night owl most times. I'm one to stay up late and paint canvas or do digital work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Uhhhhh...
You should message me if
I like a person to feel comfortable in their own skin. Love to laugh & collaborate in the kitchen. You read comic books, do art , dig video games, music tastes or want to talk politics, religion or the problems in he world today & wish to formulate a game plan to solve them. You're not afraid of brown people in glasses. You understand and respect a quality beer.
I don't discriminate in terms of color, but glasses are a bonus and an avid weakness. I don't dig petite (sorry) & I believe real women have curves. Put this together with a sense of humor, an open mind and the smarts to match & you've got my attention.

You understand & respect my family life is mine and separate from my frugal social life. You understand that I'm not looking to be a love interest or be apart of a poly lifestyle ( my wife enjoys women as well, but we're about having a grounded family life for our kid) While, I admit I have a sensual nature & my profile would suggest it so, I'm very confident & reserved in it. I respect boundaries & adhere to them when it comes to female friends. You can count on me to be properly dressed, with manners & intelligent grounded conversation.
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