A man about town in some aspects, but in many ways I'm not. I just move though the city well & take advantage of what it has to offer.
In a nutshell you could say I'm the brown version of "The Dude" except I hold down a job, I suck a bowling, and I don't wear a bathrobe...& I shave pretty regularly, but only because I can't grow a full beard. I live in North Jersey & I travel between Philly, Maryland, NJ & NY often for work, friends & family, but when I have down time to myself I like to have it in Philly for the most part.

Physical-wise, the wife tries to keep me well fed. She's been trying to give me that teddy bear physique( think more Jerry Ferrara aka "Turtle" from Entourage before he got thinner) & I've been fighting her both tooth and nail about it. I work the treadmill and then she comes at me with baked lasagne. It's a vicious circle, but having lost 20 lbs, I think I'm winning the battle. That said, I'm no Ryan Gossling, but I'm not Kevin James big either. I don't think I'm a heartthrob, but same time, I'm not bad on the eyes.

I'm married with a child and I have a great home life. Adjusting to family life has been awesome for the most part. Parenting is a commitment that my wife and I are very proud of, but at the same time we miss our freedom. We are both very committed to each other, but we never fully adhered to monogamy & marriage didn't change that. We respect each others' boundaries, privacy and friends.

With that said, I'm not looking for just a causal lay. While that can be "fun" it's not the only purpose of my "free frolicking". I like to spend time with like minded friends. If you're free spirited, creative, 420 friendly and like to have engaging conversations about life and all the intricacies in it over a blunt, bong, joint or vaporizer, count me in. Foreign movies I enjoy & I don't mind reading subtitles. A good action movie or comedy. Give me new music to listen to & I will do the same. The club scene is long gone in my eyes. I enjoy the bar from time to time, but to hang out over a friends spot to toke, joke and perhaps whip up something in the kitchen is more ideal. After the night is done, I can hit the road or if you're a gracious host , I can surf the couch & in return make breakfast in the morning before I'm on my way. Sounds strange for some, but it is what it is & I does what I does. I'm the guy that will help you move in exchange for you getting me smoked out. I'm the guy that will help you design, cook create something you may think is cool.

I do drive so you can take comfort in the fact that if you did want to take the chance of meeting, I can meet you at a public place near you. You walk up. You see me. If you don't like what you see you can AGAIN, always take comfort in the fact that:
A. You can opt to be social still, sit down and have a cordial, respectable, conversation to further aid in making your decision to interact in any future way you see fit.
OR
B. You decide it's not what you are looking for and go on your way with the comfort that you didn't have to go far to deal with a situation that didn't meet your expectations & can continue on your day fairly, un- hampered.
Either way I still get to go outside and enjoy some time out in my favorite city. No harm no foul.

I've always had more female friends than male. I find women to be more interesting than guys in terms of levels of conversation. You can get a deeper emotional perspective on issues from women on things than with a guy( blame it on the male macho effect).I've been labeled by many girls as the "I wish" & "it's a shame" guy. Meaning: I wish you weren't single or it's a shame you're taken. You can gain a lot of insight from talking with a lady without the sole objective of getting her pants, but her thoughts instead.

I'm not a big noise maker. I extrude calm as opposed to cool & that's how I carry myself. Cocky? Never. Assertive? Yes.
I'm the gray area between Booty Call & A Boyfriend. I know my role and I perform it well.

I work hard & love my family. There was a time I didn't think I would fit into this mold, but I've taken it on whole heartedly. I'm a creative soul, but I work a dull job to pay the bills. Such is the life for most of us in this economy. The majority of my downtime is where it should be, with my family, but being under family all the time is not healthy & the wife and I agreed to allot at least one weekend out of the month to "roam the open terrain" & live social. Art, music and entertainment are my passions and I root for the home team sports wise always.

Cooking, art, conversation go hand in hand. I have a knack for finding quality potheads. Finding interesting movies & music or art. I got free time? I can go out with ya to a show or bar just for the fact that I the time to breathe a bit.

I've perfected respectable refined sneers. It's not off putting and gets more smiles than jeers. Hey, that rhymed. I've been told that I have nice eyes and the fact that I have a fuller bottom lip makes me a better kisser I've been told. I've been told that I'm very easy to talk to as well.

Books are once in a while for me, though the iPad has made it easier for me to get my mitts on new reading material. Walking Dead Rise of the Gov was a good read. Last movie I saw was Django (wife & I loved it). TV: Walking Dead ( kinda hard not to like that show), Big Bang Theory (Sheldon needs to get laid soon and Raj keeps getting fucked over & the drink to talk bullshit needs to stop. This needs to change soon or I feel the shark is gonna jump). Community, Real Husbands of Hollywood is the only reason BET is back in my life & Kevin Hart : support the homegrown always. Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Latest installment of An Idiot Abroad. Spongebob does get rotation on my tv & the New Looney Toons show has been refreshingly funny (yes I still watch cartoons. I did go to school for animation afterall).

MUSIC: My tastes are very broad so I'm gonna run down the last ten albums I listened to skimming through my playlist.
Mar 2013
1. Dela- Translation Lost
2.Radiohead - Kid A
3.Soundgarden - Superunkown
4.DJ. Marky - Ya Thang/Ya Know (single)
5.Little Dragon- Ritual Union
6.El-P - Cancer 4 Cure
7.The Good, The Bad, & The Queen ( Albarn strikes again...)
8. Roni Size Reprazent - New Forms
9. Jose Gonzalez - In our future
10. Bob Marley - Uprising

Music
Family
Laughter
Random doodles
Cool Water (a drink and the cologne)
Quality Bud
Decompression & Release

How can one child so small constantly make a mess so big?
What will the dating/social life will be like for my children ( I say children because we plan for one more) when they get of age & will us men get progressively dumber and worse as time progresses.
Most importantly: Why is that a high percentage of my matches in the North Jersey area are concentrated in Brooklyn?? I love Brooklyn, but I fear it. I fear it because every time I've gone there... "Beautiful Chaos" sums up how it goes down in Brooklyn & I fear if I spend too much time there I'd make the news one day & it would involve me, several busty women of virtue and aggression, weed & a pet monkey. I do not own a monkey, but when a monkey is involved the situation is twice as epic regardless of what it is. Example: Going to WalMart? Meh. Going to WalMart with a amped monkey rollin shotgun in your shopping cart = EPIC!

With family. On my weekends of freedom. I'm out with like minded friends, movies, or chilling at their respective "fortresses' of solitude" playing video games, board games, or movie watching, cooking, painting or partaking in the herbal gifts I bring. Concert or show would be option 2
I can be more of a night owl most times. I'm one to stay up late and paint canvas or do digital work.

I get nostalgically choked up watching my daughter smile watching Super Grover on Sesame Street.

My Disclaimer Part 2: What I'm looking for:

In my adventurous free spirited days I've come to a very reliable concrete conclusion: geeky/nerdy, creative, pothead white girls make for the most reliable weed connects & in my case enjoyable company & for some strange reason have a broader appeal & selection of music. If you're a brunette or a ginger and curvy & proud then that's awesome. I don't hate against blondes, but dark hair will catch my attention first.Am I biased? Perhaps, but life's too short, complicated, & filled with random bullshit for you to not have an idea of what you want out of life and people. Not that I discriminate, at my core I'm an equal opportunity person & I've dated every shade. Every color & culture has something unique to bring to the table, but if I'm going to be choosy, this is what I choose. Though if I looked at your page there must have been something I found interesting.

I like a person to feel comfortable in their own skin. Love to laugh & collaborate in the kitchen. You read comic books, do art , dig video games or want to talk politics, religion or the problems in he world today & wish to formulate a game plan to solve them... That plan must involve weed in some form. You're not afraid of brown people glasses. You understand and respect a quality beer.

You understand & respect my family life is mine and separate from my frugal social life. You understand that I'm not looking to be a love interest or be apart of a poly lifestyle ( my wife enjoys women as well, but we're about having a grounded family life for our kid) While, I admit I have a sensual nature & my profile would suggest it so, I'm very confident & reserved in it. I respect boundaries & adhere to them when it comes to female friends. You can count on me to be properly dressed, with manners & intelligent grounded conversation.

As it stands, my at home sex life is phenomenal & I'm really not pressed to go outside of it, if I was to entertain the possibility it would have to be permissible by the Mrs. who is normally of general agreement of the "don't ask don't tell unless you want to know protection always" policy. We don't pry in to each others' social lives & at the same time talk openly, but we know our priorities and respect the home unit. However, there are times where she may find someone I come across appealing as well and may be inclined to flirt, but is never one to overstep her bounds honestly. It's her excuse to get her friends with benefits fix with those that are willing & while she doesn't normally go for white girls, she does have the same preference for curvy girls and if you're a brunette & have that certain "something" she may ummm inquire, lol. This was a lot to absorb? Yeah, but if you read down this far, it's safe to say I have your attention.