In a nutshell you could say I'm the brown version of "The Dude" except I hold down a job, I suck a bowling, and I don't wear a bathrobe...& I shave pretty regularly, but only because I can't grow a full beard. I live in North Jersey & I travel between Philly, Maryland, NJ & NY often for work, friends & family, but when I have down time to myself I like to have it in Philly for the most part.
Physical-wise, the wife tries to keep me well fed. She's been trying to give me that teddy bear physique( think more Jerry Ferrara aka "Turtle" from Entourage before he got thinner) & I've been fighting her both tooth and nail about it. I work the treadmill and then she comes at me with baked lasagne. It's a vicious circle, but having lost 20 lbs, I think I'm winning the battle. That said, I'm no Ryan Gossling, but I'm not Kevin James big either. I don't think I'm a heartthrob, but same time, I'm not bad on the eyes.
I'm married with a child and I have a great home life. Adjusting to family life has been awesome for the most part. Parenting is a commitment that my wife and I are very proud of, but at the same time we miss our freedom. We are both very committed to each other, but we never fully adhered to monogamy & marriage didn't change that. We respect each others' boundaries, privacy and friends.
With that said, I'm not looking for just a causal lay. While that can be "fun" it's not the only purpose of my "free frolicking". I like to spend time with like minded friends. If you're free spirited, creative, 420 friendly and like to have engaging conversations about life and all the intricacies in it over a blunt, bong, joint or vaporizer, count me in. Foreign movies I enjoy & I don't mind reading subtitles. A good action movie or comedy. Give me new music to listen to & I will do the same. The club scene is long gone in my eyes. I enjoy the bar from time to time, but to hang out over a friends spot to toke, joke and perhaps whip up something in the kitchen is more ideal. After the night is done, I can hit the road or if you're a gracious host , I can surf the couch & in return make breakfast in the morning before I'm on my way. Sounds strange for some, but it is what it is & I does what I does. I'm the guy that will help you move in exchange for you getting me smoked out. I'm the guy that will help you design, cook create something you may think is cool.
I do drive so you can take comfort in the fact that if you did want to take the chance of meeting, I can meet you at a public place near you. You walk up. You see me. If you don't like what you see you can AGAIN, always take comfort in the fact that:
A. You can opt to be social still, sit down and have a cordial, respectable, conversation to further aid in making your decision to interact in any future way you see fit.
B. You decide it's not what you are looking for and go on your way with the comfort that you didn't have to go far to deal with a situation that didn't meet your expectations & can continue on your day fairly, un- hampered.
Either way I still get to go outside and enjoy some time out in my favorite city. No harm no foul.
I've always had more female friends than male. I find women to be more interesting than guys in terms of levels of conversation. You can get a deeper emotional perspective on issues from women on things than with a guy( blame it on the male macho effect).I've been labeled by many girls as the "I wish" & "it's a shame" guy. Meaning: I wish you weren't single or it's a shame you're taken. You can gain a lot of insight from talking with a lady without the sole objective of getting her pants, but her thoughts instead.
I'm not a big noise maker. I extrude calm as opposed to cool & that's how I carry myself. Cocky? Never. Assertive? Yes.
I'm the gray area between Booty Call & A Boyfriend. I know my role and I perform it well.