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47 M Edinburgh, UK

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

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Today – 8:42pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Spy. Dammit, not a spy. I am a bit of a geek, probably by mainstream standards, though it's not at all obvious (until you see my extensive collection of Merchant Ivory action figures). Lefty, libertarian and fairly cultured, and a simpler soul than I may appear. I'm most definitely arty, romantic, bright and a classic under-achiever in some people's terms. Though not on mine, and I never worked for the man! I'm not exactly svelte, though I'm fitter than I look. I love conversation - shameless gossip, deep political (& confusing) rants, or making fantastic plans, all equally worthy in my view. My humour is dry and a bit cynical, i like that in others too. I'd love to meet someone with a lot to say about lots of things. Like everyone, I have quiet times too, of course..
What I’m doing with my life
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Moving to change my career more toward the arts. Rearing my daughter. Keeping it together, wondering what the future will hold. Waiting for lightening to strike. Obsessively answering questions on here! I. Just. Can't. Stop.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Drawing, conversation, fixing things (cars, houses, drinks). Making people feel good about themselves. My Victoria sponge will make you my slave. Being funny, though not on here obviously.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair line receding (receded). No idea, never asked, probably that I'm friendly and interesting, it must be something like that because I'm a bit scruffy, and folk, they tend to stick around regardless. I suspect most of us have a very poor understanding of how others see us, and that you would know better than I do within minutes of meeting me than i have garnered from being me and possibly vice versa. Therein lies the magic of chemistry. Update* I asked someone and they said I was really nice. That sounds like damning with faint praise, but I guess it's positive, so I'm having it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Yes, I like all those things, just teasing. I really don't expect anyone to have the will to get through this lot, but something may catch your eye and who doesn't like compiling lists? Maybe the matching algorithm can make sense of this lot, I can't.

Food is easy, I like mostly all kinds of food. I am a carnivore (but can provide vegetarian options). Indian is lovely, I can do some simple Italian, I'm not Jamie, but I do have his book! Guilty secret time... I love a square sausage roll with melted cheese for breakfast - feel those arteries harden, yum. Naturally I can;t have this often. When it comes to drink, I make a mean martini, and I love Whisky (of choice Talisker). I never drink lager. Is this in some way helpful?

Reading: some favourites: Cloud Atlas, Wuthering Heights, The Incident of the Dog in the Nightime, Voodoo Science, Whoops! Richard Feynman. Anything by: Ian (+M) Banks, Kate Tempest, Thomas Hardy, Murakami, and er Twitter. I'm a slowish reader as I'm dyslexic but I love to read and this excuses all my bad spelling now.

Music, I like a lot of stuff and here's some, The Smiths, Tracey Thorn, Nick Drake, Tom Waits, King Creosote, Alabama 3, Belle and Sebastian, Divine Comedy, Dead can Dance, Dick Gaughan. I'm more Radio 6 than Radio 1 and R4 the rest of the time.

Cinema: Films are my favourite escape, I like all kinds of stuff from arthouse to quality blockbusters. Not a huge fan of the superhero stuff or of tacky horror, though there are a few exceptions, Kick Ass was a fun. Excellent cinematography is the key and have a spiffy projector on which to appreciate that aspect. In no particular order, Harold and Maude, Other Peoples Lives, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Etre et Avoir, Once upon a Time in America, The Secretary, As Good as it Gets, Days of Heaven, It Happened one Night, Safety Not Guaranteed, Silver Linings Playbook, Miller's Crossing, True Grit, Midnight in Paris. I love Linklater, Woody Allen, Ryan's daughter, Coen brothers. I hold a particular affection for 70's cinema, nostalgia probably. How about a pretentious themed film night, we could make out we were students in the 80's?

TV, I have no TV, in fact I hate mainstream TV, partly to do with adverts, but mostly because I was raised in the 70's where the background noise of a TV was compulsory. World of Sport, Corrie, Wish You Were Here, Pebble Mill at One, Argggh! Like all metro sexual sophisticates though I still actually watch Television, just on my iPad via iPlayer or Netflix, and gorging on HBO type box sets is my vice. If you can't watch an entire season over the weekend, you're not that committed frankly. Stuff I like, Breaking Bad (of course), The Bridge, Deadwood, Firefly, Mad Men and the trashier end like Homeland, 24, and True Blood. Buffy of course, which I watch with my daughter, (both enjoying it but on slightly different levels). Anything by Attenborough and a good BBC4 Storyville style doc, what more could you ask for?

When it comes to laughs, I love catching standup at the fringe, Rich Hall, Josie Long, John Hegley, Simon Munnery, Shappi Korsandi, Tim Vine, Tim Keys. Faveourite shows.. The Thick of It, Spaced, Flight of the Conchrords, Black Books, Green Wing, etc.

I love Art, and so I'll put in a few artists too, Caravaggio, Velasquez, Whistler, Singer Sargent, Burne Jones, Breughel, Stanley Spencer, Meredith Frampton, Hopper, Jenny Saville. Mostly I like figurative stuff!

This is just becoming a load of lists, so I'll stop now. I imagine it tells you something and probably labours the point, I'm perhaps not too good at being concise. But now you can't sue me when you find out I'm an old fart. I am very into being introduced to new things, sounds in particular, so don't write me off for being a bit out of touch there.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Women, not in a conquest way, I'm just not a man's man.
A decent nights sleep
Good conversation
Weekly walk up a hill
Time alone
Real Fire
The internet in general (ain't that the sad truth)
Camping near isolated beach
Oh, yeh, my daughter (13)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things I can't do much to change. Buying a VW camper, I sold a beautiful one a couple of years back, dumb idea.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing Flappy Bird apparently! But hopefully quaffing Martinis with friends and a good rant, but more likely watching a film or back to back episodes of some HBO box set till too late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Most people seem to take exception to this question and say you'll have to wait.. or some such. But I read it as what you're willing to admit, surely we all have something we'd proffer in a game of dares? For me, about as deep and revealing as I'm going to get here is... I've never had a one night stand. There, pretty dull really. But I think more interesting than, 'ask me when you meet me'.
You should message me if
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You get trapped in a cave with a giant spider, you have artists block, you're at a bit of a loss despite your full life. Would never dream of describing yourself as 'bubbly' or express a desire to engage in 'banter'. Beneath your cynical exterior you're more than a little romantic at heart. You're a massive geek.