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31 Raleigh, NC Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:09am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Chinese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hi, let's see ... my friends have described me as "goofy," "adorably dorky," and "Holy crap is he dancing or having a seizure?" I consider myself a pretty worldly guy, as I have both a globe *and* a map in my bedroom. In all seriousness, let me describe my ideal match, as my description will shed light on who I am much more effectively than me talking about myself directly - I want somebody who is diverse. I want a person who can go hiking in the mountains one weekend, and the next stay at home and watch movies ... somebody who can have an intelligent discussion about religion/philosophy/astronomy, and then go play video or card games. Somebody who can be goofy and fun one moment, and then discuss teaching in Africa the next. Somebody who embraces passion with me, but also wants her own space at times. Yep, I want a walking, talking paradox, because that's what I am ... Also, honesty, independence, passion, and optimism are huge turn-ons. Finally, I want to change the world for the better and would love to be with somebody who strives to do the same.
What I’m doing with my life
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I currently work at an NPO in Raleigh, where I am a job coach working with people who have intellectual/developmental disabilities, mental illness, brain injuries, and/or substance abuse. I'm also looking to go back to school next year. In what you ask? Good question.
I’m really good at
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eating cupcakes. And kissing. But mostly eating cupcakes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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are the red beard and pronounced hindquarters region (known colloquially as a "badonkadonk"). Also I'm nice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - America: The Book, Lamb, My Land and My People: The Autobiography of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, etc.

Movies - The Fountain (my fave), Dumb & Dumber, American Beauty, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Fight Club, etc.

Shows - Battlestar Galactica (the new one), Firefly, 30 Rock, Parks & Rec, Futurama, The League, etc.

Music - YES. Mumford & Sons, Avett Brothers, Jimmy Eat World, Weaver At The Loom, 30 Seconds to Mars, Iron & Wine, etc.

Food - Mexican, Italian, Chinese, American ... ok everything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-A purpose in life
-Helping others
-Cupcakes (seriously, they're tiny cakes ...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my future. Spirituality. Life. Death. Sex. Cupcakes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking a cold, frothy amber ale with a side of cupcakes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that I might have a cupcake problem.
You should message me if
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you're open-minded, smart, funny, independent, and generally awesome.