Anyway, I meet a lot of people out and about, through work, friends of friends, etc, so I thought I'd see where this avenue leads too as well. I'll be honest, I'm pretty skeptical about the whole thing, since so much of what makes up attraction is non verbal and physical, and relies of the slightest details of an interaction, as opposed to words exchanged through written messages. I mean, if you write a message to someone and it isn't read in the way it was intended, or if the tone was off, or it just got buried in a sea of other messages, then that connection could be lost. But if you bump into someone at a concert for example, a place you have shared interest, or at a lecture, or at Earth Day or whatever, there's more chance to explore the true nature of the other person, and see if there is some chemisty.
This whole "virtual courting" just seems a little contrived and odd to me. I realize there's a "safety" factor here too, where women, rightly so, are hesitant to meet someone in person they have only "met" online, without some initial, rudimentary exchange by email or phone. That makes sense, and I"ll do a little of that, but I'd rather meet someone in person sooner rather than later, in a public place or with friends if necessary, as apposed to endless one or two line email messages. Anyway, to each his own. A little about me: I grew up in England, spent some years in the East Coast, Holland and Spain, and now live and work in Santa Barbara.