What I’m doing with my life
Whenever I move to a new place, it takes me a week to adjust and
when the week is up, I get a lot of stuff done (with Dolores!) in
one day. That day is today. I moved for the third time in two
years, a week ago. I am given to flitting around taking care of
multiple things, so I'm editing this in fits and starts.
I’m really good at
(This will be filled out more later hopefully)
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people notice about me is that I have low
testosterone and my skin color does not match that of their
stereotype of a Latino person, nor does my accent. I have white
skin and a Canadian (Vancouver) accent despite not being from
there. I look a lot like my family members from Manizales,
The second is that if they don't speak Hebrew, my name is hard to
pronounce. I spell it out every time I introduce myself and explain
that it means "wolf" in Hebrew. My painful shyness also comes
through, and sometimes my sarcasm and tendency to interrupt when
excited. I am working to reduce or eliminate these things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite book is "Seven Types of Ambiguity" by Elliot Perlman.
I'm going to get up from the computer to rifle through my book
stacks and pick ones I like enough to make this list. Hang on.
Okay. I also like "The Reasons I Won't Be Coming" by Elliot
Perlman, and "Three Dollars" by Elliot Perlman. I have read all his
books. I disliked "Street Sweeper." My favorite comic book series
is "Dykes to Watch Out For" by Allison Bechdel. "We Have Always
Lived in the Castle" by Shirley Jackson is wonderful. I really
enjoyed "La Casa de Los Espiritus" by Isabel Allende (yes, I can
read Spanish). I read it in one sitting a few years ago.
Female stalker movies are totally my thing. You go onto TVTropes
and click "Stalker with a Crush," and I have seen over half the
movies. I can give detailed critique and talk about which ones on
the list I want to see and why. It shouldn't come as a surprise
that my favorite movie is "Swimfan." "Wicker Park" left a good
impression with me. "Phantom of the Opera" is a Broadway musical
with a male stalker, but yeah, second-favorite Broadway musical and
third-favorite movie (the 2004 version). I also have some Disney
movies in my DVD collection. "Hard Candy", a movie with Ellen Page,
is not a female stalker movie but is another favorite. "The East,"
another movie with her in it, really affected me.
I like the TV show "Criminal Minds" a lot and was a big fan of "Law
& Order: SVU" until it got boring in Season Eleven or around
there. "Dead Like Me" is awesome.
My three favorite Broadway musicals are "Phantom of the Opera,"
"Cats," and "Hairspray." "Cats" got me through paralegal school
emotionally, and it was mostly due to the reprise of the song
"Memory," the one that's nearly seven minutes long. My favorite
play is "Juvie" by Jerome McDonough. I can't say enough about how
great it is.
I don't listen to the radio very often, and I own few CDs, notably
Evanescence and Within Temptation. It lends to the stereotype. I
was goth from middle school to high school, and was bullied a lot
as a result (among other reasons). I still wear black and paint my
nails black. I'm into 80s rock, some 90s pop, Linkin Park, Fort
Minor, uh...yeah. Lindsey Sterling's cool.
My favorite meal is the Colombian version of a soup called
sancocho. Arroz con pollo is a staple for me. I really like sudo (I
know it means "sweat." I'm talking about the meal with potatoes and
chicken) but have never learned how to cook it. My favorite
vegetable is green beans, and my favorite fruit is blackberries. I
recently discovered bing cherries and can eat a lot of them in one
The six things I could never do without
Beyond the things which keep every human alive, the six things I
could never do without are my medications, good books,
intellectually stimulating media and people, my creativity and
means to express it, my faith and a way to observe it, and access
to good twelve-step meetings.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I have always spent a lot of time in my own head. Oftentimes, it's
nicer than my boring reality. Currently, I think a lot about my
anticipated future and how to make my reality better.
On a typical Friday night I am
On a typical Friday night, I am preparing to go synagogue the
following morning and wondering what debates the congregants and I
will get into after services. The debates range from outsourcing to
child-rearing to what we should do as a congregation and
individuals about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. I have attended
the same Reform congregation since forever, but since I just moved,
the commute has been harder. I talked to the clergy and they
recommended a synagogue for me to visit that is closer-ish. I made
it clear I would visit the original synagogue at least once a month
and for the High Holy Days and family yarzheits (duh), and I
thanked them for their recommendation. So, this Friday night, I
will be worrying about showing up to a new place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um, I should probably get this out of the way since it can be a
dealbreaker for people: I have a mental illness on the bipolar
spectrum, for which I have been on the same efficient medication
for eleven years. I was also diagnosed with clinical depression for
the second time two years ago. I refer to it as "I get really sick
sometimes." I "got really sick" when I was at university seven
years ago, as well. I refused medication because I was so ashamed
of the diagnosis, and I regret that.
I shall promptly scuttle into the nearest corner and fret over the
results of putting this on a dating profile.