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ikkin_gnilrad

28 F Los Angeles, CA

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
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Drugs
Religion
Sign
Gemini
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
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Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
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Speaks
English

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My self-summary
"marry me!"

but seriously, that would mean free healthcare for you and a green card for me. and love and a lifetime of adventures, if immigration is asking.

i'm an only child, too independent for my own good. looking to learn to share my me time with good rad people who can help me get over my case of commitmentphobia.
while i have commitment issues, i have the opposite of intimacy issues. i guess i'm trying to find a good middle ground--sharing some good coupley moments for longer than a second that mean more than nothing, but less than eternity. while i'm looking for something longer term, i'm not looking for something serious. ever. it should still be fun after all, right?

in short-- i wanna be adored by someone adorable, that i can adore, and be adorable with.
What I’m doing with my life
trying to save the world.
or at least make it a better place.

i give a shit about things and you should too. it is not cool to be too cool to give a shit.
I’m really good at
pretending to be american. being mistaken for mexican.
carving out my world in echo park.
wordplay.
eating messily.
napping.
bookclub.
being a bleeding heart without bleeding all over you.
inciting group hugs and happy birthday singing.
ingesting deathly spicy foods without breaking a sweat.
modesty.
The first things people usually notice about me
i look exactly like your asian friend _____.
i have a really good grasp of the english language.
you immediately feel so tall standing by me.
i've offended you somehow, but you're laughing so it's ok?
i have really pretty hair.
you can't tell if i'm being sarcastic or sincere. me neither.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
i like the book versions of movies better, and songs with movie titles, and books with song titles, and tv shows about food. leftovers and reruns are my jam.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how l.a. is simultaneously a neverland and an alwaysland and can i stop being a tinkerbell and ever be a wendy?
On a typical Friday night I am
avoiding weekend warriors.

going out during the week is way more fun. as is keeping it chill during the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i like hipsters.
but only ironically.

please, don't tell anyone.

less ironically, i have a major case of relationship aspergers, complicated by my simultaneous commitmentphobia and intimacy mania. i have no clue what i'm doing or what you're doing. and i will never get why, though i may try to hazard a guess. and frankly, i'm ok with it because i like determining my own rules-- i'm not interested in having relationships like every other out there, even if what i desire is something longer term.

my biggest challenge is finding other people that are endeared to my aspyness that i find endearing as well. i tend to attract guys that preempt my interest by stating 'i'm not interested in a relationship' in response to my mere communication with them. for the longest time, my thought response was 'me neither, i just wanted some fun!' but now i've had way too much fun at the expense of something more substantive and consistent, so now i'm looking for more of that... but still fun of course, duh.

my next biggest challenge is trying to figure out how to sustain connections longterm without taking things too seriously (or rather, preemptively freaking out about things getting too serious when 'serious' is the last thing i want things to be). how does it happen? (not a rhetorical question.)
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
you can give me hope for the world. no pressure. just tell me what you're doing to make the world a better place.

and/or
you have a similar mild case of relationship aspergers and want to [co]write (y)our own rules.

and/or
you want to co-found a creative collective, where i write while you do whatever it is that makes you happy.

and/or
you are a traveler. an international, more specifically. it's nice to be reminded of non-american ideologies. and the accents are more charming.

and if you got balls. and know how to use em.

but not
if you wanna make plans to hang out without seeing if we have any sorta intellectual (dare i say emotional?) foundation for enjoying each other's company. it's the chemistry litmus test, i know. but those are easy to cheat on, so let's study each other first k?

ps
i'm down to meet people who can pique my interest and engage me, but i am not actively seeking. i don't have time for more revolving door relationships that seem endemic to l.a. so i may not respond if that's the vibe i get. i'm probably not even going to click on you if you don't write anything that clicks with me. but i commend you for trying. good luck!

this is the most high maintenance i'll ever get. promise.